loveher Posted March 26, 2011 Share Posted March 26, 2011 alright so ive been with my girlfriend for two and a half years and i do everything i can to make her happy. after our disagreement tonight i realized there was a problem, and it wasnt with me like she usually says. another thing is she is always cranky and i do my best to keep her happy but they second i am having a bad dy its an automatic fight for majority of the day. i appologize non stop for everything i do that she doesnt like but she will never appologize for what shes done wrong, today it was calling out everyone of my friends and say that they are losers. she also went on to say that i am too easy going and that she hates it. i give her her way with everything and now im to the point where i just want to be appreacated all i want to do is make her happy and i cant even do that. can anyone help me Link to post Share on other sites
Hazel_eyes Posted March 26, 2011 Share Posted March 26, 2011 I'm sorry, but unfortunately no matter how hard you try you can't make someone happy who just isn't willing to be happy. I learned this the hard way, but with my mother in law. I, just like you, bent over backwards to constantly attempt to make her happy. Nothing is ever good enough, everything is always my fault. And she spends every day reminding her husband just how worthless he is and that everything bad in life is his fault. Do you want a marriage potentially like this? They have been married 25 years, and my father in law is one of the most broken men you will ever meet. Think of future children as well. My husband's mother almost takes glee in making him feel like crud when she is having a bad day. Your girlfriend's unhappiness is her own fault. She chooses to be the way she is. I'm sorry but going around letting people know they are 'losers' is immature and a sign of a severely unhappy individual. I personally think that it would be best to end the relationship. I've seen what a person like this can do to a man, and have experienced it first hand, as you have. You deserve better. I think any girl would be lucky to have a boyfriend so focused on wanting to please her, and you deserve a girlfriend who will appreciate that and reciprocate it as well. Link to post Share on other sites
slehcar Posted March 26, 2011 Share Posted March 26, 2011 She sounds incredibly selfish. I agree with Hazel_eyes. I think the best thing you can do is break it off and move on. I can think of plenty of women who would die to have a man who just wanted to make them happy. Torturing yourself by trying to make the stubbornly cranky girl happy isn't fair to you, and unnecessary when there are so many other available (and please-able) girls out there! Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted March 26, 2011 Share Posted March 26, 2011 Aak yourself if you want to keep repeating this vicious cycle for the rest of your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted March 26, 2011 Share Posted March 26, 2011 Wow, if I didn't know better I would say this is my 20 year old self writing this. That relationship was a disaster but I learned plenty. OP get out of that relationship now. It will only get worse. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveher Posted March 26, 2011 Author Share Posted March 26, 2011 thank you for all of your help expecially Hazel_eyes. i some times feel as if leaving would be the eaisest way to make my self happy but i also am very attached to her and feel as if leaving would be the easy way out is this normal. ps this is my first serious relationship so everything is new to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Woman In Blue Posted March 26, 2011 Share Posted March 26, 2011 Son, you need to read the "Bitch" book. It's written for women ("Why Men Love Bitches") but you CLEARLY could benefit from it. She doesn't RESPECT you. And why doesn't she respect you? Because she sees you as a wishy-washy pansy, that's why. Most women tend to respect Alpha Males - I'm not talking about cave dwellers who drag women around by their hair mind you, but men who are MEN and don't let anyone steamroll them. The kind of man who commands respect wherever he goes, takes control of a situation if need be, knows where he's going and why he's going there, and shows gentleness and kindess in his everyday demeanor. She doesn't respect you because you don't have ANY of those traits. You kind of sound like a simpering little fraidy cat whose jumping through hoops to try to constantly please her. BIG, HUGE, COLLASSAL MISTAKE. I don't respect men who act like sissies, either. I don't respect a man I can boss around. It's quite obvious she wears the pants in this relationship and she's as much as SAID that she can't stand how "easygoing" you are (read: ball-less). Sorry, but if you spend your day apologizing for every action you've made and desperately seeking approval, NO WOMAN is going to respect you. Man up dude. Seriously. Sprout a set. I guarantee that this is just going to keep happening no matter HOW many relationships you have. Because women aren't going to respect you. Take that to the bank. Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveher Posted March 28, 2011 Author Share Posted March 28, 2011 this advice ^ might actually work i tried backing off a little today and just let her ramble on and told her to go home, later on the phone was ringing with her saying sorry.. i am starting to like the way this is going hah. thank you for the advice. Link to post Share on other sites
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