issohard Posted April 8, 2011 Share Posted April 8, 2011 So here it goes. 4 months of NC I found the courage today to send him a letter. Why have I done this, well I had enough of silence and wanted to let him know that I knew he was dishonest with me. Don't know if this was a right decision and I am not sure if he will ever to see the e-mail as I have deleted all accounts so he probably is not expecting anything but I had to throw out what I was thinking. I think as days are passing I am getting stronger and he is no longer constantly on my mind. How have I managed to get to that stage? Well after a thousand of stories here every single day it made me realise that my A was not any different. Nothing happens without a reason and I am happy that I came to that point that no one will ever make me more happier that myself. Thanks guys for your support in here and I wish to everyone still suffering here from post break up to get to who u were before you get yourself involved in A. I don't deny that I might have my down days but I have made huge progress till now. Link to post Share on other sites
Emme Posted April 9, 2011 Share Posted April 9, 2011 :bunny:HUG:bunny: I hope you got everyhing off your chest. This is closure for you. Each day does get little better. We are really a communty that looks out for each other. I'm lucky to have found this place also. Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted April 9, 2011 Share Posted April 9, 2011 So here it goes. 4 months of NC I found the courage today to send him a letter. Why have I done this, well I had enough of silence and wanted to let him know that I knew he was dishonest with me. Don't know if this was a right decision and I am not sure if he will ever to see the e-mail as I have deleted all accounts so he probably is not expecting anything but I had to throw out what I was thinking. I think as days are passing I am getting stronger and he is no longer constantly on my mind. How have I managed to get to that stage? Well after a thousand of stories here every single day it made me realise that my A was not any different. Nothing happens without a reason and I am happy that I came to that point that no one will ever make me more happier that myself. Thanks guys for your support in here and I wish to everyone still suffering here from post break up to get to who u were before you get yourself involved in A. I don't deny that I might have my down days but I have made huge progress till now. Excellent attitude (what I bolded). You are strong and independent. IF sending the letter gave YOU the ability to move forward and put it in the past - for once and for all - good. BUT, if you are wanting any kind of communication from him....I worry you will be hurt if he doesn't respond GOOD LUCK! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 9, 2011 Share Posted April 9, 2011 I was thinking the same thing. Will you be hurt or wonder why he hasn't tried to contact you or reply back in some way? Or was that letter truly for closure and you don't care if he responds at all? lets' say he does contact you, how will you react? Will you ignore him or answer back? Four months is a long time to do NC and then send a letter. There's always a chance too that he won't read it, he'll delete it (if you emailed it) or rip it up if you sent it snail mail. Or he'll read it and not care either way. Just hope you're not expecting anything back. Link to post Share on other sites
siuys Posted April 9, 2011 Share Posted April 9, 2011 Well done on the 4 month NC. Hope you have not opened a can of worms by sending him this letter. What's done is done. I hope you will continue to move on, live a happy life regardless of whether he responds or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author issohard Posted April 9, 2011 Author Share Posted April 9, 2011 Just to answer your question, he will not have an opportunity to respond to my letter as I have disabled my account again. Anyway if he wanted to contact me by now or speak to me somehow he had so mamy opportunities as we are still working together. In that time I have faced him 3 times only ( meetings ). He cant hurt me more than he did, he cant make any more damaged to me as I dont care. Link to post Share on other sites
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