Doodled Posted March 30, 2011 Share Posted March 30, 2011 (edited) I'll make it brief. This girl and I went out for two months. Our relationship was very flash in the pan. Hot and heavy and over quickly. The reason she gave me when I confronted her (sensing she was not interested anymore) was a variation of the old "it's me not you" line. We never had a fight and the split was very neat and clean. Its now been three months since break up. Afterwards I went NC simply to get beyond her and move on. However she continued for the first two months to contact about insignificant things about once a week. However I think this quit when she realized she was the only one making an effort at contact (I'm the type of guy who only gives each girl one shot). Here is my issue though: we see each other at least once a week at school because we have the same class and often times we pass each other at school as well. Every time I ignore her granted I'm not face to face (I'm not a jerk). However, she always and I mean every time makes a point to come over to me and say hi and hug me. The past few weeks she has gone beyond this and literally sits by me and flirts with me. My question is how can I get her to stop without being a jackass about it? Like I said we are truly on great terms and never have had any sort of bad blood between us. I care for her although would not go back with her and it bugs me when she insists on hanging around and flirting with me. What does she want? She wanted to break up so why won't she leave me alone? Not so brief I guess but that's the just of things. Haha. Edited March 30, 2011 by Doodled Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted March 30, 2011 Share Posted March 30, 2011 She had chosen to break up with you, therefore whatever she is doing to you now is just messing with you head. Seek self healing if not you will only be stuck in the period of being confused of what she is thinking. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Doodled Posted March 30, 2011 Author Share Posted March 30, 2011 Thank you an your right. I can't deny that it would be an ego boost if she wanted to get back together however I would turn her down no matter what. I'm very strict with my rule of no second chances and believe a clean slate is always better then a dirty one. So when it comes to the question of "does she want me back or not" I'm not terribly interested. What I want to know is how to make her get the message that I'm done with her completely. All of this contact is totally and completely initiated by her. I just find it insulting to flirt and compliment and touch and just be around someone you dumped. I have not ever subjected any of the girls I've dumped to this. When its over it's over. Go find someone else to get attention from. Any suggestions on how to get this message across? I don't mind saying hi but after that buzz off woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted March 30, 2011 Share Posted March 30, 2011 You are a strong guy To me, just tell her that you are done with her straight on her face. Which means, not hugging and those flirting actions with her. Seriously, what on the hack is in her mind? Link to post Share on other sites
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