heartogold Posted April 10, 2011 Share Posted April 10, 2011 Hi Im S I have ben married for 5 years me and my wife have a three year old son and I dont know what to do my wifes a very stuborn women and very set in her ways. She dont show me afection hardley at all any more she expects it frome me but acts like she dont want to give it to me. I constantley let her know what she means to me and she just acts casuel about it but gets real happy when I give her massages. I dont know what to do I want to conect with her emotionaly and sexualey I love her so much. But my heart keeps breaking I feel at times no matter what I do its not enough. Link to post Share on other sites
zakfar Posted April 10, 2011 Share Posted April 10, 2011 Do you like her controlling behavior? Some people do it, and some not. You need to find out what do you want. If yes, you like it, that's perfect, as you can go on with that way and keep her happy. Give her some extra respect, give her better attitude, and focus on what she wants and say. Make a drink for her before you visit the bedroom, and lick her feet for the foreplay. It will work good. If no, than discuss it with her. Try to control your stimulation and sexual urges and hold yourself from any interaction with her for a while. Bringing some jealousy (though not with something real, but just manipulation of truth and jokes) can also help you. Although you don't need to go completely negative, you gonna need to raise little attitude of yours and negotiate few things with her. This is as much your life as it's yours, as you're married. If you don't like her controlling behavior then talk to her. I hope it helps. Link to post Share on other sites
Author heartogold Posted April 13, 2011 Author Share Posted April 13, 2011 Thanks for the reply, I feel like I didnt have anybody else to talk to talking to family sometimes complacats things. Shes the only women I have ever ben with and I love her. When we first started dating there was so much fire sparks and electricitey not so much now its like shes more comfterable being friends thanks again for the advice Ill talk to her the only thing about it is she dosnt seem to realize Im not like most men Im sensative and when I tell her I want to make love to her to feel a conection were I love her she just says ye ye I've heard that before. I dont want to give up we dated 2 and a half years then got married ben married for five years I think its still a learning process for me cause before her the longest I ever dated somebody was 2 months. Another thing she toald me she likes to watch me squirm??? I know some women are like that but should there be a limit? Link to post Share on other sites
zakfar Posted April 14, 2011 Share Posted April 14, 2011 Don't talk to her as if you're 'Complaining'. If you have no problem with her controlling behavior, tell that. Tell her in an open and calm discussion that you are happy with all the things going around, and she can tell you the things that can improve the relationship. 5 years is nothing for a marriage. From where I see, you guys see to be perfect reciprocals. And you can have a very happy marriage. However, you should 'push' her more towards taking more 'control' if that makes you happy as well. Sex and sexual activities would not remain that much of a problem if you guys can conduct the open discussion. You should first find your internal desires and feelings and then tell those to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author heartogold Posted April 14, 2011 Author Share Posted April 14, 2011 Thank you so much i believe this will help Always helps to get a womens opinion on women thank you!!!I have seen a change in her since the last time I posted this she is more open with me then she has ben for a while I think the watch me squirm thing is like a joke or somthing but she toald me openley that were me and her are having trouble with finances and both looking for a job and raising a three year old son who is bouncing off the walls that its hard even when we do get that alone time at night she said shes physicaly and emotionaly drained and she said I know theres times when you want me to your self and want to be intimate but I would feel better if theres stuff thats took care of first like one of us geeting a job. Is it true what they say about a womens labido being conected to her feelings and stress levels put a women out of the mood? I do feel better though cause I didnt even have to bring the subject up its almost like she read my mind thanks for the advice. Link to post Share on other sites
riley707 Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 Stop working so hard. Find the money to get her into a spa for the day. Take a day off a work and plan it. Tell her she is OUT of the house all day and that youve got it covered. Also, are you lacking in bed? Make sure you give her 2-3 orgasms before you have yours. Otherwise she won't look forward to sleeping with you. Link to post Share on other sites
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