kaori Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 My ex ran into a friend of mine and tried to hit on her friend. She reluctantly gave him her e-mail because she knows his friends and didn't want to be rude. She thought he came across as very arrogant, embittered and angry and talked only about himself, his work and how he didn't care what people thought of his weight. He has put on even more weight apparently. Also she thought he was very overweight and she is tiny and she didn't understand why he would try to hit on her. I have recently found out he has e-mailed her to ask her what she is up to this weekend. This girl is not interested in him and didn't answer his message. My question is, do you think he is doing this on purpose so I hear about it? He would know that my friend will tell me every detail of this. He can date who he likes, but I find it strange that he hit on this particular girl who is friends with a close friend of mine. Link to post Share on other sites
befuddled11 Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 Seriously, what the heck does it matter? He's your "ex" for a reason...why waste your energy and typing skills and sense of curiosity on the "motives" of your ex? Sounds like a huge, pointless waste of time to me. Link to post Share on other sites
kaori Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 i guess because on some level it's like a slap in the face. Like he is intentionally sending me a message he is over me and looking for someone new to replace me. Like he is trying to find whoever, to transfer all the feelings he had, all the love he showered me with onto someone else and is making sure I hear about it. It's like the message he is making sure I hear about is 'you are not good enough and I have to go and find someone better than you to keep in my life, and I'll look into her eyes and say everything I said to you to her now'. When I know he is not good enough for me and feel sorry for the girl he ends up with because he is no catch. So why does it bother me? Is it cos he did it with people I know so I could hear that is getting under my skin? I am dating around and fully expected him to from the day he broke up with me. It's no suprise. It just bothers me cos it's people I know and who know me-i think. Maybe when it's strangers they ask out it's ok, but when it's people who know you it feels like you are re-living the rejection and it's more embarassing maybe? Link to post Share on other sites
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