Lack of respect, laziness or simple stupidity?

[lady_door]

My SO and I have very different personalities, so we often encounter problems in our relationship (especially since we've been living together).

 

For example: He's not very communicative/has a huge problem talking about personal stuff while I'm a very communicative person who likes to discuss everything to death.

 

Or (one of the smaller problems ): He doesn't give a damn whether the toilet seat is up or down, I care very much that it's down.

 

When something annoys me or when I feel like something is a problem, I always try to solve it right away. So I talked to him about the things that bother me (like our lack of communication) and tried to find a compromise that would work for both of us. I'm not trying to change him, I'm just trying to find ways so that the both of us can be comfortable and happy in this relationship.

 

Unfortunately he doesn't keep to the agreements we make. Lately I feel like I'm putting so much into this relationship and I compromise so much and he just keeps on doing what he's always been doing and doesn't care at all how I feel about it.

 

I really don't know how to handle this anymore. I feel as if I were talking to a brick wall sometimes. Have you ever been in this situation? Any input would be appreciated.