Am I tired of being manipulated, or maybe I'm jealous?

[whirling in circles]

Totally confused. I'm living in an apartment now, I thought it was a rental but then I found out last minute the friend who was moving away was only going to sublet it to me. But she didn't know if she was coming back or not. She left her furniture and plants there and when I said wasn't interested in the place anymore, she told me she couldn't handle all the stress because she just had an abortion. Then she left. I have no papers.

 

5 months later, she comes back and lets me know that she's not moving back into the apartment, she's moved onto my boyfriend's grandparents farm, where there's a trailer set up for her and she can do her farming. My boyfriend and I knew about that already: he's very fond of her and introduced her to his grandparents, they are letting her live on the land.

 

Anyway, a couple of weeks later, the lease is still not transferred to me and this person is away at my boyfriend's grandparents farm. Then she starts emailing me about how she can't take her furniture back right now, can I please look after the stuff for her until she doesn't know when? She offered to sell me some stuff, then after we agreed on a couple of items, she decided against it.

 

So I invite her to breakfast to clear up the air and she needs to get some of her smaller things anyway. As always, she hits it off with my boyfriend, I'm busy serving them breakfast, not getting a word in edgewise. My boyfriend and I learn that my friend is not living in the trailer, she's house-sitting for a neighbor (rent free). When my boyfriend asks what she intends to do over the winter, she says that his grandparents have consented to letting her and her boyfriend move into their home (they live in an old folks home). My boyfriend is delighted for her. I ask my boyfriend to wash the dishes, he tells me to rinse them first, I walk out.

 

Now this person refuses to sign over the lease because she says she's afraid that I'll get rid of her furniture: she wants to move her furniture first (but doesn't know when). I've since filled in my boyfriend on the difficulties I've been having getting a lease off of this person, and my frustration at being manipulated into looking after her stuff when my stuff is still in storage. He seems to think that she's angry at me for walking out, which is why she's withholding the lease (more). I got fed up and found another place. But then I wanted to know why this person said she was afraid I would wreck her furniture. How strange. I looked it up and it turns out that this is jealous behavior. Has she discussed this theory of hers with my boyfriend? Am I jealous or is this a total manipulation **** storm on her part? Do I sound jealous right now? What do you think?

 

- Seriously confused.