orangelady Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 Just wondering........if there actually is any single male on the Internet who are not all unemployed? (not meant to be insulting but genuinely curious) Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 Bruce Boxleitner is single now, I'm sure he's on the internet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author orangelady Posted March 29, 2011 Author Share Posted March 29, 2011 Oh come on.......................... Was it really a bad question? I'm serious. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross PK Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 I'm unemployed and I've been single for the whole of my life. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 Was it really a bad question? Yes it was a pretty silly one. There are people on the internet in every single situation that you can possibly think of. I could ask is there a one-legged gay midget on the internet and the answer would be yes, somewhere, there probably is. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 Just wondering........if there actually is any single male on the Internet who are not all unemployed? (not meant to be insulting but genuinely curious) Are you conducting a social Poll, or looking for a date? Either way, it's probably the wrong internet forum.... And yes - it's a stupid question, in that perhaps you might like to rephrase and expand..... Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 I'm unemployed and I've been single for the whole of my life. Unemployment is a huge red flag for women, especially long term unemployment. Women want someone who can be an equal partner in a relationship and contibute to building a life together, not someone they'll have to carry financially. Getting a job is probably the single best thing you could do to improve your attractiveness. To answer the OP: I found that a significant number of men on dating sites turned out to be unemployed, but there were a few who appeared to have decent jobs. I was on a dating site and I have a job, so it's equally likely to find employed men on there too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author orangelady Posted March 29, 2011 Author Share Posted March 29, 2011 Are you conducting a social Poll, or looking for a date? Either way, it's probably the wrong internet forum.... And yes - it's a stupid question, in that perhaps you might like to rephrase and expand..... No not a social poll or a date. I guess I'm stupid. I don't know how else I could rephrase it or expand it without getting called stupid or silly. What I mean is, can not having a job/money stop two people from being together? I think it does. Especially when one doesn't want to have a job. Shoot me for genuinely asking. Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 What I mean is, can not having a job/money stop two people from being together? I wouldn't date an unemployed person, if that's what you mean. I'd make allowances if he was obviously a smart guy but was temporarily unemployed and actually trying to find a job. But no way would I date someone who was long term unemployed and not even trying to find work. I want an equal partner; I don't want to support someone else. I once dated an unemployed guy and dumped him after four months when it became clear that he wasn't even attempting to find work. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross PK Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 Unemployment is a huge red flag for women, especially long term unemployment. Women want someone who can be an equal partner in a relationship and contibute to building a life together, not someone they'll have to carry financially. Getting a job is probably the single best thing you could do to improve your attractiveness. To answer the OP: I found that a significant number of men on dating sites turned out to be unemployed, but there were a few who appeared to have decent jobs. I was on a dating site and I have a job, so it's equally likely to find employed men on there too. When I used to work it made no difference. Link to post Share on other sites
Author orangelady Posted March 29, 2011 Author Share Posted March 29, 2011 When I used to work it made no difference. Why? There are many reasons why some people don't get dates huh. Have you asked the women why? Link to post Share on other sites
Ross PK Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 (edited) Why? There are many reasons why some people don't get dates huh. Have you asked the women why? I've not asked women in real life, no. Would be nice to try and get an opinion from a decent amount of women, who know me or have at least seen me in real life what it seems to be about me, that makes no women sexually attracted to me though. Well, I did mention my problem to a woman doctor who is around my age once, and she said there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with you, you just need more confidence. I can't see it being down to that or being as simple as that. Edited March 29, 2011 by Ross PK Link to post Share on other sites
Author orangelady Posted March 29, 2011 Author Share Posted March 29, 2011 I wouldn't date an unemployed person, if that's what you mean. I'd make allowances if he was obviously a smart guy but was temporarily unemployed and actually trying to find a job. But no way would I date someone who was long term unemployed and not even trying to find work. I want an equal partner; I don't want to support someone else. I once dated an unemployed guy and dumped him after four months when it became clear that he wasn't even attempting to find work. Yeah I know what you mean. I was very very hurt and stressed by this particular one man who said he suffers from depression because of his ex wife cheating on him and taking his daughter with her. With that, he did not work for 2 years. Worse of all, it's a long distance online relationship. He agreed he has to find a job but doesn't seem to do anything about it. He only went for one interview, didn't get it and didn't try anymore. Instead, he is doing this online web based project which generates no income or paycheck unless the business is 'successful' which I thought was a bad idea. I have offered to visit him in his country, but he refused. Everyday I have to remind him about looking for work. It is a big issue because he uses it as an excuse for not seeing me at all and says he needs a job. I don't think he is ever going to find a job. His govt gives him a certain amount of money for unemployment every month and he moved back with his parents. What makes me think he would really find a job? Because of me? Right...I have wasted a year over over this and it still stings me............ Link to post Share on other sites
Author orangelady Posted March 29, 2011 Author Share Posted March 29, 2011 I've not asked women in real life, no. Would be nice to try and get an opinion from a decent amount of women, who know me or have at least seen me in real life what it seems to be about me, that makes no women sexually attracted to me though. Well, I did mention my problem to a woman doctor who is around my age once, and she said there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with you, you just need more confidence. I can't see it being down to that or being as simple as that. Well, I don't know how you can get opinions from them but I guess you can ask some female friends of yours who are close to you. Well believe me, confidence seem to be a REALLY big issue even among women. Men always complain that they like confident women. I think it's true to some extent but I always think it boils down to the sexual attraction at the end of the day. I've seen girls who are almost always 'psycho' mentally, no confidence but yet attractive have a queue of men lining up for them. I think for a woman, as long as she is hot and attractive, irregardless of whether she has brains or confidence, she will have no problems getting dates or finding someone. However, for a man, I think it really DOES make a difference if you have confidence. I've seen men who aren't attractive or very bright, but have confidence, and they just seem to have a lot of female friends who likes to hang around them and are interested in them.... Correct me if I am wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 The internet is the worst place to look for an SO. You have to find a place where the guy you want hang after work, and work from that pool. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross PK Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 Well, I don't know how you can get opinions from them but I guess you can ask some female friends of yours who are close to you. Well believe me, confidence seem to be a REALLY big issue even among women. Men always complain that they like confident women. I think it's true to some extent but I always think it boils down to the sexual attraction at the end of the day. I've seen girls who are almost always 'psycho' mentally, no confidence but yet attractive have a queue of men lining up for them. I think for a woman, as long as she is hot and attractive, irregardless of whether she has brains or confidence, she will have no problems getting dates or finding someone. However, for a man, I think it really DOES make a difference if you have confidence. I've seen men who aren't attractive or very bright, but have confidence, and they just seem to have a lot of female friends who likes to hang around them and are interested in them.... Correct me if I am wrong. I don't have any female friends. About the confidence thing though, confidence in what exactly? Link to post Share on other sites
Author orangelady Posted March 29, 2011 Author Share Posted March 29, 2011 The internet is the worst place to look for an SO. You have to find a place where the guy you want hang after work, and work from that pool. If only there were actually men that are not gay, taken, married or "I"m not interested in relationships" that hang after work in real life. Sorry, I'm new here. What is an "SO"? Link to post Share on other sites
Ross PK Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 Significant Other. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 If only there were actually men that are not gay, taken, married or "I"m not interested in relationships" Dang, 3 out of 4, not bad Link to post Share on other sites
Author orangelady Posted March 29, 2011 Author Share Posted March 29, 2011 I don't have any female friends. About the confidence thing though, confidence in what exactly? Oh. Join a group that is sure to have ladies. How about salsa? Act like women actually want you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author orangelady Posted March 29, 2011 Author Share Posted March 29, 2011 Dang, 3 out of 4, not bad gay, taken and not interested? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 Sorry, I'm new here. What is an "SO"? OP, here is a FAQ to some of LS's 'verbiage': http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t228723/ Link to post Share on other sites
Ross PK Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 Oh. Join a group that is sure to have ladies. How about salsa? Act like women actually want you. I'm not sure how to act as though they want me, but I know that I used to believe they wanted me. But obviously that didn't make any difference. After years and years of women never showing interest, of being rejected, and even being called ugly by girls who were ugly themselves, I came to the realisation that I'm not actually wanted. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 I'm not sure how to act as though they want me, but I know that I used to believe they wanted me. But obviously that didn't make any difference. After years and years of women never showing interest, of being rejected, and even being called ugly by girls who were ugly themselves, I came to the realisation that I'm not actually wanted. Jeepers! Your strategy involves not asking anyone. Does the "expecting a woman to fall from the sky" manouever really get you the results you want? Have you ever planned a party? Have you ever planned a party and sent out no invitations and wondered why no one showed up? That is your dating life. You have a nice party all lined up and no one invited. Seems that the solution is obvious: Go out and invite people until someone shows up! Link to post Share on other sites
Ross PK Posted March 29, 2011 Share Posted March 29, 2011 (edited) Jeepers! Your strategy involves not asking anyone. Does the "expecting a woman to fall from the sky" manouever really get you the results you want? Have you ever planned a party? Have you ever planned a party and sent out no invitations and wondered why no one showed up? That is your dating life. You have a nice party all lined up and no one invited. Seems that the solution is obvious: Go out and invite people until someone shows up! But they're not interested. I wouldn't even know how to go out and invite people anyway. Edited March 29, 2011 by Ross PK Link to post Share on other sites
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