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[tollmeyer]

Well I seem to be in slight moral dilemma, and need some anonymous ideas. And some of this may sound retarded, so to speak.

 

I seem to have developed an relationship with a friend/co-worker. I'm 29 and she's 18. Now it's obvious that she wants to progress to more than friends. In a fortnight we are going away for a couple of days, somethng she has been rather persistant on us going away. Up until last Friday everything was moving along really great.

 

I've had one major problem since getting divorced, once something gets serious, I end it. Last Friday we basically hit the point to move to more than friends but due to having a blue with 'The Ex' over our son and Ex-girlfriend from years ago I wasn't in the mood for anything. After a lot of coaxing/bribing of me, me and 18 year old went out, to cut a long story short, I wound up feeling like I needed to kill the relationship, got her blind drunk knowing she'd pass out (she was refusing to go home and wanted to spend the night with me) and instead of sleeping with her, put her to sleep in my sons room (he was with his mother) and I went to sleep in mine. Probably not the best move.

 

As a result, she went back to her old ex on Sat night. Sunday night I spoke to her and told her to make up her mind(when it's probably me that should make up his), told her to think about over a couple of days. We went for a bit tonight and like usual, got on like a house on fire, etc.

 

Even though I feel like running due to it starting to get serious, I feel more like staying and seeing what happens with the realtionship, partly due to her being the first female out of quite a few I've dated since MY EX that I let my guard down with. Working together isn't an issue if we do go forward as i'm handing my resignation in at the end of the month to pursue another field that interests me more.

 

Now everyone is telling me to just go along with the weekend away, enjoy it, if anything happens, then anything happens and make my decision after the it. I was going to leave the issue of her making up her mind for over the weekend away, most of my friends agree with it with doing it that way. Now should I bring up the issue over the next couple of days or just go along with the weekend away and then raise it?

 

Secondly, tact isn't one of my strong points at times. How should I bring it up if I don't wait until after the weekend away? Most of my friends are under the impression to setup a phone call via text instead of me being straight to the point like I usually am. Most have suggested 'Hey, can you give us a call about what we spoke about Sunday'.

 

Her running back to the ex for a night hasn't phased me, but does mean the issue needs to be brought up.