DreamerGirl27 Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 Priceless. Your virginity is so special and the "world view" of losing it to anyone is wrong...flat out, way, dead, wrong. Once you lose it, you can never get it back. Sex is something that should be shared between a man and a woman who love each other. It is meaningless any other way. I absolutely hate the pressures society brings on a man to "lose it quick and to as many females as possible" and "women, hide your sexuality until your death bed". It's preposterous!! If I found myself a virgin man, someone who was waiting for ME and ME only, or at the very least, was waiting for LOVE... I would be the happiest girl on the planet. Just like you men don't like thinking of some other guy pawing at your girl, neither do we women like thinking of you boning some other chick, even if it was in the past. Like I said. Your virginity is priceless and this idea or notion that you're "uncool" or a "prude" or "less of a man" if you're still one is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard on the face of this planet. Be proud of who you are, especially the men on these boards who complain about being SO old at 24 ::sarcasm:: or even if you are in your thirties. THAT'S NOT OLD!! Even if it was, if you haven't found the love of your life until you're 50, it's still worth the wait. So tell everyone else to eff off, because there is no one on the face of this planet who should make you feel inferior. Men who are virgins. I have a message for you. THANK YOU FOR BEING ONE!! I WOULD BE HEAD OVER HEELS IN LOVE WITH YOU IF I KNEW YOU WERE AND SADLY DISAPPOINTED IF I FOUND OUT YOU WEREN'T. Thank you. Please have a good day. and life. Virgin or not. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 lol. epic rant you have there. well i agree that it would be ideal to fall in love and have a chance at a real relationship with your first. it's pretty awesome (in hindsight) Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 LOL if you found out the way I lost my virginity you'd probably have me stoned Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 I totally agree with Dreamer Girl. I think it's wrong how men are pressured to lose their virginity, and personally I'm turned off a guy if I find out he's been sleeping around all over the place. I want to be with someone who feels that sex is a special thing to be shared with someone you love. I have had sex with a virgin before, and I felt privileged that he'd chosen me after waiting so long. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 Who cares if you can't get it back? Why would you even want it back? Link to post Share on other sites
627 Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 virginity is an imaginary thing, I don't understand it at all... you could be raised in a society where a man should never hold hands with a woman unless she is "special" or she is his wife, and it would make as much sense there is also another point to consider, what if you never get married or you never find someone you truly love? I come from a conservative middle eastern country, where sex outside marriage is very frowned on. and I know several women in their 40 s now that never got married, and from the looks of it, it seems too late for them now... all the good behavior and the "saving myself up" stuff, what did it get them? Men who are virgins. I have a message for you. THANK YOU FOR BEING ONE!! I WOULD BE HEAD OVER HEELS IN LOVE WITH YOU IF I KNEW YOU WERE AND SADLY DISAPPOINTED IF I FOUND OUT YOU WEREN'T. not all of us are that by choice Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 It just comes across as unhealthy to me for a man or woman to be near to their mid twenties or older and to still be a virgin. Whether by choice or not. Link to post Share on other sites
BeginAgain Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 I see virgins, in my world view only women can truly be virgins, the same way I see any woman. I'll be the puppeteer and you my sexual puppet. I would give points for not spreading for other guys but I have a hard time believing a woman. I see her claim as apart of her con, apart of the mating game, and apart of her attempt at attracting mates. Her virginity is a lie but there is no point in being mad about it. You have to ask yourself "Do you really want your super virgin girl so much that you'll make passes at ten to twelve year olds?" since they are the purest and oldest source for hymen hunters. Just don't expect even at that age for them all to be chaste. In my experience, women prefer men with experience. Women don't want to be teachers or lead in the bedroom. Sometimes you can find women who will but not typically. More men prefer unexplored realms but not all. Some want a woman who is pre-assembled out of the box, knows what she is doing, and won't be afraid to try unconventional sex acts from the very beginning. Link to post Share on other sites
BeginAgain Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 not all of us are that by choice Most males who have never had sex aren't in that situation by choice no matter the culture they are from. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 Men who are virgins. I have a message for you. THANK YOU FOR BEING ONE!! I WOULD BE HEAD OVER HEELS IN LOVE WITH YOU IF I KNEW YOU WERE AND SADLY DISAPPOINTED IF I FOUND OUT YOU WEREN'T. Thank you. Please have a good day. and life. Virgin or not. Yeah, well, you'd reconsider if you knew me IRL. I'm 43, male, straight, and probably one of the world's dirtiest virgins. Link to post Share on other sites
EyesWideOpen Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 Ha! I agree with Ross. Why would you want it back? And if I met a guy virgin (or even a girl virgin) past their mid-twenties, I would wonder what kind of emotional baggage they're carrying around to make them so afraid of sex. And I did the whole marrying first love thing. Really not all that it's cracked up to be. Yeah, sure...once in a blue moon it works out for someone. But for the majority it ends in epic disaster. I wholeheartedly advocate getting to know you're compatible with someone on ALL levels before you take that leap. Perhaps the divorce rate would go down if people didn't cling to naive ideology and rush into marriage without a clue as to what they're really signing up for. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 Sometimes it's not always down to being scared of sex. Some people just aren't able to attract others. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 I can attract others. I just can't keep them attracted. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabella Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 As a woman, I couldn't agree more with DreamerGirl. When I met my current boyfriend, he was a virgin... and it wasn't because he wasn't attractive and hadn't had opportunities. He just didn't believe in losing his virginity to someone he didn't love. I was his first, and I'm proud of the fact he chose to love me and share such a special, unique moment with me. The first few times, there were small issues stemming from lack of experience that we had to overcome, but I didn't mind. Knowing that he hadn't been touched by any other women made it definitely worth it to me. Arabella Link to post Share on other sites
Floridaman Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 It just comes across as unhealthy to me for a man or woman to be near to their mid twenties or older and to still be a virgin. Whether by choice or not. Judgement and condescension here. There's nothing wrong with a man or woman being a virgin in their late 20s or later. Some are by choice - they have a religious belief or are waiting for the right person. They've likely had opportunities, after all. Others don't get the same breaks others do, or even if they did get an "offer", they realized it wouldn't make sense and wanted to have feelings for the other person. It's unfortunate so many look down on older virgins.. Really, it should be about the person....there is more to a person than whether or not they have had sex. Face it, 13 year olds are having sex...does that mean they are superior to older people who haven't had sex? What does a 13 year old know about life? So big deal if that 13 year old knows all the right sexual moves. Funny how the masses think that having sex makes someone suddenly "one of them" and acceptable into their exclusive club. It is so exclusive that 13 year olds are part of it..that women with babies from different fathers are part of it...that playboys are part of it.. that Charlie Sheen, a totally messed up man is part of it....and the list goes on. No one should feel embarassed or ashamed for being a virgin - at any age. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 There is something wrong with being a virgin in your mid to late 20's if you no longer wish to be. An older involuntary virgin has not had opportunities to have sex, or if they did have the chance, there was something wrong with the circumstance. An older involuntary virgin is not the norm in this society and a sign that something is off about the person. In almost all cases the involuntary virgin is a man who does very poorly with women. Which begs the question why does he do so poorly with women? What is wrong with him? Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 De-virginizing a guy is ****ing awesome. Plus it is wonderful to be special first. Link to post Share on other sites
Floridaman Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 Ha! I agree with Ross. Why would you want it back? And if I met a guy virgin (or even a girl virgin) past their mid-twenties, I would wonder what kind of emotional baggage they're carrying around to make them so afraid of sex. Though some older virgins may be headcases, I'd suspect most aren't. Here's some dating experience a female friend of mine endured: 1) Divorced man who thought I was fat because I weighed more than 110 pounds. He'd order a salad for me in the restaurants. 2) Another guy (I lived with this loser for sometime) who was never married but bragged about sleeping with over 100 women. Did I mention he forced two girlfriends to get abortions, was proud that he slept with many hookers, told me if I got pregnant I'd better have an abortion or he'd leave me? 3) Another guy who had several kids out of wedlock and was proud of this. Didn't date him long at all. 4) A couple guys I dated who had kids, previously married but in terrible situations with exes. Notice not one guy was a virgin? Link to post Share on other sites
Floridaman Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 (edited) Sometimes it's not always down to being scared of sex. Some people just aren't able to attract others. Agreed. I did have an opportunity and unfortunately, took it at 17 in HS, one of my biggest life regrets. So someone doesn't come off all superior to --- and judgemental of --- others, like we're back in HS and in the "in crowd," I think it would be much more accurate to say statistically (only) older virgins are "not the norm...." Edited April 12, 2011 by Floridaman Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 LOL, if I had waited until I was in a compatible, mutually healthy relationship, I'd still be a virgin. As it was, mid-30's was enough. Just another sideshow of life. Next. Link to post Share on other sites
Floridaman Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 (edited) Just so no one misunderstands where I'm comin' from.... Though I had limited sexual experience until I met my wife at 30.... 3X in HS and 2 encounters in my late 20s... I don't condemn, laugh at or think less of guys/gals who are virgins. I dated some in my late 20s.... and honored their wishes in "semi-sex" situations.... Was more interested in finding a relationship than satisfying my sexual desires.. Also dated a 30 y.o. virgin who condemned me for not being a virgin at 26.... On the other hand, my defending virgins here doesn't mean I think any less of the "more experienced" folk here. So don't take what I say as a criticism of others' life choices. A virgin isn't necessarily superior or inferior to a non-virgin and just bec. someone has had loads of sex and lots of experience, that doesn't mean that person is any better (or inferior) than a virgin. It's all about life experiences, you know.... Edited April 12, 2011 by Floridaman Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted April 12, 2011 Share Posted April 12, 2011 An older involuntary virgin is not the norm in this society and a sign that something is off about the person. In almost all cases the involuntary virgin is a man who does very poorly with women. Which begs the question why does he do so poorly with women? What is wrong with him? There isn't necessarily anything wrong with him. When I met my bf he was a virgin in his late twenties, and he's a perfectly normal guy - normal in terms of looks, intelligence, personality, etc - he was just shy and didn't have the self esteem or confidence to approach women. Maybe he wasn't happy about not having the opportunity to have sex, but his virginity wasn't an issue, and I certainly never thought there was anything wrong with him. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 There isn't necessarily anything wrong with him. When I met my bf he was a virgin in his late twenties, and he's a perfectly normal guy - normal in terms of looks, intelligence, personality, etc - he was just shy and didn't have the self esteem or confidence to approach women. Maybe he wasn't happy about not having the opportunity to have sex, but his virginity wasn't an issue, and I certainly never thought there was anything wrong with him. Not having self-esteem or confidence is something wrong. I'm also really surprised that a guy with low self-esteem and confidence even manged to get a girlfriend at all. How did that even happen? Link to post Share on other sites
Floridaman Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 (edited) Originally Posted by somedude81 An older involuntary virgin is not the norm in this society and a sign that something is off about the person. In almost all cases the involuntary virgin is a man who does very poorly with women. Which begs the question why does he do so poorly with women? What is wrong with him? Not having self-esteem or confidence is something wrong. I'm also really surprised that a guy with low self-esteem and confidence even manged to get a girlfriend at all. How did that even happen? You have some kind of superiority complex? So what if another guy (or gal) isn't at your "level" and hasn't had numerous opportunities - or may have declined some opportunities. What's it to you? Why is it your business? People who say no are often stronger - and more respected - than those that sleep with anything that walks... Remember, when it comes time in a relationship when a couple has that "talk" about each's sexual experience, it's not the one who has had very little or no sexual experience that has to explain him or herself.... Edited April 13, 2011 by Floridaman Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 You have some kind of superiority complex? So what it another guy (or gal) isn't at your "level" and hasn't had numerous opportunities - or may have declined some opportunities. Of course not. You obviously haven't seen any of my posts. For if you did, you would know that I'm talking about myself. Link to post Share on other sites
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