What do I do?

[LoveHurts1982]

My husband and I have been togehter for 10 yrs. We have been married for 3 yrs. With in the 10 yrs that we have been together he has go caught texting this chick he went to school with. I forgave him the last two times(we we're just dating at that time). Since we have been married he got caught up again with the same chick. Yesterday I read that he wants to have her for lunch and how he has been dreaming and thinking about her and this other girl all day and night. We have 3 kids together. I gave him my heart and now I'm so confused about what to do. I don't want to leave him but I'm afraid I will never be able to trust him. We have never been to counseling for this. I'm thinking we should go. I'm so hurt behind this. I cried all last night. He claims this was going on only for a month. He said he was trying to sleep with her and that they didn't sleep together. From what I read in the text messages it came off to me as they did sleep together. He swears he didn't sleep with her but he was trying to. I just don't know what to do. I'm not sure if I can ever trust him again. I just don't know what to do. If you have any good advise please share, and please don't be to hard on me. I'm not sure I can take all that at this point.

[Linda9999]

What do you do? Tell him he either does what YOU tell him or he's out on his ass. He needs to

1) stop ALL communication with these other women

2) Beg for your forgiveness

3) Go to counseling with you

4) Go to counseling by himself

5) Become totally transparent to you - you must have access to all his cell bills and records, computer passwords, emails, bank accounts etc.

6) Show his remorse to you for the next 2-5 years while you see if you can get past this

7) Tell you the total and complete truth, submitting to a polygraph if you want him to

8) Answer any and every question you have for him over the next 2-5 years and beyond

 

The chances that he didn't sleep with her/them is minuscule - I can guarantee that he did.