SweetVixen07 Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 [font=arial][/font]I am a very attractive (from what people have told me on a daily basis) 17 year old with a great personality. I have had a hard time finding a date for the last two years because I think boys are intimidated by me by my looks. I really am looking for a date and potential b/f. The one and only guy I wanted to go with has a g/f now...and so I am back at square one. I noticed this one guy about a week ago. I don't know his name so I just refer to him as "Luscious," b/c he just looks so good. All I know is that he runs track and that I think he is gorgeous!! We had a school assembly volleyball game and he was with a bunch of guys I knew and have had some issues (bad situations) with in the past. He sat on the other side of the bleachers and a little above me. Every now and then I would glance over to where he was...there was a time when he glanced at me or at least in my general area. As we were exiting the gymnasium, he was walking right behind me singing/humming and then he was on my side by the time we got to the doorway to get to the hallway. Believe me I just wanted to fall on him...but I did not have the confidence to flirt with him in anyway...considering I didn't even know him and vice versa. Plus this semi-ugly girl came up grabbed his hand and began casually holding hands..but I don't think it was a g/f. Well now I won't be able to see him for a week cuz we have SPRING BREAK...I really want to get to know this guy when I return to school but I don't know how to go about breaking the ice...Esp when I really don't see him that often around school and we don't have classes together. The only time I see him is from the window when he is on the track. I have a few guy associates that are on track and could probably put in a word for me, but I don't know if they would be a reliable source..but hey you never know. I don't know when to actually introduce myself to him b/c when I do see him it seems like bad timing and I have no idea what to say...what should I do!? Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 it sounds like he has a girlfriend. back down. i'm sure you'll find another, untaken, guy soon enough, and one that will come to you instead of you chasing him through his friends. also, i can't speak for teenage boys, but you might want to watch the catty stuff. (calling another girl ugly, foregrounding statements with boasts of your own attractiveness.) very few people find this an admirable trait in people. what kind of situations did you have with his friends? Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 Just go talk to him. Link to post Share on other sites
capitald Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 yeah, you are allowed to talk to him. I would just caution you about going after someone who you know is taken. Its not a very nice thing to do. A very bad way to improve your karma. addition: oops jenny popped in their before me somehow and said the same thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 i dont think this guy is taken, she said she liked someone, then their is this guy and she is at square one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SweetVixen07 Posted April 3, 2004 Author Share Posted April 3, 2004 I don't think he has a g/f because I saw this one other chick all over him...But I do respect people's relationship...I would never try to break up someone's relationship just to satisfy my own desire. Plus I am not going to approach someone until I do my research and find out what type of person he is. That's why I am going to talk to people that he is on the track team with just to find out info. But like I said it doesn't seem like he has a g/f...you have to remember that it is high school and people openly flirt with one another and some girls are more aggressive than others. Trust me on that one Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 o, ok. why not talk to him directly to find out what kind of guy he is? that's better research what happened with you and his friends? (i respect your privacy if you don't want to answer, but it was an intriguing detail) Link to post Share on other sites
capitald Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 I no longer feel like I need to reply on this thread, its seems like jenny has this one in the bag, go jenny!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Renny_H Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 Obviously he’s gay if he won’t approach you, sweetheart. The gorgeous ones always are. Sigh. So keep the mystery, Sweetvixen. Work on flirting first, checking whether he’s taken. Create opportunities to get near him. You approach him outta the blue, he’ll know you’re weakened by his appearance alone and he’ll think he has the power to string you along. Be restrained and make eye contact. He’ll get the idea, and if you are indeed attractive, he’ll approach. If he doesn’t, he’s not available. I doubt flirting at your school is THAT aggressive. What does that mean exactly? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SweetVixen07 Posted April 3, 2004 Author Share Posted April 3, 2004 Let me explain the guy that I am diggin right now probably does not hang out with them on a daily basis b/c I have never really seen them together till Friday afternoon. But anyway, I liked one of the guys in the group (group as in about 30 guys) at the end of last school year and I swear they questioned me all the time and it wasn't even any of their business. They made fun of me b/c I had gave their friend my number and walked away quickly... They even went as far as calling my house and making fun of me. They basically humiliated me and I feel scarred from the situation. It made me lose confidence in actually introducing myself to any guy. Not only that I asked one of the guys in the group that I thought was a good friend to me to be my date for homecoming just this past October and he said he was "busy." Then when I started talking to some other guy he was all overly concerned about me hooking up with someone he knew. It seems like all the guys at that school hang out with each other and its hard to screen out the ones that I might actually be compatiable with. I feel every time I become interested in someone they butt in and ruin it for me. Its like their jealous that I have not shown interest in some of them. So most of the time if I like some I don't even approach them weird huh? I FEEL like they're a bunch of BIG Brothers!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author SweetVixen07 Posted April 3, 2004 Author Share Posted April 3, 2004 All the girls are pretty aggressive not saying that I haven't been that way at one particulary time. But I see it.. just judging from all the girls my brother deals with on a daily basis... Link to post Share on other sites
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