My heart is broken, help me understand this

[fwang]

So me and my ex boyfriend just broke up 5 days ago. We dated about 7 weeks. He and I are in the same age ( I am 23 and he is 25), and both work as analysts in fortune 500 company.

 

This is a serious relationship from the beginning. He introduced me to his best friend on the second date, took me to road trips, did laundry and grocery shopping with me and brought me to fancy steakhouse once in a week. We met up averagely 4 times a week and didn't have sex until the 10th date. And I promise that he is not sex-driven when we were dating.

 

Before meeting me, he didn't date in 8 months. He is a lonely guy and he can handle it very well. He dated 7 girls in his whole life, including me and only 4 of relationships are serious, also including mine. He is a dumper except for his first relationship.

 

The week before he broke up with me, we went to a really good restaurant together which cost him about 250 dollars. After it, we rent a movie and spent the night together. Next day, we went swimming and had a good time on the beach. Monday, we met for dinner for about 2 hours. Even Tuesday, he sent me a text message telling me what he did at night and hoping me have a good day. And Wed, he came over my place to initiate the break up.

 

Actually, I was the person who talked about the break up thing because I could sense it at that moment. I felt so safe in this relationship and I didn't expect it to end so fast. He told me the following stuff:

 

"I thought I was ready for dating when I met you and I do like you. But I get used to be alone and I am not able to devote my time to a girlfriend. I know you are a great person and a nice girl when I met you. That's why I still want to hang out with you and I do have a good time. But I don't want to date and I wish we could just be friends."

 

I don't get it. How can a guy change so fast? Is it "he is not that into you" BS? I really want to understand everything so that I can get over him fast. Also, I don't know if he really wants to be friend or just acts polite. I want to clean my mind, but it's really hard for me to understand the whole relationship and break-up thing.

Edited April 11, 2011 by fwang
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