socrgirl Posted April 4, 2004 Share Posted April 4, 2004 My boyfriend and I had been dating for about 7 months. Things were going really great - we had an instant connection and were talking about getting married. We both knew we had met the person we wanted to grow old with. Beginning of October I came back from a business trip and couldn't get in contact with him. 2 weeks later, I received an email stating that he needed time to get his personal life straightened out. He said he needs to figure out how he loves me. When I do talk to him, I ask if we should break up and he says that he doesn't know. The most I can get out of him is that he doesn't want to loose me forever. Other than that, He doesn't really want to talk about this - and we aren't arguing about anything, so it's just so odd. Therefore, I guess 5 months later, I am starting to come to terms with the whole thing just because he isn't around and I should move on with life. I did email him and tell him I wanted the rest of my stuff back. I figured that when he does come over, I could officially break up with him. It's been 3 weeks and he still hasn't returned my stuff. I am just a mess. The rug was pulled out from under me and I just don't know what to do. I still love him and don't want to loose him, but I also need to make a decision that is right for me. What should I do? Any Advise? How come does he not want to talk about this? I desperately need closure, otherwise I can't move on with my life. Link to post Share on other sites
overseas2004 Posted April 4, 2004 Share Posted April 4, 2004 He does not want to talk to you because he lacks the courage to tell you that he is through with you. He still may want to hold onto the idea of you maybe in the future. And he has accomplished putting you on hold very well. You definately should not allow this. If you need your stuff back... go and get it. I am assuming you know where he lives and tell him that it is over. You will not be waiting for him in the future. People who love each other do not do these things to each other... Let him go.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author socrgirl Posted April 5, 2004 Author Share Posted April 5, 2004 thanks for the message. i'm going to see him tomorrow, end things and start moving on with my life. it's going to be rough, but hopefully i'm making the right decisions. Link to post Share on other sites
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