BiWinning Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 (edited) I met a married woman about a month ago - and the sexual chemistry between us has been off the charts. The sex is incredible - absolutely the best sex either of us have ever had. I am not interested in hearing people's opinions on morality and how I am wrecking someone's marriage - as - whether you like it or not, attraction isn't a choice - it's evolutionary. There is a great book called the Red Queen that actually discusses in detail why women are attracted to certain men. I am posting on this forum, primarily to seek women's opinions of the following situation. Up until I met this woman - I didn't think that it was possible for most women to have a strictly physical relationship without any emotional involvement. Ruling out the possibility of disorder, can someone please provide some insight into whether or not it is common for women to be able to separate sex from emotions? I am very curious, as, I am aware of the chemical oxytocin that is released when a woman experiences an orgasm, and it is widely known to induce feelings of love and altruism. I should state that the more that we have sex, the more she wants to see me. In other words, what started out as a few times a week has exploded into several hours a day. I have read some books recently on why women have affairs - and - the consistent theme is that men have affairs for a physical connection, but usually have no emotional involvement, whereas women tend to have affairs for an emotional connection, at which point sex may or may not occur. My female friend appears to be functioning like a man. Thoughts on this are appreciated. Edited April 4, 2011 by BiWinning
Feelin Frisky Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Lots of married women have side lovers. I don't know it as a rule but it has been my personal experience that they can accept the rules and play by them.
Flabbergaster Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 I should state that the more that we have sex, the more she wants to see me. In other words, what started out as a few times a week has exploded into several hours a day. This is the part that you should focus on. This indicates that she is forming an emotional attachment. you may be as well. If the relationship is about sex...the only contact is the booty call, the sex, and her saying "ok time for you to go, call you next time." My A started as pure, raw sex. I was her Best Ever, and she's very very high on my list of lovers (somewhere in the top 3). Then we started to enjoy being in contact, spending time together. Talking to each other every two or three days...then every other day...then every day...then spending time together not in bed... We were even smart...we agreed to end it before we caught feelings. Simple precaution! Emotional condom / ripcord! Smart!! Well, around the time we told each other "i love you" we were ready to admit we had caught feelings. Then it got...bumpy? Now I'm six weeks into NC (no contact), hating my life, getting by one day at a time. She took shelter in religion, to deal with all the pain; I might as well be dead to her. Brother you don't want to be me. Walk away while the sex is all there is. If you find it hard to walk away...then RUN because it will only get more difficult to leave (and more painful to stay) with each day. Is it possible for women to have emotions free sex? Kind of, but not very common. Does it sound like what's happening with you? Buddy, it sounds like this woman is on the express train to Emotions-ville, she might not realize it. FYI some psychologists argue that prostitutes become drug addicts in an attempt to deal with the emotional problems that come from sex. A few studies on prostitutes and drug abuse indicated that prostitution came first, drug use came second.
WorldIsYours Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 I met a married woman about a month ago - and the sexual chemistry between us has been off the charts. The sex is incredible - absolutely the best sex either of us have ever had. I am not interested in hearing people's opinions on morality and how I am wrecking someone's marriage - as - whether you like it or not, attraction isn't a choice - it's evolutionary. There is a great book called the Red Queen that actually discusses in detail why women are attracted to certain men. I am posting on this forum, primarily to seek women's opinions of the following situation. Up until I met this woman - I didn't think that it was possible for most women to have a strictly physical relationship without any emotional involvement. Ruling out the possibility of disorder, can someone please provide some insight into whether or not it is common for women to be able to separate sex from emotions? I am very curious, as, I am aware of the chemical oxytocin that is released when a woman experiences an orgasm, and it is widely known to induce feelings of love and altruism. I should state that the more that we have sex, the more she wants to see me. In other words, what started out as a few times a week has exploded into several hours a day. I have read some books recently on why women have affairs - and - the consistent theme is that men have affairs for a physical connection, but usually have no emotional involvement, whereas women tend to have affairs for an emotional connection, at which point sex may or may not occur. My female friend appears to be functioning like a man. Thoughts on this are appreciated. Yup, this is a troll.
BenThereDunThat Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 In case this isn't a troll....the answer is an emphatic yes. Women are capable of having awesome, mind-blowing sex without emotional attachment. I didn't used to be one of those women, but I SURE AM NOW!
Emme Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Yes, women are able to play as men do. No emotion. It depnds on the indivdual. Some women do it because they want the sex and don't have the time build a relationship. The issue is though, is that someone always gets attached. Always!
carrie999 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 This is the part that you should focus on. This indicates that she is forming an emotional attachment. you may be as well. If the relationship is about sex...the only contact is the booty call, the sex, and her saying "ok time for you to go, call you next time." My A started as pure, raw sex. I was her Best Ever, and she's very very high on my list of lovers (somewhere in the top 3). Then we started to enjoy being in contact, spending time together. Talking to each other every two or three days...then every other day...then every day...then spending time together not in bed... We were even smart...we agreed to end it before we caught feelings. Simple precaution! Emotional condom / ripcord! Smart!! Well, around the time we told each other "i love you" we were ready to admit we had caught feelings. Then it got...bumpy? Now I'm six weeks into NC (no contact), hating my life, getting by one day at a time. She took shelter in religion, to deal with all the pain; I might as well be dead to her. Brother you don't want to be me. Walk away while the sex is all there is. If you find it hard to walk away...then RUN because it will only get more difficult to leave (and more painful to stay) with each day. Is it possible for women to have emotions free sex? Kind of, but not very common. Does it sound like what's happening with you? Buddy, it sounds like this woman is on the express train to Emotions-ville, she might not realize it. FYI some psychologists argue that prostitutes become drug addicts in an attempt to deal with the emotional problems that come from sex. A few studies on prostitutes and drug abuse indicated that prostitution came first, drug use came second. Huh? The woman is emotional, and you're not equally emotional???
Woman In Blue Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I have read some books recently on why women have affairs - and - the consistent theme is that men have affairs for a physical connection, but usually have no emotional involvement.... Oh boy, don't let the OW members read THIS. That'll shatter all their delusions. .....whereas women tend to have affairs for an emotional connection, at which point sex may or may not occur. My female friend appears to be functioning like a man. I don't know exactly WHEN women started acted like men, but they've been doing it for a while. Having one-night stands whenever they feel like it, having f*ck-buddies and FWB's. I couldn't imagine acting like that. Maybe it's hormones in beef, who knows?
TinaniT Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Ruling out the possibility of disorder, can someone please provide some insight into whether or not it is common for women to be able to separate sex from emotions?. Of course it is. But it can be hard to tell when it will stick to script and when it will become a very tricky ride. For men or women.
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