Dating again....

[blueness]

my boyfriend and i broke about 3 months ago now.. i feel i have been doing really well. i have been in therapy and even was prescribed anti-depressants, which have helped me tremendously...

 

anyway, just when i thought i was moving on, i start feeling sad again. this all started after i went out on my first date since i broke up with my ex. i thought i was ready. i really did. i thought i was ready to date again.. i felt completely over my ex. i realized that the break-up was for the better... but since last night, when i went on this date (with a really nice guy), i've become depressed.. the first thing i thought was, "this guy was nice, but he didn't make laugh like dave or he wasn't a gentleman, like chad was.." anyway, i don't want to go out with this guy again, even though he was really nice.. i realize i am not ready to date just yet.. i am still in that comparison phase...

 

anyway, all this makes me think that i don't want to date for a very long time.. maybe a year or so. i sometimes think i will never find anyone else who made me laugh and be merry and happy as much as dave did. i hate that feeling and i want to be rid of it! how do you cope with making comparisons and dating again??

[miz_barby]

Maybe you should do things to make yourself happy....maybe the depression you are feeling is because you have other things going on inside of you....if you had to be prescribed anti-depressants after a break up I would be afraid you were depending too much on a relationship to make your life complete....maybe I'm wrong but to me it doesn't seem normal to be so "depressed" to the point of needing medication due to the ending of a relationship! I'm not trying to sound harsh! I agree that if you are still comparing each date to the other maybe you'd be better off spending more curing your sadness and figuring out why you feel the way you do....what is really causing such a depression...good luck and I hope you feel better soon!