habs53 Posted April 10, 2011 Share Posted April 10, 2011 Well hi everyone.... its been almost a year. Ex left almost a year ago. Was a very odd breakup and hurt me allot. I had a very long thread on here for anyone that wants to read. Did the normal stuff, beg pleaded, got angry ... Then i went no contact except for texting about our child for 6 months. Then started mediation for i have my son living full time with me and she doesnt pay any money to help out. ( that is going to change real soon) So here i am almost a year later. We do talk a bit now and she told me she left because of my negativity. I apologized to her for this and other things. I am now very sure there was no physical cheating involved. She did have an internet friend. Now when we talk about our child she does seem to like talking about her personal life. For example her cat lol. I do know she has a guy friend that she use to hang out with 25 years ago. He lives in another city but does hang out with her. My son calls him a fat ugly guy. lol She has told my son just a few days ago she is not ready for dating so maybe she is telling the truth. She loves to take photos and this guy is into that stuff as well. Not really sure whats going on there. I know when we first met she had guy friends like that as well and she had no interest in more. Anyways, all i can tell people is no contact is nearly impossible when u have children. It is very very hard. I do feel much better now about myself and i have a new job that i really enjoy. I have had chances to date others but have chose not to. Not ready i guess. So i guess now im not sure of which path to continue on. I do miss her still but also realize i can live without her. Its funny how when u get left how you put these people on a pedestal or something. Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted April 10, 2011 Share Posted April 10, 2011 Hi Habs, Has LS helped you re-energise. What would you say that you have learned from this experience? Link to post Share on other sites
Author habs53 Posted April 10, 2011 Author Share Posted April 10, 2011 Hi Habs, Has LS helped you re-energise. What would you say that you have learned from this experience? It help allot. Makes you feel better to know you are far from the only one going through this process. No contact is so very important. Link to post Share on other sites
Goldenspoon Posted April 10, 2011 Share Posted April 10, 2011 I am now very sure there was no physical cheating involved. She did have an internet friend. I do know she has a guy friend that she use to hang out with 25 years ago. He lives in another city but does hang out with her. Are you being serious? Link to post Share on other sites
Author habs53 Posted April 10, 2011 Author Share Posted April 10, 2011 Are you being serious? The guy friend is now. Not back then. Im not really concerned about her dating people now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author habs53 Posted April 12, 2011 Author Share Posted April 12, 2011 Are you being serious? Haha you were soooooooooooo right!!!! Found out today. I now suspect that she was seeing someone else before she left home as well or at least was planning it. I blasted her this morning for not paying child support. Then the conversation went to other topics. She admitted that they have been a couple for a few months. Then she had the nerve to tell me i have never changed. Same woman that listened to me for almost an hour on the phone telling her things i wish i could take back lol So really who hasnt changed. People who think that leavers are not cheaters are disillusion. Link to post Share on other sites
What_Next Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 Habs, hang in there, you've made it through the worst part. In the end she will reap what she has sown. Link to post Share on other sites
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