My Daily "No Contact" Journey Journal

[orangelady]

Thank You!

 

Hmmm are you planning to win her back or you're done with her and just want to improve your life?

[MrStinky]

Hmmm are you planning to win her back or you're done with her and just want to improve your life?

 

Regardless of what happens in the future between the two of us, I will be improving my life.

 

If she wants to find a way back into my life in that capacity, who knows? I guess we'll cross that bridge when we come to it.

 

As of right now, I am working on me.

 

I sometimes think that her leaving me could be the best thing that ever happened to me.

 

I already have a new body, new clothing, new style, new friends, new interests, etc. and I plan to keep improving all the above areas for the rest of my life.

 

I know she is very confused (she says she isn't and told me the day she broke up with me she is "very confident in her decision") as she has tried to do things with me most people who have broken up do not do - such as letting me:

 

• video tape us having sex 2 weeks after she broke up with me
  
• take 80+ pictures of her naked 4 weeks after she broke up with me
  
• having sex with me 4 times in the month after we broke up
  
• kissing me about 7 weeks after we broke up
  
• wanting to know all about my life and what I am up to
  
• still working for my mother
  
• etc, etc, etc.
  

I guess only time will tell if she is happy with her decision or if it will be the biggest regret of her life.

 

We talked about marriage, kids, growing old, how I couldn't do anything to make her leave me, blah, blah, blah

 

Maybe she thinks she just needs a break to reevaluate her life. All I know is I am not waiting around for her -and- if she wants me, she'll have to come find me.

 

And we'll figure things out then.

 

I'm not holding my breath and truthfully, I would lean more on not taking her back, rather than starting over with her.

[MrStinky]

Day Eighteen

 

Today, I didn't see her. So it was good after yesterdays bump in the road.

 

I worked until 3 and hung around to talk to my co-workers until around 4pm.

 

After that I went to get my hair cut. Looking snazzy

 

I think I am going to start getting it done every 2 - 3 weeks as the place I go to now is only $5!

 

I then went to the bank to get some money and pay some bills.

 

And from there I went to the gym to do an upper body workout.

 

I got home, ate some food and went on my bike ride.

 

I am down 70 pounds since I started losing weight (50 since she dumped me).

 

A friend a mine called and we talked about how excited I am about watching the UFC tomorrow night. And it's in my hometown! I wont be there but and bunch of friends and I are watching it on PayPerView.

 

I was exhausted so I went to bed around 11pm.

 

At one point during my sleep I was dreaming about a man in a boat and it was taking on water. My oldest brother and I were in the dream and we started collecting buckets of this water and tossing it overboard to prevent it from sinking and when I woke up, this thought popped into my head:

 

"No matter how great the boat, if it takes on too much water, it will sink."

I guess my "boat" took on too much water and it sunk. I honestly thought I was "unsinkable" like the titanic because of all she told me about her never ending, undying love for me.

 

I thought we could have made it through anything.

 

I guessed wrong. Today was...

 

But life goes on, I'll meet new people and like forum member JasonRules said:

 

The bottom line is this; I can find many women like her, but she will never find another man like me

 

Today was...

 

...a success!

[Sassygirl2]

70 lbs. is a lot of weight! That's how much my daughter weighs! Good for you. You must be feeling much better.

 

Do you still miss her? Do you still get those pangs in your stomach like you want to cry and throw up at the same time? I get this feeling every day around 2pm because that is the time we would always talk to plan the evening. I am just missing my bf so much. It's been two weeks since I've seen him but I talked to him a couple days ago. We share a puppy that we just got 2 months ago so we were making arrangements for him to pick her up, etc. I have to see him tomorrow because I am picking the dog up from him and I'm getting really anxious about it. I want to run into his arms and ask him to give me another chance (how pathetic, huh?) but I know it probably won't work and it will make me look like a loser. I have been really strong when talking to him and trying to be "cool". I don't want him to know how much I am hurting. Anyway, sorry didn't mean to hijack your thread.

 

I'm proud of your success - it's awesome!

[bringherbackbobby]

Mr. Stinky! You're doing the right thing bro!

 

I think 'break ups' can be one of the most inspirational experiences. Especially if you understand the concept that life is 10% what happens and 90% how you respond to what's happened.

 

I'm not sure if you have read the book "Think & Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill, but it's a great read.

 

In this book Napoleon references many men who achieved great success in their lives motivated by the 'loss' or 'desire' of a woman.

 

There is a chapter called 'The Mystery of Sex Transmutation' in which he talks about the powerful influence women have on men, and how men who have the ability to channel that energy of 'desire' into other activities (such as working out, and personal development) tap into a motivation and an energy SO strong that it is almost unparalleled.

 

The emotions you have flowing through you right now are powerful, and I see that you are harnessing that power to create some dramatic results in your life, (losing 70 pds) so I commend you young Jedi!

 

Keep it up!

[MrStinky]

70 lbs. is a lot of weight! That's how much my daughter weighs! Good for you. You must be feeling much better.

 

Do you still miss her? Do you still get those pangs in your stomach like you want to cry and throw up at the same time? I get this feeling every day around 2pm because that is the time we would always talk to plan the evening. I am just missing my bf so much. It's been two weeks since I've seen him but I talked to him a couple days ago. We share a puppy that we just got 2 months ago so we were making arrangements for him to pick her up, etc. I have to see him tomorrow because I am picking the dog up from him and I'm getting really anxious about it. I want to run into his arms and ask him to give me another chance (how pathetic, huh?) but I know it probably won't work and it will make me look like a loser. I have been really strong when talking to him and trying to be "cool". I don't want him to know how much I am hurting. Anyway, sorry didn't mean to hijack your thread.

 

I'm proud of your success - it's awesome!

 

It is alot of weight. I still want to lose another 20 - 25 pounds to get ripped!

 

I do still miss her but my desire to be strong and grow from this experience actually trumps my desire to cave in and speak/see/touch/kiss her right now.

 

Also, I hope to GOD that she comes crawling back to me and as a result gives me ultimate power! It sounds so spiteful but it is true.

 

I do at times wonder how I have been so resilient so quickly after the breakup. I often think of how I was an emotional wreck for a couple weeks and now am starting to really level out with my feelings.

 

I haven't cried about it since about a month after she broke up with me and that was only because I found a note she had written me around Christmas about how she wanted to spend the rest of her Christmases with me.

 

I have been good since then.

 

Stay strong.

 

Don't run into his arms.

 

People:

 

1. want what they don't have
   
2. want what is in scarce supply
   
3. do not realize what they had until its gone
   

Follow those 3 principles and you will either emerge stronger without him -or- make him want you again.

 

Please don't feel you are hijacking this thread.

 

Post here anytime you want to vent or feel my advice can help.

[MrStinky]

Mr. Stinky! You're doing the right thing bro!

 

I think 'break ups' can be one of the most inspirational experiences. Especially if you understand the concept that life is 10% what happens and 90% how you respond to what's happened.

 

I'm not sure if you have read the book "Think & Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill, but it's a great read.

 

In this book Napoleon references many men who achieved great success in their lives motivated by the 'loss' or 'desire' of a woman.

 

There is a chapter called 'The Mystery of Sex Transmutation' in which he talks about the powerful influence women have on men, and how men who have the ability to channel that energy of 'desire' into other activities (such as working out, and personal development) tap into a motivation and an energy SO strong that it is almost unparalleled.

 

The emotions you have flowing through you right now are powerful, and I see that you are harnessing that power to create some dramatic results in your life, (losing 70 pds) so I commend you young Jedi!

 

Keep it up!

 

Thank You!

 

This has been a huge inspiration to change almost all aspects of my life.

 

Also, it has shown me so much in terms of the opposite sex and how to act and react around them.

 

I have read the book and enjoyed it alot.

 

I guess I am using this loss to better myself and my will power has grown immensely because of this experience.

 

I now think twice before I ever consider putting any junk food in my mouth

[orangelady]

People:

 

1. want what they don't have
   
2. want what is in scarce supply
   
3. do not realize what they had until its gone
   

Follow those 3 principles and you will either emerge stronger without him -or- make him want you again.

 

I don't think this is true for me, Mr Stinky. I had a sorta online relationship that was meant to be brought into reality into meeting up. This guy has depression and had no job for the last 3 years but promised to find one so that we can meet and eventually be together. After 1.5 years, I see he does nothing but sit at home, go for yoga, watch a lot of movies, listen to music and that's it. He did not bother to look for a job. So one day, I gave him an ultimatum, that if he does not get a job to meet me by this x day, we are over. Guess what? He didn't find a job and I gave up.

 

We have stopped chatting and emailing etc for over a month and I don't think he misses me. He is just sinking deep and deeper into his depression. I feel like I was such an idiot because obviously he didn't love me. I don't understand how a grown man (He is 36) could live his life this way, day after day at home, with no job (he can get one, its not the economy), watch TV and go online 365 days a year.

 

 

I am torn over this because I invested so much feelings and emotions into this thinking it would materialize. So nope, even though there is no contact, etc it doesn't mean your ex will want you back just because you left.

 

At least, it doesn't apply to me. Maybe because he never really loved me or he doesn't need me.

[captured_butterfly]

Hi Mr Stinky

 

Read your NC journal this morning and found it very inspirational and full of hope. Im having a really tough time and finding it hard to get motivated. Its been nearly 2 weeks since the ex broke up with me and he's since been txting me telling me how sorry he is and that he still loves me :-( VERY hard to ignore but know like you that if theres any chance then have to improve myself first and he has to change himself aswell and that wont happen with us being together.

I guess im just feeling really lonely, i suffer from anxiety and im starting to panic that im never going to find anyone else and that at least if i get back with my ex we could have some happiness and have kids. (I know this isnt the best route) I dont really have any friends that i can go see and so all i do is mostly wallow at home thinking how sad my life is :-(

I have been inspired by your thread to try get out and about, even if its just on my own, get some new clothes, go for walks and try think about the positives in my life, but my god its sooo very hard :-(

[MrStinky]

I don't think this is true for me, Mr Stinky. I had a sorta online relationship that was meant to be brought into reality into meeting up. This guy has depression and had no job for the last 3 years but promised to find one so that we can meet and eventually be together. After 1.5 years, I see he does nothing but sit at home, go for yoga, watch a lot of movies, listen to music and that's it. He did not bother to look for a job. So one day, I gave him an ultimatum, that if he does not get a job to meet me by this x day, we are over. Guess what? He didn't find a job and I gave up.

 

We have stopped chatting and emailing etc for over a month and I don't think he misses me. He is just sinking deep and deeper into his depression. I feel like I was such an idiot because obviously he didn't love me. I don't understand how a grown man (He is 36) could live his life this way, day after day at home, with no job (he can get one, its not the economy), watch TV and go online 365 days a year.

 

 

I am torn over this because I invested so much feelings and emotions into this thinking it would materialize. So nope, even though there is no contact, etc it doesn't mean your ex will want you back just because you left.

 

At least, it doesn't apply to me. Maybe because he never really loved me or he doesn't need me.

 

I agree it doesn't work all the time, but I was with my "ex" for almost 7 years.

 

From her reaction to me in the weeks that followed (even though she broke up with me) the 3 were apparent.

 

Two things come to mind for this gentleman as to why it will not work in your situation.

 

Dr. Phil has 10 life laws.

 

One of them is "People do what works." From what I can gather, you never met with him in person. So what "works" for him is not getting a job.

 

Dr. Phil goes on to say "Identify the payoffs that drive your behavior." His payoff is that he doesn't have to do anything, nothing in his life has to change and he can remain stagnant but happy.

 

You also said he didn't love you and doesn't need you. That is another reason why they will not be applicable here.

 

For example, I went on a date a month ago and she was nice but if I never saw her again, I couldn't care less.

 

Another thing is Tony Robbins talks about "Motivating Factors."

 

Any time we make a decision about anything, it is because of the strongest motivator.

 

For example, with my weight loss I have had many times where I have been tested. I don't have a sweet tooth. I have sweet teeth!

 

Yesterday, my brother was eating pizza, wings, potato wedges, pop, etc and kept asking me if I wanted any.

 

I love all that food but the idea of weight loss and continuing on my path was more motivating than the idea of enjoying the food and flavor in the moment.

[Sassygirl2]

I like the advice from Dr. Phil, "People do what works". The only thing is this is such a broad statement and can be related to a lot of things. But I understand what you meant by it.

 

I am going to see my exbf today. He is bringing "our" dog back over. He has had her for the past 5 days. I texted him last night to see if I could pick her up this morning from him but he said he would drop her off to my place. We both have our kids this weekend so it isn't a big deal. I wasn't going to try to get into a big conversation with him (although I have thought about it). I think the best thing is to be cordial and friendly. He will not want to talk about anything anyway. I want him to see that I'm doing OK because I am sure he thought that I would just fall apart without him. The more I am away from him, the more I see the issues and things I need to work on for myself to be happy. Maybe this was a gift in disguise (him breaking up with me). It gave me the needed push to take care of myself and my issues of insecurity and anger.

 

The last conversation I had with him about our relationship being "over" I asked him if he thought that sometime in the future we might be able to work this out. He said, "I cannot predict the future and don't know what will happen." He used to say this about his feelings of marriage. I guess I am just hoping that someday it's possible he and I could work this out. That is probably not good or beneficial for me but sometimes I feel that way. What do you think he meant by that?

[MrStinky]

Hi Mr Stinky

 

Read your NC journal this morning and found it very inspirational and full of hope. Im having a really tough time and finding it hard to get motivated. Its been nearly 2 weeks since the ex broke up with me and he's since been txting me telling me how sorry he is and that he still loves me :-( VERY hard to ignore but know like you that if theres any chance then have to improve myself first and he has to change himself aswell and that wont happen with us being together.

I guess im just feeling really lonely, i suffer from anxiety and im starting to panic that im never going to find anyone else and that at least if i get back with my ex we could have some happiness and have kids. (I know this isnt the best route) I dont really have any friends that i can go see and so all i do is mostly wallow at home thinking how sad my life is :-(

I have been inspired by your thread to try get out and about, even if its just on my own, get some new clothes, go for walks and try think about the positives in my life, but my god its sooo very hard :-(

 

I tell you the honest truth.

 

You need to give yourself some time to grieve.

 

I did and it helped tremendously.

 

Give yourself time to improve yourself, your life and your emotions.

 

I too suffer from anxiety and believe me... it gets better.

 

I thought I would never find another person I could love, hated that I had to start all over again, thought it was too late into life, thought that I wasted 7 years with her, wanted her to be the mother of my kids, etc but you realize this is all a knee jerk reaction.

 

You have a friend in me and if you ever need anything, post on this thread and I will write back to you. I promise!

 

I thought this was going the be the hardest thing in my life I had ever had to deal with (and to a certain degree it was) but you get stronger and it gets better.

 

Time will heal everything.

 

I truly though that was pure, 100% bullshoot - but it is completely true!

 

I'm rooting for you!

[MrStinky]

I like the advice from Dr. Phil, "People do what works". The only thing is this is such a broad statement and can be related to a lot of things. But I understand what you meant by it.

 

I am going to see my exbf today. He is bringing "our" dog back over. He has had her for the past 5 days. I texted him last night to see if I could pick her up this morning from him but he said he would drop her off to my place. We both have our kids this weekend so it isn't a big deal. I wasn't going to try to get into a big conversation with him (although I have thought about it). I think the best thing is to be cordial and friendly. He will not want to talk about anything anyway. I want him to see that I'm doing OK because I am sure he thought that I would just fall apart without him. The more I am away from him, the more I see the issues and things I need to work on for myself to be happy. Maybe this was a gift in disguise (him breaking up with me). It gave me the needed push to take care of myself and my issues of insecurity and anger.

 

The last conversation I had with him about our relationship being "over" I asked him if he thought that sometime in the future we might be able to work this out. He said, "I cannot predict the future and don't know what will happen." He used to say this about his feelings of marriage. I guess I am just hoping that someday it's possible he and I could work this out. That is probably not good or beneficial for me but sometimes I feel that way. What do you think he meant by that?

 

It is related to alot of things but it is very specific in why people break up with people.

 

I think that it "worked" in my ex's life to break up with me.

 

It doesn't mean she will or wont be happy with her decision.

 

I would advise against a long conversation and tell him that you are meeting a "friend" so you can't chat long. It will get the wheels turning in his head because it is quite an ambiguous statement. Guys hate that stuff!

 

Also, act very happy in front of him and imply that life is great and you're doing fine.

 

It's good that you see what you need to work on. Now simply work on it, get better and make yourself un-breakup-able to the next man (potentially him again).

 

I think he meant 1 of 2 things.

 

Either he never wants to and is trying to soften the blow

 

-or-

 

He genuinely doesn't know and needs some time and space to think about it.

 

Either way, you need to become the best you can be so regardless of what happens between you and him, you will be happy and so will your next partner.

[broken-and-lost]

I was having a really tough day today m8 and reading your blog has really helped a lot it's been a a tough six months and about two weeks into NC, it's nice to read your thoughts and how your dealing with your break up, keep it up i hope i'll be strong again soon

[captured_butterfly]

Thanx sooo much Mr Stinky :-)

 

I know im just panicking but its hard, i would never have guessed you suffered from anxiety by the way you write your journals, your very inspiring :-)

My ex has left me with a LOT of insecurities and loss of confidence which is why ive got it in my head that at 24yrs old im too old to find anyone else and that i'll never get married or have kids, but im working on it, determind to make me happy for once and concentrate on myself.

A couple of people from my work who are quite a bit older than me have mentioned doing a college course with me so thats something im going to look into. A step in the right direction i hope :-)

Thanx again for your kind words :-)

[MrStinky]

I was having a really tough day today m8 and reading your blog has really helped a lot it's been a a tough six months and about two weeks into NC, it's nice to read your thoughts and how your dealing with your break up, keep it up i hope i'll be strong again soon

 

Thank you!

 

Saturdays and Sundays are always the worst for thoughts and feelings about the ex

 

You will definitely be strong again soon.

 

Keep up the NC and you'll be fine

[MrStinky]

Thanx sooo much Mr Stinky :-)

 

I know im just panicking but its hard, i would never have guessed you suffered from anxiety by the way you write your journals, your very inspiring :-)

My ex has left me with a LOT of insecurities and loss of confidence which is why ive got it in my head that at 24yrs old im too old to find anyone else and that i'll never get married or have kids, but im working on it, determind to make me happy for once and concentrate on myself.

A couple of people from my work who are quite a bit older than me have mentioned doing a college course with me so thats something im going to look into. A step in the right direction i hope :-)

Thanx again for your kind words :-)

 

No problem.

 

I have suffered from anxiety, social anxiety, depression and OCD in my life. I ironically purchased some books on...

 

• social anxiety
  
• confidence
  
• shyness
  

...before the "ex" broke up with me.

 

You will get over it. There are so many good resources on the internet like this one to help you get better. It has helped me tremendously!

 

I am only 25 so I know how you feel about getting married, finding a new love, having kids, etc.

 

An education is never a bad thing.

 

I think you'll do great with it!

[Sassygirl2]

Thanks Mr.S. He just dropped off the puppy who I am so glad to see! He was very nice and friendly, even came in for a minute and said hi to my girls. He told us about what the dog has been up to (going to the dog parks, etc.) and that was about it. He kept saying, "I gotta go to pick up my kids from church" and he said it three times but kept hanging around. Finally I said, "OK! Well, thanks for taking her for a few days and talk to you later!" I was great - my kids were great. Then when he drove away I started to cry. I just miss him so much. I was doing really good and now I feel like I've moved backwards.

 

The good news is I am losing weight! 5 lbs the last two weeks and that feels great. I am taking the girls swimming today so that will hopefully get my mind off of him.

 

I have anxiety too. Do any of you LSer's in this thread take meds for it? I had to take Ativan because after my divorce 5 years ago, I started getting panic attacks. I am better now but still take it once in awhile.

[captured_butterfly]

Hey

 

I suffer from social anxiety and this majorly holds me back, feel not good enough and that people are constantly talking about me negatively, cant believe you suffer from this too, your posts always come across like your a confident guy.

 

Nice to talk to someone who's in a very similar position, hate worrying i'll never find anyone or i'll never move out of my parents house :-( Constantly worrying people are looking at me and thinking 'what a sad life she has!'

 

Im currently looking into seeing a therapist (haha but worried people will steer clear of me even more!) to deal with issues that blighted my relationship but also to deal with my difficult childhood.

 

Sassygirl2 - never taken meds for my anxiety, just avoided the truth for a long time.

 

I do try to beleive that everything happens for a reason, and that life is already mapped out for us, just hope someone up there is looking out for me :-)

[MrStinky]

Day Eighteen

 

Today was a good day.

 

I woke up around 10am and surfed the net and watched some tv.

 

At some food at noon and was off to the gym for my leg workout at around 2pm. It was great.

 

I feel like every drop of sweat in the gym is making me more handsome

 

After that I came home and watched some specials on the UFC fights that were on later.

 

At around 7pm my brother and I went to a mutual friends house to watch the fights. There were about 15 other people there so it was quite an awesome environment for the fights.

 

A good majority of the fighters who I like won their fights!

 

After that, I came home with my brother and hoped on the computer for about half and hour and then went to bed.

 

I was quite tired so I feel asleep really quickly.

 

I had no urges whatsoever to call or text her and maybe thought about her a couple times.

 

The desire to contact her is getting less and less every day and so is any remaining pain.

 

It is getting better and I'm recovering faster than I ever thought.

 

I am even walking with a bit of a swagger at the thought of her seeing me when I am super fit and ripped.

 

It'll be priceless.

 

Today was...

 

...a success!

[MrStinky]

Thanks Mr.S. He just dropped off the puppy who I am so glad to see! He was very nice and friendly, even came in for a minute and said hi to my girls. He told us about what the dog has been up to (going to the dog parks, etc.) and that was about it. He kept saying, "I gotta go to pick up my kids from church" and he said it three times but kept hanging around. Finally I said, "OK! Well, thanks for taking her for a few days and talk to you later!" I was great - my kids were great. Then when he drove away I started to cry. I just miss him so much. I was doing really good and now I feel like I've moved backwards.

 

The good news is I am losing weight! 5 lbs the last two weeks and that feels great. I am taking the girls swimming today so that will hopefully get my mind off of him.

 

I have anxiety too. Do any of you LSer's in this thread take meds for it? I had to take Ativan because after my divorce 5 years ago, I started getting panic attacks. I am better now but still take it once in awhile.

 

It's ok to cry. It doesn't mean you took a step back. It means you're human and you have a heart.

 

There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

 

Believe me. I went through the same thing.

 

It will get easier and your emotions will level out and you will no longer cry. I assure you.

 

Your weight loss is FANTASTIC! Keep up the good work. The only thing between you and your goal weight is you. As long as you keep your mind on the prize, you will continue to lose weight.

 

I don't take meds.

 

I'm all about CBT.

 

Read this book. It talks about CBT and it has been scientifically shown to be better than medication.

 

I read it and it was fantastic!

[MrStinky]

Hey

 

I suffer from social anxiety and this majorly holds me back, feel not good enough and that people are constantly talking about me negatively, cant believe you suffer from this too, your posts always come across like your a confident guy.

 

Nice to talk to someone who's in a very similar position, hate worrying i'll never find anyone or i'll never move out of my parents house :-( Constantly worrying people are looking at me and thinking 'what a sad life she has!'

 

Im currently looking into seeing a therapist (haha but worried people will steer clear of me even more!) to deal with issues that blighted my relationship but also to deal with my difficult childhood.

 

Sassygirl2 - never taken meds for my anxiety, just avoided the truth for a long time.

 

I do try to beleive that everything happens for a reason, and that life is already mapped out for us, just hope someone up there is looking out for me :-)

 

The reason I come across as a confident guy is because I have been working on my confidence. And I continue to work on it.

 

I wasn't always like this.

 

There is a saying "If you knew how little people thought about you, you wouldn't worry about how little people think of you." I assure you, its all in your head.

 

Once I learned that, it changed alot of things!

 

Besides, who cares what people think of you. It's your life, not theirs!

 

There is nothing wrong with therapy. If you need it, use it!

 

God does have a plan and everything does happen for a reason.

 

We may not know what that reason is at the time but I guarantee there is a good reason for it

[MrStinky]

Day Nineteen

 

Today was a eye opening day.

 

I woke up around 11am.

 

I had some breakfast and watched TV with my brother.

 

I also hoped on the web for a bit.

 

Anyways, about a week ago when I was on Facebook, the "ex's" mother (with whom I have a great relationship with) asked me via chat if I wanted to get together.

 

I said sure and we scheduled the Sunday afternoon.

 

We met at around 2pm at Starbucks and chatted about life but the conversation kept coming back to the "ex" and when it did I learned some very interesting things.

 

There were at least 3 occasions when very casually her mom brought up situations and I knew right away that they were untrue.

 

For example, she said that she was still working 2 days a week (Tuesday and Thursday) for a lawyer.

 

She doesn't. And she hasn't since a couple years ago.

 

Now this may seem innocent but the "ex" lies so easily. She literally is a pathological liar.

 

I only learned about her lies to me after she boke up with me.

 

It's ridiculous how many lies she tells.

 

I can't trust her at all and how no idea what is fact and fiction with her.

 

Also, I ran into her brother a while back when I was with about 6 friends.

 

Her mom was telling me he brought this up at a family diner and she went crazy asking questions about me.

 

"Who was he with?"

"Where were they?"

"Etc, etc, etc."

 

Her mom noticed this right away.

 

It's funny, because my brother and I are planning on moving out together for June 1st and the "ex's" mom thinks that the "ex" realizes she will have literally no tabs on my life and in an effort to get that back will try to start the relationship with me again.

 

Also, the "ex" is going to her friends wedding in 2 weeks and that seems to spark nostalgia, romance and loneliness in some girls.

 

Either way, I will keep you all posted on any developments.

 

So in the end, today was...

 

...a success!

[Exit]

Whoa, I think you missed a page in the NC instruction booklet if you're still hanging out and exchanging dirt with your ex's mom! What good is that going to do you? And your post is a little vague, is her mom lying about still working two days a week, or is your ex lying to her mother that she's still working?

 

Are you doing NC in the hopes that this girl comes back? Sounds like it.

Edited May 2, 2011 by Exit

[orangelady]

Are you doing NC in the hopes that this girl comes back? Sounds like it.

 

Yes, he is. Definitely. It's pretty obvious.