embraced_within Posted April 5, 2004 Share Posted April 5, 2004 please leave your comments as to the reason why you think my girlfriend left me, all comments are welcome. the more honest, the better. sorry if i give alot of detail. about her: we met last christmas and broke up 3rd april the other day. she was kicked out of her parents house when she was about 17-18. shes now 20 same as me. she then lived with her best mate and her best mates dad. my girlfriend never payed to stay there and never payed for food or anything. selfish and disrespectful "takin' the piss". she even got annoyed with her best mate when she was asked to help with the shopping. anyway, they ended up having fights etc so she moved back to her parents house. about me: (this is true) im a very easygoing guy who thinks the world of love and loves romance. im very close to my family and friends. ive been used alot in the past by bestfriends etc because im one of those people who end up being taken for granted. our good chemistry: we gave eachother little cute names and hugged and kissed and mad love and even she admitted it was a good sex life adding compliments. i never argued with her "trying to end them asap". she met my family and they liked her, vice versa. she told me after a few months that when we met, she noticed me before i talked to her in the queue and thought i was really nice looking and would love to be with a guy like that. she also said that she was really anxious for me to phone asap after i took her phone.no. seems nice huh? now this chemistry: ive treated her like a queen/princess, no im not lying at all ok. love is seriously the most beautiful thing to me. ok here we go...... my girlfriend does some apprenticeship thing and only gets like £50 a week. same thing for me. but i save mine and use it wisely. she spends it the night she gets it on booze at rock nightclubs, the usual same 2 that she mentions. but she wont let me come to these clubs with her. she said once its not that good. another time she said its her time with her friends. so shes usually got no money and sleeps for ages. im always buying her cigarettes literally and makin her coffees. thats the only time she really smiles to me. when shes getting something. the other day i was quite depressed and needed her with me and i asked her nicely to come see me just for once. she said she cant because she has plans to go to the club to see her friends that night. she said shes picking up a box of stuff from her ex flat mate which contains the rest of her stuff. well, the next day i asked her if she got that stuff and she didnt. she said her flat mate forgot to bring it. but, who would bring a box of stuff to a night club anyway? you wouldnt! also, im the one always phoning her, she doesnt phone me. we kind of planned to have a child too and timed it perfect the last month. you see this relationship is already making no sense is it? ive never met any of her friends! she gets very paranoid about girls contacting me or me knowing other girls. let me explain our night of seperation. i went round to her house, she gave no affection "this became more frequent throught the relationship" same thing happened that night in bed. next day she asked if i could buy her some ciggarettes. i said we both dont get alot of money, maybe she should budget a little 'cause she should be really buying her own ciggs instead of boozing all the time asap. she had a silent mood. she took a bath, banging her way up the stairs.she then went and played loud music in her room. i went up to see her, and she was dressed real nice, make up beautiful, hair flowing perfect, and getting her second boot on to go out. i pressed pause on her stereo "which was loud", and she said what the **** are you doin? turn it back on! i said where are you going? she said im going out! anywhere! she was going to leave me at her house with her sister who i dont know thaaat well. i said no no forget this, i picked up my stuff that i could find and went out the door. no communication since. that weekend before we split, i asked her if she was liking me less. she said no. i know that she did find me attractive, and like i said before i did treat her like a queen. one of the reasons i think she didnt want me to come to her clubs "which were my type of clubs" is because maybe there is another guy who shes with that she didnt want me to know about. or that shes ashamed of me. but she denied that when i asked. also, a metal club we went to once, we always planned to go to again, but she blew me out saying that she was too tired to go. these nights happened to be her days off. just for the record, i never argue with her. ive came up with a number of theories as to why she was so horrible to me and this split happened, but i'd like to hear your ideas first if you'd be so kind. extemely appreciated thankyou. p.s. im sure theres horrible things ive forgotten to add which she has done to me, which i'll add later if they come to mind. 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lady104 Posted April 5, 2004 Share Posted April 5, 2004 Hi there You give a lot of information but, in some respects, not enough? I don't have a great deal of experience to count on, but I know that I only blow off guys when they are too interested, too nice, and treat me well! Never figured why this was, but I guess being mean to keep a girl keen can often work. I honestly wouldn't worry too much about her - she seems confused, self-absorbed, and annoying! She could even have cheated on you. You can have good sex equally with someone else. Don't think I helped, but hey. Move on, new fields. Link to post Share on other sites
Author embraced_within Posted April 5, 2004 Author Share Posted April 5, 2004 you did help. thankyou. Link to post Share on other sites
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