carrie410 Posted April 5, 2004 Share Posted April 5, 2004 Hi, I was wondering if anyone knows or has an idea of the "rules" of having a friend with benefits. I have been making out with this guy friend over the past two months, and everything was going great and I haven't told anyone about it an he hasn't either, everyone thinks we are just friends. The problem is that he keeps telling me to behave myself if I go out and he is not there, he also tells me that he is watching me wherever I go and that I shoulnd't drink if he is not there and that he gets jeallos. All of these comments are confusing me, cuz I want to date other men while I keep making out with my him, but I don't know if he wants something else. I kind of brought it up and he kinda of made it seemed that I was the one who wanted something serious!!! what's going on? why is he telling me to behave when I go out and that he gets jeallous??! I mean if he is just kidding, he shouldn't make those comments at all. Are there any rules into having a friend with benefit? can you make those type of comments? Very confused, Carrie Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted April 5, 2004 Share Posted April 5, 2004 Friends with benefits is usually two people who have no major emotional attachment but have sex with each other, usually while getting over some other relationship or when no other committed relationship is in the offing. You don't have friends with benefits here, you have a make-out buddy...unless I missed that the two of you were having sex. You need to have a face-to-face talk with this dude and see just where he wants to go with this. Tell him that if you can't expect anymore from the relationship than a little tongue in the mouth that you have a need to seriously see what else is out there for you. Also, let him know that his jealousy and possessiveness is totally inappropriate and that he cannot expect to control you in any way. That's a big danger sign, especially at the level of your relationship with him now. If you were in a committed relationship with him, it would be expected that the two of you would be loyal to each other. But he has no business trying to control you with these kinds of remarks now. I think this guy is a bit strange but until you have a good talk with him you won't know just how strange. Link to post Share on other sites
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