TomerT Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 Dear all (ladies especially), I will very thankful if you could help me to understand a women mind So, about two months ago I meat a nice girl (she is ~30) at some party...Since then we were "in touch" once in a while... Two days ago we went to another party together (as friends)... Now here starts an interesting part - she insisted to leave her car near my place and go to the party with my car, which is totally ok...We came back pretty late and she had to drive to her home outside city and then wake up early the next morning to go to work back to the city...Since we werae already near my home (and she also wanted glass of water before she is driving back) I suggested her to stay at my place...Of course, she was a little bit "reluctant" ("I am not sure, I have nothing to change, I didn't plan"...blah blah blah.. . I promised her that she will be "safe" and eventually she agreed to stay.. When we went to sleep (it was pretty late already) - I grabbed my pillow and blanket and headed to sleep on the couch (and gave her my queen bad ) - she asked me to stay...I wasn't reluctant at all... Anyway, when we in bed - we talked a little bit..eventually I thought it will be "stupid" from my side if I will do nothing..right ? So I gently kissed her - she didn't resisted at all...I I kissed her again (she just told: "I didn't expect this to come", but didn't resist at all)...I didn't feel any resistance, but on the other hand I also didn't feel any "cooperation" from her side...So we cuddled a little bit and eventually went to sleep (nothing happened - just to be clear)...the next morning we also cuddled a little bit (nothing serious), ate quick breakfast and headed to our own businesses...No goodbye kiss, just "we will talk later" form her side... It is already three days - we didn't talk since then, just exchanged several sms messages... Now, my question is - does this all mean anything ? I don't want to be "pushy" or needy (I really not ) and call her...I think she has a clear idea that I am interested (and I am also a "nice" guy )....How should I act ? Is she interested in something more ? or this is "end of story" from her side ? May be I had to be more "man" the other night ? How should I act when (if) eventually we meet - I suppose we are still not a couple, on the other hand I think kissing and cuddling also mean something...or not ? I am confused... Any comments and insight are more than welcome Thanks in advance to all ! Link to post Share on other sites
artchick88 Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 i find it a bit shocking that you both are ~30 years old and you are "unsure if you are a couple." You are certainly not, "a couple." However, play your cards right and you may be. If you are into just hooking up with this girl then ask her if she wants to go to another party and reenact the same scenario. (not that bluntly, of course). She may have been drunk and permitted your advances, but I don't think she would've asked you to stay if she didn't want something to happen. If you want to know if she's actually interested in you, ask her out on a date. Sometimes women (i speak from personal experience as I have done this before many times) will allow drunken makeout sessions with someone they are slightly attracted to but want to keep as a friend. Women will not go out on a date with someone they put into this former category. The downside to asking her out is losing a potential makeout/cuddle buddy, but who cares... those are easy to find and kinda sad if you really think about it. Anyway, if you do go out on a date with her, be very affectionate. Stop her in the street and tell her how beautiful she is and then lay a nice firm one on her. This will get the message across. If a woman goes out with a man, she wants him to be confident. She's basically inviting him to play this role and if he doesn't she will probably lose interest and count it as not having any chemistry and it will probably be the last. This does not mean you should try to sleep with her, but keep it affectionate and passionate. Leave her wanting more. Anyway, I hope this helps and try to play it cool! Link to post Share on other sites
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