All about DebraLee

[DebraLee]

I am new to this board but have gotten around here and there. I love the board and it has started to become one of my daily reutine.

 

I was thing that I should probably tell you all more about myself so that maybe I can find some lasting connections with people and make some friends. God nows I need some!

 

Any WHO, I am 32 years old, divorced and re-married just this past Dec 22. I have lived in PA for all my life and was raised as a Jehovah's Witness.

I later met a kid that was accepted as a witness and started dating him with tons of problems with his controlling mother fromt he start.

We dated for about 4 years and got married. During our relationship dating I had to have several abortions. (Please dont get all outraged with me over this) and we dated on and off. WE really had a love hate relationship.

 

NOw 3 months after we got married I found out I was pregnant. All of a sudde it had to be some great big secret and came to find out he didn't know if he was ready to be a father. I told him that he had no choice because I felt there was no excuses then. (JW and getting in trouble scared me at the time)

 

NOw we have our son and he starts not being at home, working late, going to nude bars, getting drunk, calling me in the middle of the night in a stuper, not coming home and feeling he did this all for his family to advance in the Company. LAMO...anyHOW..huuuu I end up very depressed and my mother (not by blood) ends up dieing. I start taking Paxil for Anxiety attacks.

 

My brother at this time was working with my Ex husband and they became good friends but very competitive with one another.

Another guy named Jef worked there too. He invited my ex and I to a Halloween party he was having at his house.

My ex and I got in a big fight and went seperately. When we got there he introduces me as his soon to be Ex Wife. Well, then everything after that went south. Jef who is also married ends up trying to get medrunk and then I get nutty and start showing skin. I wasn't naked and no I didnt bare my breast or anything. I showed them my thigh highs and underwear cuz I had a dress on.

 

Then Jef starts calling me at my house asking me to meet for Coffee and stuff. Like a bimbo that Iwas I started seeing him.

My brother found out and told us both to stop and we did for awhile but then started back up.

Then I file for divorce and my Ex finds the papers and tells me to leave but I cant take my son with me. Thinking that I had the upper had since I filed a Custudy petition also in the Divrocee Petition.

DUMB DUMB DUMB!

 

He goes and files and in the long run I find out the lawyer I paid never filed MINE. Then comes the games. Now I cant pick up my son from Daycare that I put him in and my 2 year old is suddenly "too busy".

 

Well, I ended up moving in with Jef after his divorce. Found out he was a control freek..very strange man. He had me jaked up against a wall once by my coat and feet off the ground.

 

I met my current husband at that time through a blind date some one had me go out on. He has 3 girls. We all so stuff like go to the shore and things and yes this is while I was still living with Jef.

 

Finally I decide I eed a better life then this and move on with My husband to be. We live together for 3 months and bomo bamo Im pregnant..we were very happy. It was a boy. We got engaged and got married.

 

Now I am an Ex Witness because the local Elders came to Jef's house and I wuld not talk to them so they disfellowshiped me.

My brother ceased all contact from me since I was divorced. My mother taks to me on the phone now but my Dad barely speaks to me. During all of this my father ends up in the hospital for severe depression.

 

SInce all of that my parents have put added pressure on me to come back to the faith so that they can do things with us and stuff. This week is Memorial so of course I have had to deal with that this week.

 

My h now has an ex wife who is an alcoholic and the girls have been through hell since they have lived with her.

 

My 16 year old iwho was a Cheerleader adn in Competitions, college material step daughters now pregnant. Which I find out 3 moths before our wedding.The other 2 have just moved in . The girls are involved in Soccer and track so I run them around since we live in a different school district.

I just won custudy after a 6 year battle for him back. But wont be officail until September.

 

So there you have my background. Whooa that was alot.

[moimeme]

Wow, girl! You have had one heck of a life! It's to your credit that you're still hanging in. You'll find lots of people here who have also made it through rough lives. LS is a great place for support when things start to get to you - so welcome and I hope you enjoy your stay!

[Darkangelism]

Originally posted by moimeme

so welcome and I hope you enjoy your stay!

 

 

What is the a hotel? jk, i am just being a pain, but anyway, welcome.

[carla]

Wow. Nice to meet you and know you. Welcome to LS. Most people don't usually reveal so much about them selves right off the bat. But that's ok. You've been though alot. Good Luck with your new marriage. Wow at 32 your going to be a step grandmother. ouch! I hope you can try to make up for what you missed with your son.

As for the witness (just my opinion) I don't think it's right that a church can disown you from being one of their followers, if you have the same beliefs you are a follower, if they disown you b/c they feel you sinned, I sorry but they are being hipacritical. Isn't God suppost to forgive all sinners? Unless they are god they have no right to judge you.

Anyway if you have any questions or need advise this is the place to be. We have some really great people on this site. Welcome aboard.

[Arabess]

Maybe we should consider 'bio-pages'. I would like to read about everyone!!! Ofcourse, I'm terribly NOSEY!

 

That's for sharing all that Debra!!!!!