ladies: how many of you mind if your guy goes to a strip bar?

[catspajamas]

If my husband wants to see some ass he know where to go...

[CurlyamI]

I admitt I do not know how strip clubs work. But I sure know there are different types of it and if your men wants to buy sex he wouldn't go to a strip bar. How do you know to what kind of strip bar he goes to? You don't! That's where the TRUST stuff comes along.

 

And I also believe that strong radical opinions about a certain subject usually hide insecurities.

I just don't see what's the fuss about it. It's just a piece of meat! Not a person. I can hardly consider "that" a threat.

 

It would be ridiculous if let's say a special "guy" ocasion cames along and the boys decide to go there. Your man will say to his friends: "hey, you know...

 

In most strip clubs here there is not the not touching rule. In most strip bars here you can buy sex or blowjobs..

 

I would be much more worried if his friends would ask him on frequent occasion to go there. It would tell a lot about him, about who he let's near him... 'cause it may betray his prefferences. And that's another story

[nikkilove]

I used to work at one, so my perspective might be different......

 

The guys who came to the club (80%) and that had girlfriends/wives would not think twice about cheating. I'd hear all kinds of sob stories. Once in a while, you'd have a bachelor party come in and you would instantly know the "happily married" or "happily comitted" guy because they would tell you about their wonderful wives/gf's and just be polite gentlemen. I always had alot of respect for them.

 

Personally, if my man felt the need to frequent a strip club frequently, I'd be concerned. Not because there was something going on, but perhaps he was buying into the fantasy. I never "dated" a customer, but had several married/committed ones want to........and it left me realizing how many guys go to the clubs to escape.....whatever problems are going on at home.

 

Just my 2c.

[coursingthru]

I don't mind at all! Matter of fact - I would like to go as well!

 

 

I did once with a now exbf and I was looking forward to going and it was a place he had been to with his brother after golf or something and I asked him how it was. He said it was okay and they didn't get naked.

 

 

Well, we get there - walk in, Darlin' Niki's playing and a butt naked girl on stage. I didn't mind that AT ALL - he did because he knew 4 months earlier he said there was no nudity!!

 

 

HE was the one who was extremely uncomfortable and we ended up leaving! Only reason: He knew he lied to me to pacify me and the worst thing was - I used to be a stripper so how could I judge any man for going? and he knew that I am a very open minded woman and am not easily offended. Ended up finding out he had a huge lying problem even though the woman he had - that would be me - understood whatever came up.

 

 

But to this day - I don't mind. My motto is: If you can't beat em', join em'! Be it sports, work or whatever! Not put your nose in their life - but will it really kill you to sit and watch 15 minutes of the Lakers or a 5 minute strip show? It won't. I'm not dead yet!

 

 

I think if it offends or affects you - you already have had that negative instilled in you from something else that keeps getting dragged from man to man (or woman) but in this life - too much to help yourself to get thru anything - trust me - I am an Alumini of the School of Hard Knocks and not because I asked for them! I've only become stronger in my heart to know what I want in my life and how I want it.

 

 

And it's like my brother who runs a club in Austin, TX - there is nothing wrong with anyone going to the t*tty bars - it is a problem when your dipping into the family funds and it's effecting your home welfare!

 

 

It is all in moderation. I keep my men extremely satisfied and they never stray. A lot of it also has to do with the allowances you put on eachother as well. If you're allowing (with a pure heart and not a deviant motive), it's all good! Hey - if you know you can do something whenever you want without being judged or tormented - what are the chances are that you are going to form a habit from it? You won't!

 

 

That's just me. I've always been this way and guys are very happy to know that "boys can be boys" when they are with me.

Life is too short!

[GeorgiaSongbird]

I don't care if my sweetie goes to the clubs with his friends. He doesn't go alot but they still go every once in a while.

 

I've never understood why some women get so spun up about it... but I guess to each his own. There is ALOT more touching and bumping/grinding between the strippers and patrons at a male review than any female strip club I've ever seen.

[rockstarmusician]

I wouldn't really mind, as long as I got to go to one as well.

[onemoralgirlwhocares]

He wont go if he is mine. He wont be mine anymore if he goes. There is enough stuff hitting on women and our men(boyfriend or husband) without adding that kind of lowlife. If a man goes for that, why have one woman that you claim to care for? Other men and women should be out of a couples relationship. That includes using other men and women for personal intertainment. Why do men have to have nude, sexy women in their mind all time. Whatever you do the most in your life, is what you think about the most. So we women know that if our men frequent that kind of stuff then it stays in their thoughts all the time. So there's no room for any thing else except what is most important to you. Shouldnt that be your girl or wife and job and your life together? If your buddies and drinking and slutty women are on your mind more, something is wrong with your picture. I am just one woman and that is my thought. I want to know I am the woman he is making love with not the latest picture or girl on the stage or lapdance. What is wrong with that? I am sure most men wouldnt have a woman that frequented nude-men nite spots out with the girls all the time. And for these same reasons. Real love doesnt hurt your partner whether married or not. If you do hurt her or him, look and see what is your reasoning. It wont have been loving and caring. Enough said from me.