Jenro Posted April 8, 2011 Share Posted April 8, 2011 When a man Asks you to be patient with him, what does that mean? I have been seeing him for 5 months. I know he sees someone else and I have confronted him and he denies it. But on Monday we were together had a nice night and then he told me that I need to be patient with him. He isn't texting me as much either. But if i do text him he does get back to me. He is short though. So does this mean be pateint and let me screw around with this other girl and I will get back to you or does it mean back off give me space? Be pateint with me??? I told him that I was and as I thought about it more I think he is feeding me lies and keeping me on the sidelines. Its getting old Link to post Share on other sites
Knittress Posted April 8, 2011 Share Posted April 8, 2011 Did he say WHY you need to be patient with him? Did he indicate that he was willing and working on whatever it was that was holding him back? If yes, than it would show some amount of empathy towards you and a legitimate issue - not that this makes it your problem, or something you should feel obligated to 'fix' or wait around for. If no - then he knows he's being a jerk and he's attempting to pacify you. Perhaps in hope that if he confuses you and screws with your head he'll get what he wants out of you without having to consider YOUR needs or feelings. Either way... doesn't sound like a catch to me. Link to post Share on other sites
TuffCookieX Posted April 8, 2011 Share Posted April 8, 2011 I agree with previous post, sounds like a POS to me Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted April 8, 2011 Share Posted April 8, 2011 Forget about what he means when he asks you to be patient, that's not relevant if he's seeing someone else and you're okay with sticking around and "waiting". If he is seeing someone else, and that's not okay with you- stop asking questions and get out of the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Back Burner Gal Posted April 9, 2011 Share Posted April 9, 2011 Isn't that what married men say to their mistresses to keep them sweet while they continue with the marriages they have no intention of ever leaving? I'm pretty sure that's the EXACT phrase. Link to post Share on other sites
zakfar Posted April 9, 2011 Share Posted April 9, 2011 Many reasons are possible. He might be with that other girl (that you know), and with some other girls (you don't know at all), and would want you to be 'Patient'. Also, it is possible that he is close to end up his previous relationship, and he is confused, deciding actually what to do, and he wants you to be 'Patient'. Moreover, it is possible that you are asking him too much, and he is not sure if is going to have a long term relationship with him. As he is deciding, he wants you to be 'Patient'. It depends on you want do you want. Do you want to be patient? Or do you want to go with the flow? You can also have someone and let him be 'Patient'. Link to post Share on other sites
Gala Posted April 9, 2011 Share Posted April 9, 2011 It sounds like he isn't concerned about your needs at all, yet wants you to tolerate an insufficient level of attention from him. It also sounds like he's implying that if you aren't happy with the situation it's a failing of yours. Well, it's not. You can walk away -- just know that. If he really wants you, he will follow. Link to post Share on other sites
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