J200 Posted April 18, 2011 Share Posted April 18, 2011 (edited) J200 has a lot to learn just FYI... oh and by the way...Asian girls will never be model material, so you're SOL. If hot guys don't want you a lot of it has to do with the fact that YOU are not hot enough; not just weight but all of you. What's so hard about facing the fact that you are probably average? The guys you want are most likely out of your league. Edited April 18, 2011 by J200 Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted April 18, 2011 Author Share Posted April 18, 2011 If hot guys don't want you a lot of it has to do with the fact that YOU are not hot enough; not just weight but all of you. What's so hard about facing the fact that you are probably average? The guys you want are most likely out of your league. Because it's not about being hot, little girl... I don't want guys to 'bleep' me...I want a relationship. It's easy to get guys to 'bleep' you. It's not easy to a guy you actually care about to actually care about you. I got told by a very very very good looking gay man, that the one particular guy I am so in love with is below the standards of what I could get and then told me to pursue some really tall, really buff, hot jock model type guy. Ya know the problem with that...I'm not looking for someone hot. Yes, I have to be attracted in at least some way shape or form, but I'm interested in personality and how well I click with a person before anything else. In fact, the guy that I'm in love with didn't even really start to look beautiful to me until I got to know him. Granted, he wasn't UNattractive to me, but he certainly didn't look like Brad Pitt the first day I met him. Now that I know him... holy hell. That's all I'm gonna say about it. You have to get to know a person and I'm lookin 'for love, not a quick lay. Just FYI. This thread was written out of anger. Link to post Share on other sites
Floridaman Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 (edited) I don't want guys to 'bleep' me...I want a relationship. It's easy to get guys to 'bleep' you. It's not easy to a guy you actually care about to actually care about you. .... You have to get to know a person and I'm lookin 'for love, not a quick lay. Just FYI. This thread was written out of anger. Understand completely. That's how I felt in my 20s and prob. one reason I didn't most of the time (notice I didn't say never:laugh:) seek sexual satisfaction or take advantage of some "opportunities" outside of a relationship. I mean, I too had needs and felt things were getting late for me... If she was willing to indluge me.... what's the harm? I didn't think any less of those women... Granted, that was all of 2X from 18-30.... Now once I hit 30 and got into a serous relationship, that was a diff. story and I "made up" for some lost time (she too.) Methinks you're waking up and realizing you're missing out on some things or needing some physical satisfaction, hence your posts which seem all over the board. It had me originally thinking you were having sex, but reading closer, I see the phrasings you're using is just some venting. Again, been there, done that. Edited April 20, 2011 by Floridaman Link to post Share on other sites
Saketomi Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 Chill out, relax and enjoy the friendship. It sounds like you need to learn to love yourself first before you can convince others to love you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted April 28, 2011 Author Share Posted April 28, 2011 Chill out, relax and enjoy the friendship. It sounds like you need to learn to love yourself first before you can convince others to love you. If I love myself anymore, I'm going to explode. I have a big head. I think highly of myself. I think people are weird who don't. (Think highly of me). Link to post Share on other sites
orangelady Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 I think highly of myself. I think people are weird who don't. (Think highly of me). I wish I could do that. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 If I love myself anymore, I'm going to explode. I have a big head. I think highly of myself. I think people are weird who don't. (Think highly of me). It's strange then how I've seen you insult people on here for no reason. Usually people do this to feel better about themselves because they have low self esteem. Link to post Share on other sites
ALonerAgain Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 It's strange then how I've seen you insult people on here for no reason. Usually people do this to feel better about themselves because they have low self esteem. Bingo! Jackpot! Ring ding ding! Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted April 28, 2011 Author Share Posted April 28, 2011 It's strange then how I've seen you insult people on here for no reason. Usually people do this to feel better about themselves because they have low self esteem. Treat people how you wanna be treated? Whoever I've insulted on here asked for it. Like ALongerAgain. How incredibly rude is it to suggest someone needs to see a therapist? If I were a guy that fought, she's cruisin' for a bruisin'.... Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 Treat people how you wanna be treated? Whoever I've insulted on here asked for it. Like ALongerAgain. How incredibly rude is it to suggest someone needs to see a therapist? If I were a guy that fought, she's cruisin' for a bruisin'.... You insulted me once and I never asked for it. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 seriously, no joke. I can get ugly guys to, but nobody I'm actually attracted to. Probably, because if I'm attracted to them, I usually want more than just sex. But if some hot guy was around, I might do him. But I can never get them to do me. I'm a cute girl, too. What the hell is wrong with men? don't they usually jump at the chance to have sex with a cute girl? Or am I aiming too high in the looks department? I tend to go for stick thin, rocker guys with long hair and baby faces. I'm pretty thin myself, but I could prolly lose a few, I'm definitely more than I was in high school, but that was all due to medication I was on and I've lost it all before and slowly losing it all again. I'm 5'6" about 140lbs (I was at 130, but gained due to the same friggin' meds again), long brown hair, blue eyes...etc. In high school I was 120 and still couldn't get attention from the guys I liked. I just like skinny rocker dudes with long hair and bad boy attitudes. I'd be perfectly fine hooking up with one, too. They just refuse to give me the time of day. I think I put off this vibe that I'm some sort of Christian, goodie goody and the fact is, I'm not. There IS however, a guy that I'm super interested in as far as a relationship is concerned, but he has me friend zoned. But it's the fact that he can be just my friend that has me so smitten. Every other guy is so judgmental and when I try to talk to them, it's like they think I've asked them to marry me. the fact that my friend is just so chill with me and can look at me as more than just a chick that's after him (even though I am) and he STILL talks to me. He's relationship material to me. Every other guy I just want to bang and be done with it. I don't think they get that. then of course, the ugly guys want relationships and I don't even want to bang them, much less get into a relationship with them. I just want a few hot men, dammit. lol I guess this blows your theory of every guy wants to screw everything that can't run fast enough. Link to post Share on other sites
ALonerAgain Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 (edited) Treat people how you wanna be treated? Whoever I've insulted on here asked for it. Like ALongerAgain. How incredibly rude is it to suggest someone needs to see a therapist? If I were a guy that fought, she's cruisin' for a bruisin'.... DreamerGirl, I don't see how suggesting you talk to a professional about your problems is 'insulting'. If this is 'against your religion' say, "thanks, but no thanks". The above attitude from you I feel is totally uncalled for. [sigh]Dreamergirl, you want to know the reason why I'm being down on you? It's because I actually see some of your traits in myself. And a lot of posters here can certainly understand the feeling and frustration of wanting someone that you can't have (in the way that you want), due to either blatant incompatibility or because they don't feel the same way you do. It's just frustrating because most of the people here actually want to help you, including myself, funnily enough. But you're acting like a spoiled toddler who insists on staying in her pram with her toys while everyone else encourages you to go and explore your environment. That's how you learn. I'm not saying that you have to give up your morals of "no sex before a committed relationship". That's a trait to be admired. What is crazy is not only to expect someone to give up their own views for you - but to keep hanging around and whining until they do! I don't expect you to believe me, but it's true. I've tried to help you in other threads by nicely asking questions about you to better understand where you're coming from, yet you've persistently ignored me. That's fine, that's your right. Again, I apologise if you've been feeling victimised by me. You and I share the same passionate, stubborn nature and we both want others desperately to understand where we're coming from. I hope you find the inner peace and sexual satisfaction you're craving for. Peace out. Edited April 28, 2011 by ALonerAgain Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 (edited) If I love myself anymore, I'm going to explode. I have a big head. I think highly of myself. I think people are weird who don't. (Think highly of me). I wish I could do that. There is nothing to envy here, Orangelady. DreamerGirl has demonstrated her insecurity and immaturity over and over again (hence, posters reactions to her). You, on the other hand, seem to be very well liked for your honesty and openness. DreamerGirl once posted 2 photos of herself that confirmed what I suspected; she's not the age she states but rather much younger. Given that, DreamerGirl I suggest you definitely not worry about guys not wanting to "bleep" you and concentrate on finishing high school instead. Edited April 28, 2011 by cerridwen Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 There is nothing to envy here, Orangelady. DreamerGirl has demonstrated her insecurity and immaturity over and over again (hence, posters reactions to her). You, on the other hand, seem to be very well liked for your honesty and openness. DreamerGirl once posted 2 photos of herself that confirmed what I suspected; she's not the age she states but rather much younger. Given that, DreamerGirl I suggest you definitely not worry about guys not wanting to "bleep" you and concentrate on finishing high school instead. Lol! :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted April 28, 2011 Author Share Posted April 28, 2011 There is nothing to envy here, Orangelady. DreamerGirl has demonstrated her insecurity and immaturity over and over again (hence, posters reactions to her). You, on the other hand, seem to be very well liked for your honesty and openness. DreamerGirl once posted 2 photos of herself that confirmed what I suspected; she's not the age she states but rather much younger. Given that, DreamerGirl I suggest you definitely not worry about guys not wanting to "bleep" you and concentrate on finishing high school instead. don't confuse what I look like with my actual age. I am 26 and I look like I'm 16. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted April 28, 2011 Author Share Posted April 28, 2011 There are girls who look younger than they are' date=' i.e. doll face or baby face.[/quote'] Thanks and exactly... I get mistaken for 19 all the time. There was even a time not too long ago where someone thought I was 15. I don't mind that. What I mind is when people confuse what I look like with what I act like I'd post a picture of my license if it didn't have my address on it to prove it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted April 28, 2011 Author Share Posted April 28, 2011 Is that really the only picture you have of yourself? No.... and don't ask me to post another one. Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 (edited) There are girls who look younger than they are' date=' i.e. doll face or baby face.[/quote'] Very true DA. But, it was her hairstyle, clothing, and room decoration (in the background) that gave it all away. She posted 2 pictures. She is not anywhere in the ballpark of 27. Factor in her consistently petulant tone, numerous references to "school" (as in "we talked all night I was late for school in the morning!"), her youth pastor and the like and well...it's pretty clear. DreamerGirl, there's no shame in being younger. You're not required to give your exact age. But, knowing you're not in your 20s may affect the advice given by members. Being honest is only to your advantage. Edited April 28, 2011 by cerridwen Link to post Share on other sites
Saketomi Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 No shame in being young. In fact you should enjoy your youth while you have it! As for your guy, you know the old saying about if you love someone set them free. Well set him free, perhaps in your absence he will realise that he does have feelings for you. However, if he doesn't then it's time to move on. No matter how much you love someone, you can't make them love you if they don't. Your love is too precious to waste on those who do not appreciate it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted April 29, 2011 Author Share Posted April 29, 2011 Sure, there's no shame in being young. If I was. I'm 26. I like really young looking things. I'm 26, taking 1 guitar class in community college. I would think my mature attitude would be a dead give away. I LOOK young. I don't act it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted April 29, 2011 Author Share Posted April 29, 2011 Very true DA. But, it was her hairstyle, clothing, and room decoration (in the background) that gave it all away. She posted 2 pictures. She is not anywhere in the ballpark of 27. Factor in her consistently petulant tone, numerous references to "school" (as in "we talked all night I was late for school in the morning!"), her youth pastor and the like and well...it's pretty clear. DreamerGirl, there's no shame in being younger. You're not required to give your exact age. But, knowing you're not in your 20s may affect the advice given by members. Being honest is only to your advantage. I shop in the juniors department because 1) Women's clothes don't fit me, except petites. and 2) I hate women's clothing. I've already told everyone I know that I'm going to be shopping in the junior's department when I'm 55. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted April 29, 2011 Author Share Posted April 29, 2011 Why am I defending myself? Are you people trying to age me? If there's one thing I cannot stand, it's people who try and act older than what they are. For 26, I am quite mature and every other thin, 26 year old I know from my church's COLLEGE age YOUTH/YOUNG adult group, wears juniors clothing. Juniors clothing is made for teens and 20 something year olds. I have never seen anyone walk into my church's YOUTH college group wearing something from the frumpy women's department. We also all have the same problem...none of us are in relationships, because none of us are old enough to be in relationships. I just happen to be mature enough to know, that if you are not in a relationship, you probably shouldn't be out screwing anyone, either. If you are not MARRIED, you shouldn't be screwing anyone, period. That is an incredibly mature responsibility to take upon one self. It just sucks that the guy that I like isn't that mature to realize that that's the best and healthiest way to have sex. I have never seen anyone in my church's COLLEGE YOUTH group, walk in looking any different than me. I'm 26, not 56, so if I have a young sounding attitude about me, it's because I'm still young! But I do not have a 15 year old's attitude. I have a perfectly appropriate attitude for someone my age and if it's a little more youthful than normal, that's a good thing. But personally...I know I have wisdom beyond my years. It's why I've taken on the responsibility to keep my pants on until I'm married. But...with that cross I choose to bear, comes a lot of back lash from people's "worldly" views. People like you on these boards. If anyone's noticed, I have not once lashed out at Florida Man. Wanna know why? Because he's a good guy. A good Christian guy, who's given me no reason to lash out at him. If the rest of you are older than me. What does that say about you? You're going after a 26 year old on a message board that you know nothing about. Seems to me like the rest of you are acting no older than the age of 5. Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted April 29, 2011 Share Posted April 29, 2011 No shame in being young. In fact you should enjoy your youth while you have it! As for your guy, you know the old saying about if you love someone set them free. Well set him free, perhaps in your absence he will realise that he does have feelings for you. However, if he doesn't then it's time to move on. No matter how much you love someone, you can't make them love you if they don't. Your love is too precious to waste on those who do not appreciate it. Exactly Saketomi. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted April 29, 2011 Author Share Posted April 29, 2011 Exactly Saketomi. If you don't shut up, I really am going to take a picture of my license and put something over the address. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted April 29, 2011 Share Posted April 29, 2011 If you don't shut up, I really am going to take a picture of my license and put something over the address. You can do really easy photo editing with MS paint. Just black out your name, the number and your address. Link to post Share on other sites
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