Okay, I've asked before or similar - What does a woman have to do to be good in bed

[ladydesigner]

I like to tickle the mans body with my long hair, I like when he does things that no other guy usually does like lick or kiss behind my knees, bites the back of my neck, I like when he moans when he gives up total control, when I suggest something like ice and he's game to trying it. I like open mindedness. I like to do it every where. Standing in front of the vanity, outside where we might get caught, I just like him to be playful.

 

I like this!! I'm the same especially being adventurous. Always changing it up so as it is not the same each and every time. My H just prefers it more often than I have the energy for

[Toodamnpragmatic]

Most women are terrible in bed because most men have low demand in the first place.

 

Well someone came out and said it...... I truly believe men have very little demands once married and if they are getting it on a regular basis......

[xxoo]

Well someone came out and said it...... I truly believe men have very little demands once married and if they are getting it on a regular basis......

 

Was that the point of this thread? To show that women suck in bed?

 

Speak for your own relationships, I guess. Some of us married women LIKE having great sex--and that takes two :bunny:

[fltc]

1. Put down the romance novel

 

2. Wash the cooch

 

3. Pay attention to the going's on

 

4. Don't say 'are you done yet?'

 

My needs are simple

 

5. Don't ask, 'is it in yet?'

[carhill]

Basically, the bedroom is a refuge of positivity. There are no wrinkles, sags, handles, etc, in the bedroom. The woman is a goddess and the man is the god of love. It's a place to be vulnerable and embrace that vulnerability with humor, sensitivity and respect. Release the passion without reservation or calculation. Don't think; be.

[giotto]

I'm going off sex...

[Toodamnpragmatic]

Was that the point of this thread? To show that women suck in bed?

 

Speak for your own relationships, I guess. Some of us married women LIKE having great sex--and that takes two :bunny:

 

and frankly am happy in the bedroom (my issues are way deeper then anything I will post on this board:p:laugh:). I was pointing out my view that yep pretty much anything a woman does in bed truns us on and if we have a happy marriage and get it regularly there is almost nothing we won't do for you (women).....

 

Still however waiting to hear more from women actually answering the question in the OP..... The men have stated it loud and clear, that we expect very little.....

[Green Light]

Most women are terrible in bed because most men have low demand in the first place.

 

So are you saying that men should demand sexual acts from their wives? As in being more forceful?

[Sparty97]

So are you saying that men should demand sexual acts from their wives? As in being more forceful?

 

 

Yeah...that's exactly what he said...wow.

[giotto]

Yeah...that's exactly what he said...wow.

 

I actually interpreted it as "men don't demand more in bed/are happy even if their wives put little effort towards sex...

[Toodamnpragmatic]

I actually interpreted it as "men don't demand more in bed/are happy even if their wives put little effort towards sex...

 

Simply if you are over 40 and don't get enough sex you read it like Giotto and myself.... Otherwise you read it the other way.

[xxoo]

So, are you guys saying that a woman can be considered good in bed without being an active participant?

 

I suspect women who actively give and take (rather than passively recieving) enjoy sex more. Also, women who enjoy sex more will tend to take a more active role....

[giotto]

So, are you guys saying that a woman can be considered good in bed without being an active participant?

 

I suspect women who actively give and take (rather than passively recieving) enjoy sex more. Also, women who enjoy sex more will tend to take a more active role....

 

well, I personally didn't say that. If my wife didn't participate actively, there would be no point in having sex. Luckily she does - when we have it - although it could be better, obviously. But it's also my fault, a bit, for many reasons...

[Mutant Debutante]

 

Still however waiting to hear more from women actually answering the question in the OP..... The men have stated it loud and clear, that we expect very little.....

 

I don't know about you guys specifically but most of the guys I know expect WAY more from women in bed than just lying back and opening their legs with a smile. Blowjobs aren't always easy, ya know. Sore jaws, sore necks, getting around the gag reflex, sometimes the spunk tastes nasty, sometimes you need knee pads. Then more and more guys are into prostate rubs, anal beads, plugs, etc. You're talking like you think only men ever have to learn any techniques or do any work. I know guys who are always complaining if women don't put their balls in their mouth enough, or can't deepthroat easily, or don't want a facial every time, or don't like anal. They think anal is like their birthright or something and nobody considers just normal vanilla sex being GGG anymore.

[Green Light]

I don't know about you guys specifically but most of the guys I know expect WAY more from women in bed than just lying back and opening their legs with a smile. Blowjobs aren't always easy, ya know. Sore jaws, sore necks, getting around the gag reflex, sometimes the spunk tastes nasty, sometimes you need knee pads. Then more and more guys are into prostate rubs, anal beads, plugs, etc. You're talking like you think only men ever have to learn any techniques or do any work. I know guys who are always complaining if women don't put their balls in their mouth enough, or can't deepthroat easily, or don't want a facial every time, or don't like anal. They think anal is like their birthright or something and nobody considers just normal vanilla sex being GGG anymore.

 

Those things are mainly about fetishes but all I want is for my wife to be into it[no matter what we do] and not to treat sex as though it is one more chore to be crossed off a list.

[threebyfate]

Give me an enthusiastic man in bed over the sexpert, any day of the week. The sexpert can be so calculating. I enjoy a man who's natural in his exuberance, one who's ready to go at any time, anywhere in the house.

 

Truth be told, I don't even need oral. While it's fun, it's not near as important as enthusiasm and a tactile nature. I can get myself off just as well, as he's watching while inside of me.

 

No pressure, no expectations. Just relaxed fun, enjoying each other's bodies, the touch, feel, taste with some teasing to ramp up the level of sensitivity and intensity. And finally, some laughter to share.

[PinkInTheLimo]

I don't know about you guys specifically but most of the guys I know expect WAY more from women in bed than just lying back and opening their legs with a smile. Blowjobs aren't always easy, ya know. Sore jaws, sore necks, getting around the gag reflex, sometimes the spunk tastes nasty, sometimes you need knee pads. Then more and more guys are into prostate rubs, anal beads, plugs, etc. You're talking like you think only men ever have to learn any techniques or do any work. I know guys who are always complaining if women don't put their balls in their mouth enough, or can't deepthroat easily, or don't want a facial every time, or don't like anal. They think anal is like their birthright or something and nobody considers just normal vanilla sex being GGG anymore.

 

I know what you mean. I was with a guy like that a couple of years ago. I call that "guys who want to play out pornmovies". Absolute the fastest and easiest way to kill libido.

I love sex and I find it very important in a relationship but if I notice an obsessed attitude in my partner, I'm out of the relationship.

It has to be relaxed and fun, not something extreme like doing the Ironman.

[Toodamnpragmatic]

All single???? I guess you got to raise your game every new relationship..... I guess us married 10, 15, 20+ years have some different expectations or women???

[giotto]

I don't know about you guys specifically but most of the guys I know expect WAY more from women in bed than just lying back and opening their legs with a smile. Blowjobs aren't always easy, ya know. Sore jaws, sore necks, getting around the gag reflex, sometimes the spunk tastes nasty, sometimes you need knee pads. Then more and more guys are into prostate rubs, anal beads, plugs, etc. You're talking like you think only men ever have to learn any techniques or do any work. I know guys who are always complaining if women don't put their balls in their mouth enough, or can't deepthroat easily, or don't want a facial every time, or don't like anal. They think anal is like their birthright or something and nobody considers just normal vanilla sex being GGG anymore.

 

A bit of variety is nice, though...

[xxoo]

A bit of variety is nice, though...

 

I agree, variety is nice. Many of the things Mutant listed would be fun as variety, but awful if expected all the time.

 

I wouldn't want a partner with a narrow view of sex. That includes men who judge women for enjoying certain things, as well as men who expect women to enjoy certain things.

 

Maybe the most important thing is that the man is enthusiastic about me, and wants to explore and discover as many paths to my pleasure as possible--without pushing anything that is NOT a path to pleasure. I'd say that describes my partner well I strive to return the favor

[giotto]

I agree, variety is nice. Many of the things Mutant listed would be fun as variety, but awful if expected all the time.

 

Once in a while, in my situation...

 

I wouldn't want a partner with a narrow view of sex. That includes men who judge women for enjoying certain things, as well as men who expect women to enjoy certain things.

 

Maybe the most important thing is that the man is enthusiastic about me, and wants to explore and discover as many paths to my pleasure as possible--without pushing anything that is NOT a path to pleasure. I'd say that describes my partner well I strive to return the favor

 

we agree...

[PinkInTheLimo]

All single???? I guess you got to raise your game every new relationship..... I guess us married 10, 15, 20+ years have some different expectations or women???

 

Single here but I never have had the feeling that I had to "raise my game" in a new relationship. For me, sex comes natural when I am in love and have the impression that my guy is also in love with me and wants to pursue a steady relationship. For the record, I am by no means a beast in bed, have been several longer periods (once even 7 years) without sex in my adult life because sex belongs in a relationship for me.

 

I sometimes feel that the guys who are complaining about their sexlife after more than 20 years of marriage married a woman who was never really into it anyway? Was that a woman who did not like sex that much a safer choice than a woman who really seemed to like sex? I sometimes wonder.

[giotto]

 

I sometimes feel that the guys who are complaining about their sexlife after more than 20 years of marriage married a woman who was never really into it anyway?

 

You might be right, but women usually show a lot of interest at the beginning because of the new relationship. Our sex life really dwindled (well, to once a week then) only after the first child and 7 years into the relationship. I don't think most men will ever know how their sex life will develop at the beginning, especially if sex life is great in the first few years. My wife had very little experience when we met (only one boyfriend), but she was very adventurous and wild in bed...

[Stung]

I agree, variety is nice. Many of the things Mutant listed would be fun as variety, but awful if expected all the time.

 

I wouldn't want a partner with a narrow view of sex. That includes men who judge women for enjoying certain things, as well as men who expect women to enjoy certain things.

 

Maybe the most important thing is that the man is enthusiastic about me, and wants to explore and discover as many paths to my pleasure as possible--without pushing anything that is NOT a path to pleasure. I'd say that describes my partner well I strive to return the favor

 

This also describes my marriage well, IMO.

 

Everything Mutant listed and more has occurred in my marital bed, I wouldn't consider any of it fetishistic or too extreme. As XXOO mentioned, I would feel put upon and exhausted if it was expected constantly, but my husband and I would both feel like our sex life was kind of boring and lacking if none of that were incorporated in on at least a semi-regular basis--we've also been known to dabble in kinks like bondage, etc. I know my husband wouldn't consider me good in bed or particularly GGG if my participation was just a matter of opening up to him warmly, I have skills and techniques and he expects to get to enjoy them, just as I expect to enjoy his own techniques.

 

When I was single and dating I ran across those demanding guys more than once, who weren't satisfied with anything but their own personal hardcore porn right off the bat, without being concerned about taking time to get to know their female partner's boundaries or acheiving real intimacy with her. Trust me fellas, those jackholes are thick on the ground and I have kicked more than one to the curb for being presumptuous or callous.

[Alma Mobley]

I have to say, this post makes me think that you are having a lot of bad sex... I'm with Stung; I have skills and my husband expects me to use them. He is not going to be satisfied with me just lying back with a smile and having an orgasm, or thinking I'm off the hook with the occasional BJ.

 

Are men generally satisfied with a woman who will lie there as long as she seems into just lying there???