isthislife Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 I have been always loyal to my W and most of the times i have done more than what is expected from me. Whatever i do my W feels like I am doing with compulsion. I am really fed-up I am not ready to quit this marriage yet but its un-believable what more test do i need do, to prove that i care for her. In the start of our of marriage i was doing from my heart and love.But lately I find no love for her. All i do is not to hurt her. She talk to her mother more often than she talk to me thats a situtation. I am sure where this marraige will go. I have daughter 1 year old and I love her. I have never seen a single instance when my wife did anything for me. She never listens to me what i ask her request her, but if that same thing is asked by her MOM or DAD its done instantly.. I am fed-up. Everytime she complains about my family myself but if same mistakes are done by her family she has 100 reasons to say its not their mistake. What Shall i do.. I feel no love for her anymore. If you feel neglected and are treated like an object even If you give 200% for her . how do you think one should feel. I am not sure what was my mistake all this time. I have given all my best shots i could but she still is suspicious, she think I doing out of compulsion. one thing there is no reason that she doubts me in terms or any extra marital affair neither she is in some that I know but somehow she feels that this marraige is kind of curse, bec after marriage things didn;t happen as she wanted, in terms of her health and career. I use to motivate her to do something better but she blames it on stars, she feel she doesn;t have got ideal in-laws, or ideal marriage , basically she feels its kind of curse. Before marraige i was happy man never ever I had kept grudge on anyone,Always jolly but lately I am so stressed out , I can not sleep, always I am judged , Help me!!!! how to tacke this. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 What do you want to do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author isthislife Posted March 31, 2011 Author Share Posted March 31, 2011 What shoul I do tell her that I am sincere Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 What shoul I do tell her that I am sincere You havn't told her yet? Link to post Share on other sites
HeartShineGirl Posted May 7, 2011 Share Posted May 7, 2011 Chose to be happy. That's the best advice that I can give you. You must weigh happiness and unhappiness and decide to chose happiness. This is more than just a choice, it's a belief, an idea in your mind, a thought that propels you forward in life. You said that you don't love her anymore, did you mean that? Can you live the rest of your life being with a woman who feels that being with you has been a curse? If the things that you do are not making her happy and she thinks you are doing it out of compulsion as you put it then really that is her belief. Even if you are sincere, she is unhappy with the situation and by this post I feel you are too. Do you want to try for another 25 years with her making you feel like you never did good enough or do you want to move on and start over with someone who will love every little thing that you do? Life is hard, but giving it up to someone else for so long and being unhappy is a choice that we sometimes don't realize we don't have to make. My advice: Be happy.... if your marriage is unhappy already, then the signs are there that it's not a "happy" marriage. Why stay? Link to post Share on other sites
The Great Gazoo Posted May 7, 2011 Share Posted May 7, 2011 IMO you have a one year old, maybe try to rekindle some of the fire first? Maybe try counselling? Link to post Share on other sites
y2k Posted May 7, 2011 Share Posted May 7, 2011 Take some time off without thinking or even caring about her and show that to her. If after two-three months you still feel no love for your wife, then DIVORCE. You might find another woman that can make you happy. And about your one-year old, just know that you can be a father whether the one-year-old's mother is your love, or another woman is. Being in a love-less marriage "for the sake of the kids" is the worst idea ever and it's a disaster waiting to happen. Go find happiness if this woman isn't giving it to you BUT make sure to separate from her first. Link to post Share on other sites
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