TomGarcia Posted April 5, 2004 Share Posted April 5, 2004 My girlfriend of only 5 months stop having sex with me regularly. Last night we got into a argument and she kept on telling me why she was attracted to her ex who raped her. She says that he is emotional and i am not but i am does she still want me or is she possible cheating on me with her ex please help student in distress. Link to post Share on other sites
miz_barby Posted April 5, 2004 Share Posted April 5, 2004 attracted to her ex who "RAPED" her?????????? Is she totally mental or what??? If her ex really "raped" her I could understand her not being comfortable being "intimate" a lot........but if she tells you she is still attracted to the same person who she "claims" raped her because he is emotional and you're not....well I say I would be questioning what kind of woman she is....I mean come on...any woman who was raped as she "claims" to have been wouldn't still be attracted to that person...if anything I think she would be disgusted and appalled by him....sorry to sound so harsh but I say Move On for your own sake no matter how "wonderful" this girl may seem....it seems to me she could be a bit delusional.....I don't know her story but none the less her story seems a little far fetched...seems to me maybe she gave it up, felt bad then called "rape" I would sit her down and talk to her about the whole issue...if she still claims to be attracted to him...I say let her go and find someone who is honest and sane!! Anyway good luck and once again I'm sorry if I sound harsh..... Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 5, 2004 Share Posted April 5, 2004 Well....either the 'ex' story is false and she's admitting she now finds him more attractive than you. OR the story about her 'ex' is true and she needs some counselling. Women CAN have a residue or misplaced attraction to a mate they were once sexually abused by. Either way, these are issues she needs to face and deal with. You can mention it and try to help IF she wants help. Other than that...the ball is in her court. She is calling the shots. It's your choice if you want to play or walk. I don't think this will fix itself or go away though. Link to post Share on other sites
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