My Daily "No Contact" Journey Journal

[MrStinky]

Hey MS.. you are quickly turning this NC journal into a how to move on, be happy with yourself and lose a ton of weight in the process Journal..

 

Good on you.. and congrats on the weight loss success....

 

Thank You!

[Sassygirl2]

WOW - down 75 lbs. is incredible. Good for you MS! Do you even have thoughts of wanting her back now or are you just soaking up all the attention you must be getting with your new bod? I would think that the ladies are giving you some looks and you are feeling like there might be one out there for you that is better suited to your needs? I don't know.

How long now has it taken you to lose this weight?

[captured_butterfly]

Hey Mr S

 

Glad to hear your doing really well :-) Must say its coming up to nearly 3 weeks of the break up and nearly 1 week of NC and im not doing too bad, started thinking that perhaps there is someone better out there that wont lie or cheat on me.

Had a bit of a set back today though, was going to go out with my brothers for a couple of drinks in a rock/motorbiker bar (my kinda guys!) but got there and it was £10 just to get in so they wanted to go to another bar that i knew the ex hangs out at and i just couldnt go, the thought of seeing him made me sad so i just went home :-( Now feeling like i wanna txt or ring him :-(

Hoping tomorrow will be a better day :-(

[MrStinky]

WOW - down 75 lbs. is incredible. Good for you MS! Do you even have thoughts of wanting her back now or are you just soaking up all the attention you must be getting with your new bod? I would think that the ladies are giving you some looks and you are feeling like there might be one out there for you that is better suited to your needs? I don't know.

How long now has it taken you to lose this weight?

 

Thank You!

 

Do I thoughts of taking her back?

 

Well, initially after the break up I would have done it in a heart beat but now that it has been over 3 months apart maybe 5-10% of me would.

 

Again, that part of me would be my heart - not my head!

 

She lies all the time. To me, to her family, to her friends, to my family, etc.

 

She is also a thief. To the point where she could have had the police called on her for stealing:

 

• large sums of money
  
• clothing
  
• nick nacks
  
• personal belongings
  
• etc, etc, etc
  

She also LOVES to play the victim. She wants everybody to feel sorry for her!

 

Also, since I have been apart from her I have seen that life is still good, the sun still shines and I am doing well and am quite happy with all the freedom!

 

To be honest, I haven't been going out much (don't have the time) since I work out almost 1.5 hours a day and then work + the commute to and from work + doing things around the house - so I don't really notice any of the female attention.

 

I also want to get down to about 170 - 175 and know I will be ripped by then.

 

I'm also waiting on getting my apartment with my brother.

 

That is when I want to start going out and trying to meet new girls.

 

Also, when I have lost all the weight I am going to become a fitness personal trainer. I am already certified and when I do start training people for weight loss I will realistically triple my income and have more free time (and money ) for the next girl in my life!

 

I agree. There is definitely somebody better out there for my needs!

 

This weight loss has taken me less than 5 months.

 

The reason it has been so rapid is for the following reasons:

 

• low carb (you lose ALOT more weight and do so alot quicker)
  
• I'm a guy (we lose it 2x as fast as women)
  
• weight training 6 days a week (it is the BEST form of exercise for fat loss)
  
• HIIT Cardio 7 days a week (it has been shown to burn 9x more fat than regular cardio)
  

Hope all is well with you!

[MrStinky]

Hey Mr S

 

Glad to hear your doing really well :-) Must say its coming up to nearly 3 weeks of the break up and nearly 1 week of NC and im not doing too bad, started thinking that perhaps there is someone better out there that wont lie or cheat on me.

Had a bit of a set back today though, was going to go out with my brothers for a couple of drinks in a rock/motorbiker bar (my kinda guys!) but got there and it was £10 just to get in so they wanted to go to another bar that i knew the ex hangs out at and i just couldnt go, the thought of seeing him made me sad so i just went home :-( Now feeling like i wanna txt or ring him :-(

Hoping tomorrow will be a better day :-(

 

Thank you!

 

There is ALWAYS somebody better out there for you if he was lying or cheating on you!

 

Stay strong. I know the feeling. But if you text him it will only stroke his ego and shatter yours. DON'T DO IT! I know it is easier said than done but please don't do it!

 

Tomorrow is always a better day.

 

These lyrics helped me alot:

Overcast these gloomy nights wear on,

But I'm holding fast because it's darkest just before the dawn.

 

They are from this amazing song about a breakup

[MrStinky]

Day Twenty Five

 

I got such a good sleep! 10 hours! So rested and ready for the world!

 

I got up, ate my breakfast and took my daily pills (vitamins, oils, minerals, etc) and was off to the gym.

 

When I got there, I had it to myself! It was so awesome. Nobody else was there but me!

 

Did my leg workout (my legs are feeling it today!) and afterwards walked over to the grocery store to buy some food for the week.

 

Once I had my food, I started walking back to my moms to get something to eat so I could replenish after the workout.

 

On my way there I ran into 4 friends who were having a BBQ so I stopped by (didn't eat anything) and chatted for about 30 minutes.

 

We made plans for the night so I headed home and a couple hours later did my HIIT bike ride.

 

Came home and was just hanging out when my neighbor (who is like a grandpa to me) knocked on my door and asked if I wanted to go for a walk with him.

 

So I did and was had a nice talk about what was going on in each others lives.

 

After that I came home to watch the hockey game (Go Vancouver!) with 2 of my friends from earlier.

 

Once they left, I made my final meal for the night and watched the rest of SNL.

 

Then off to bed.

 

Today was...

 

...a success!

[captured_butterfly]

Thanx Mr S

 

You'll be glad to know i didnt txt or ring him, today not been to bad, saw my baby nephew his little smiles always cheer me up.

Its weird aswell because theres always been a little thought in the back of my mind that said 'he'll be back, he just needs to grow up and we'll have our fairytale' but with everyday that passes i know that he'll never be the guy i first went out with 7yrs ago :-( I know he'll never be my husband or be the father to my kids and thats quite sad but im accepting it :-(

Its nice to hear your doing so fantastically well :-) A real inspiration to the strugglers like myself, we'll all get there im sure :-)

[MrStinky]

Thanx Mr S

 

You'll be glad to know i didnt txt or ring him, today not been to bad, saw my baby nephew his little smiles always cheer me up.

Its weird aswell because theres always been a little thought in the back of my mind that said 'he'll be back, he just needs to grow up and we'll have our fairytale' but with everyday that passes i know that he'll never be the guy i first went out with 7yrs ago :-( I know he'll never be my husband or be the father to my kids and thats quite sad but im accepting it :-(

Its nice to hear your doing so fantastically well :-) A real inspiration to the strugglers like myself, we'll all get there im sure :-)

 

Good job! Keep it up and you'll be so proud of yourself.

 

Just take it one day at a time and know that it will get better

[Sassygirl2]

Hi Mr. S,

 

Glad to hear from you. Sounds like you are having good days and it gives us LSers faith that things will get better. Thank you! It seems so nice where you live how you can go for a walk with your neighbor and chat. I would love that. Here in Califorrnia it seems rare. People aren't even as friendly to each other it seems. Everyone is in such a big hurry and out for themselves. I may be guilty of that too at times.

 

Today was an eye opening day. I have had a rough weekend missing the ex - broke down crying several times in front of my girls. I called/texted my ex Friday morning and he never called back. I kept saying it was because I needed to talk about him taking the dog (which is partly true). I finally got a hold of him this afternoon (Sunday) and we talked about him taking the dog full time. I told him that would be great for now because I cannot take the added stress of taking care of her. I need to get some things done for myself. He was fairly nice about it. He said he didn't want me calling him every couple of days though and asking about her. I said that would not be a problem.

 

Then I started to cry and asked him if we had a chance in the future to work this out. He said he was done for now. He said, "Do we have to have this conversation again?" And then he said that "he knew I was going to use the dog to get to him." He didn't feel like I had made any changes because I called and texted him numerous times this weekend and just couldn't WAIT for him to call me back. I said, "I originally called you Friday morning asking how you were and when you wanted to take the dog." Since he didn't call me back that day - I called that night and he ignored me. He said that I "just want things my way, when I want them." I guess that was his way of saying I'm demanding. So because I am demanding and get angry when things don't go my way is why he left me. That's makes sense to me now.

 

How can I fix this? How do I not be demanding with men? I think I was always competing for his attention because he paid a lot of attention to his kids. I know they come first but I guess I wanted to be first. Silly me.

 

The more I think about him - the more I am glad we broke up. Sure I miss him BUT he had some things I really didn't like as well.

 

We are meeting tomorrow so he can get the dog. I am going to be nice and cheerful and grateful. I actually feel much better knowing he'll take care of her. I guess it could be worse and he could have said F U to me AND the dog. Right?

[MrStinky]

Hi Mr. S,

 

Glad to hear from you. Sounds like you are having good days and it gives us LSers faith that things will get better. Thank you! It seems so nice where you live how you can go for a walk with your neighbor and chat. I would love that. Here in Califorrnia it seems rare. People aren't even as friendly to each other it seems. Everyone is in such a big hurry and out for themselves. I may be guilty of that too at times.

 

Today was an eye opening day. I have had a rough weekend missing the ex - broke down crying several times in front of my girls. I called/texted my ex Friday morning and he never called back. I kept saying it was because I needed to talk about him taking the dog (which is partly true). I finally got a hold of him this afternoon (Sunday) and we talked about him taking the dog full time. I told him that would be great for now because I cannot take the added stress of taking care of her. I need to get some things done for myself. He was fairly nice about it. He said he didn't want me calling him every couple of days though and asking about her. I said that would not be a problem.

 

Then I started to cry and asked him if we had a chance in the future to work this out. He said he was done for now. He said, "Do we have to have this conversation again?" And then he said that "he knew I was going to use the dog to get to him." He didn't feel like I had made any changes because I called and texted him numerous times this weekend and just couldn't WAIT for him to call me back. I said, "I originally called you Friday morning asking how you were and when you wanted to take the dog." Since he didn't call me back that day - I called that night and he ignored me. He said that I "just want things my way, when I want them." I guess that was his way of saying I'm demanding. So because I am demanding and get angry when things don't go my way is why he left me. That's makes sense to me now.

 

How can I fix this? How do I not be demanding with men? I think I was always competing for his attention because he paid a lot of attention to his kids. I know they come first but I guess I wanted to be first. Silly me.

 

The more I think about him - the more I am glad we broke up. Sure I miss him BUT he had some things I really didn't like as well.

 

We are meeting tomorrow so he can get the dog. I am going to be nice and cheerful and grateful. I actually feel much better knowing he'll take care of her. I guess it could be worse and he could have said F U to me AND the dog. Right?

 

I live in Canada and the people here are super, super nice for the most part!

 

I think it is in your best interest for him to take the dog full time so you can make a clean cut from his life instead of being indirectly involved in it for the next 12 - 15 years (dog's age).

 

Sometimes it can be hard to just send one message but it has to be done.

 

I'd say from now on go complete NC and get on with your healing without him in your life.

 

I'm not really sure how to become less demanding besides saying the obvious "Become less demanding" but I'm sure there are some good resources on the internet if that is a concern of yours.

 

Make sure you keep thinking about the things you didn't like about him and amplify them so whenever you think of him, you appeal to the negative times, situations and qualities.

 

It will make it easier with going NC.

 

It could have always been worse. Count your lucky stars!

[MrStinky]

Day Twenty Six

 

First off Happy (belated) Mothers Days!

 

Today was another good day.

 

I woke up around 10:00am and had some breakfast.

 

After that I watched some TV and surfed the internet.

 

Around 4pm I went for the bike ride and it was awesome.

 

Came home, had a bath and decided I wanted to go for a walk on the beach.

 

Strolled down at around 6pm and enjoyed the tremendous weather we are having here.

 

Then I called a friend of mine and we went for a walk. We had alot to talk about and it was a good time.

 

Came home, made some food and my neighbor came over and asked if I wanted to go for another walk.

 

So I did.

 

We chatted about a slew of things.

 

When I came home, my mom had returned from our cottage.

 

Wished her a happy "Mothers Day" and figured out what she wanted me to buy her!

 

After that I got my stuff ready for work and hoped into bed.

 

It's weird because the last 2 nights I had dreams about the "ex."

 

First one was she was trying to win me back and wouldn't take no for an answer.

 

And then last night she was saying "No" to any of my advances.

 

Weird...

 

But all in all today was...

 

...a success!

[MrStinky]

Day Twenty Seven

 

Today was a good day.

 

I woke up, went to work and while at work was talking to a guy who I've since become good friends with (via work) about PUA stuff and how it is changing his life.

 

To a certain degree, it has changed mine as well.

 

I would even go as far as saying it might be my saving grace in the midst of the breakup because it caused such a paradigm shift in my attitude and outlook towards many things.

 

Anyways, work was good and quick.

 

After work I went to get my mother some stuff that she wanted from me (Mothers Day was yesterday but she was out of the city) and then was off to the gym.

 

Had a tremendous upper body workout.

 

Came home, ate some food and then about an hour later was off for my bike ride.

 

Returned to the house to have my bath and my mom asked me to go to the store to get her some small things.

 

I obliged.

 

I am such a GOOD son!

 

Then at around 9:30pm I met up with a friend (through my brother) and we went for a walk.

 

It was nice to speak with him because he also just recently broke up with his long term girlfriend.

 

But we steered clear of all the "negative" and the things we'll miss about both our "ex's" and a relationship.

 

We instead decided to talk about all the good that has come of the breakups and all the freedom and happiness and opportunity that we can look forward to.

 

After that, I came home and within 20 minutes was in bed.

 

Today was...

 

...a success!

[Sassygirl2]

You ARE such a good son! Very sweet. You spoke about "PUA" and I wonder what that is?

 

The books you suggested arrived yesterday so I am excited to start reading them today.

 

My ex picked up the dog last night. I packed up all of her stuff, crate, food and he came over with his kids to take her. Everyone was pleasant to each other but he and I didn't say much to each other. The dog (my girl) didn't want to go with them and that was hard. She's really attached to me. I felt like I lost two things - him and my dog.

 

He is going to keep her for a month. That way I can figure out some things and heal more. I know that I can get her back if I want. I just need a break from all of it. That way I don't have a reason to contact him and can focus on my work, school, and exercising.

 

I have come to the realization the past few days that I don't want him back. I don't want to be with someone who has hurt me this way. He has been cold and mean about the break up and two people who love(d) each other do not treat each other that way.

 

Anyway, I've gotta get ready for work now. Have a great day!

[MrStinky]

You ARE such a good son! Very sweet. You spoke about "PUA" and I wonder what that is?

 

The books you suggested arrived yesterday so I am excited to start reading them today.

 

My ex picked up the dog last night. I packed up all of her stuff, crate, food and he came over with his kids to take her. Everyone was pleasant to each other but he and I didn't say much to each other. The dog (my girl) didn't want to go with them and that was hard. She's really attached to me. I felt like I lost two things - him and my dog.

 

He is going to keep her for a month. That way I can figure out some things and heal more. I know that I can get her back if I want. I just need a break from all of it. That way I don't have a reason to contact him and can focus on my work, school, and exercising.

 

I have come to the realization the past few days that I don't want him back. I don't want to be with someone who has hurt me this way. He has been cold and mean about the break up and two people who love(d) each other do not treat each other that way.

 

Anyway, I've gotta get ready for work now. Have a great day!

 

"PUA" stands for Pick Up Artist.

 

Initially, it looks shallow but I assure you it has changed my perspective on alot of things relating to the opposite sex! I'm not a sleezeball so I intend to use it with the best of intentions

 

That's awesome about the books. I hope you enjoy them!

 

You no longer have him or the dog but think of all you have the potential to gain now in this life.

 

Somebody who loves you unconditionally and appreciates you for you!

 

It sounds like you couldn't get that from him.

 

I think you will do well in all your endeavors. Promise me though, if you feel the need to text or call or contact him in any way - you'll write (or vent) to me instead and I will try to respond within 24 hours.

 

You have my word.

 

It's good that you are starting to "appeal to the negative" with him and see all that you didn't like and know what to not look for in your next partner.

 

And I assure you, you will love again!

 

Hope you had a great day!

[Sassygirl2]

Thanks Mr. S. Today was a rough day. When I got to work I was surfing the internet and for some stupid reason, I thought to look on the personals to see if he had put his profile back up on this dating website (where I had met him originally). I can't believe it - HE WAS ON there AND he had pictures of him with our dog. Pictures that I took of him. I was crushed. I had to leave work for one hour to get myself calmed down. How could he move on so fast? I am so hurt and angry at him.

 

Now I know in my heart and mind that this is never going to work out. He is just not the one for me. I just have to try to stop wasting all this energy on him. I want to run away.

[MrStinky]

Thanks Mr. S. Today was a rough day. When I got to work I was surfing the internet and for some stupid reason, I thought to look on the personals to see if he had put his profile back up on this dating website (where I had met him originally). I can't believe it - HE WAS ON there AND he had pictures of him with our dog. Pictures that I took of him. I was crushed. I had to leave work for one hour to get myself calmed down. How could he move on so fast? I am so hurt and angry at him.

 

Now I know in my heart and mind that this is never going to work out. He is just not the one for me. I just have to try to stop wasting all this energy on him. I want to run away.

 

You have to try and get him out of your mind.

 

I know exactly what you're going through but until you CHOOSE to stop thinking about him, you will always think about him.

 

The speed at which he moved on makes me think he was never really invested in the relationship. Especially considering he ended it.

 

Just use that fire in your belly you feel towards him to better yourself!

 

Don't ever let anybody else make you feel like you need to run away.

 

I'm certain there are many people who need you in this world and when it comes time, you will be able to help somebody get through this "breakup" garbage too!

 

You will come out of this a better person. I guarantee it!

[MrStinky]

Day Twenty Eight

 

Today was both good and bad.

 

Good because I didn't see her.

 

Bad because I tweaked my back in the gym and will need to take a couple days off working out until it gets better.

 

I woke up, went to work and after work went right to the gym.

 

Something just didn't feel right when I was doing my leg workout.

 

I did squats, deadlifts, leg presses and calf raises.

 

When I was done the workout, the left side of my back was hurting.

 

It woke me up a couple times in the night but I will be taking Tylenol and putting "Icy-Hot" on it to make it feel better.

 

Plus I won't be biking or weight lifting for at least 48 hours.

 

It is a blessing in disguise because I've been going non stop and my whole body (not just my back) could use the rest.

 

After the gym I walked to a friends house and we went out for a coffee.

 

I had to head home to get some food after that and took it easy the whole night.

 

I even went to bed an hour early because your body repairs itself while you sleep.

 

Around 9:00pm I had a slight urge to call her and just make amends but then I realized a large part of me does not like her as a person and I truly don't want her as a friend. Because to be a friend of mine means I have to like you as a person.

 

But NC is helping me reprogram my responses.

 

For example, I used to just call her when I was down and she would cheer me up.

 

Not any more.

 

I even wrote a poem when she broke up with me that says:

 

I've become a shell of a man

Mourning the death of a loved one

You were the one I used to run to

Now I'm the one you run from

 

I am happy that life goes on and that I have been able to feel a very strong sense of freedom apart from her.

 

Life is good!

 

Today was...

 

...a success!

[Sassygirl2]

How ya feeling today? Sounds like you could use some rest - you've been pushing your body to the limit.

 

I had a decent day today. Starting reading the books and doing the 10 days to Self-Esteem steps. I completed the first step today which talks about the way we interpret our thoughts into irrational beliefs. I took the stress and anxiety tests and scored very high (which is not good) but I know it will go down as I get better.

 

A co-worker asked me how I was doing today and I haven't really spoken to her about what happened. I was telling her about it and just started crying in the staff room. She hugged me for a few minutes and it made me cry even more. I really appreciated her listening to me. Yesterday I was so angry and today I was just sad. Up and down, back and forth, the feelings are like a roller coaster.

 

I can't wait to feel better. I'm glad you didn't call her last night. I'm going to bed after "Idol". I have been so tired and not sleeping well. I've got to take care of myself so I don't end up getting sick or something.

 

Hope you had a super day, Mr. S. Talk to you tomorrow......

[Fedor]

I admire your posts. Hopefully more can learn from this thread. Stay strong and good luck with your situation!

[MrStinky]

How ya feeling today? Sounds like you could use some rest - you've been pushing your body to the limit.

 

I had a decent day today. Starting reading the books and doing the 10 days to Self-Esteem steps. I completed the first step today which talks about the way we interpret our thoughts into irrational beliefs. I took the stress and anxiety tests and scored very high (which is not good) but I know it will go down as I get better.

 

A co-worker asked me how I was doing today and I haven't really spoken to her about what happened. I was telling her about it and just started crying in the staff room. She hugged me for a few minutes and it made me cry even more. I really appreciated her listening to me. Yesterday I was so angry and today I was just sad. Up and down, back and forth, the feelings are like a roller coaster.

 

I can't wait to feel better. I'm glad you didn't call her last night. I'm going to bed after "Idol". I have been so tired and not sleeping well. I've got to take care of myself so I don't end up getting sick or something.

 

Hope you had a super day, Mr. S. Talk to you tomorrow......

 

I am taking as many days off as needed. I'm thinking that will be around 3 - 4 days.

 

The book will show you how to reduce those feelings and how to replace the "irrational" thoughts.

 

I ironically started reading that book before she broke up with me

 

The feelings will be like a roller coaster but eventually they even out and begin to feel like a road. Consistently level.

 

You need to try your best to sleep. It really will help alot.

[MrStinky]

I admire your posts. Hopefully more can learn from this thread. Stay strong and good luck with your situation!

 

Thank you. I'm glad I can inspire

[MrStinky]

Day Twenty Nine

 

Today was a good day.

 

I woke up, went to work and after that had an evening with 2 friends.

 

My first friend just wanted me to come over after work. So I did.

 

When I got there, he was really tired (he is unemployed and sleeps the weirdest hours) so I only stuck around there for a couple hours.

 

After that I went to get a new hair cut.

 

Normally, I would just get a typical cut (short of the sides and trimmed on the top) but I decided since I am free from her "shackles" I would do something a little different.

 

So I got a mohawk! It looks AWESOME! Similar to a David Beckham style - not spiked punk style.

 

Then I came home, ate some food (hamburger with roasted red pepper cream cheese, bacon and 3 blend nacho shredded cheese on top) and then had a bath to get rid of the small hairs on my head from after a haircut.

 

Then I was off to my other friends house.

 

When I got there, we chatted about stuff and he loves to "talk" so he asked about the "ex" and I told him the current situation.

 

The "ex" is going to a wedding of a girl my friend and I both knew in high school and I was supposed to go with her (we got the invite while we were still together) and my friend thinks I can almost certainly expect a phone call this weekend from the weeding.

 

Booze + Nostalgia = Phone call

 

Who knows?

 

Either way, the phone will not be picked up.

 

After that I came home and saw my youngest brother who is back in Canada from his school in Virginia.

 

Did my thing before bed and went to sleep.

 

Today was...

 

...a success!

[Sassygirl2]

Hi Mr. S.. Yes, the wedding could set off your ex so I would not answer the phone! I know that kind of stuff is hard. I haven't been able to listen to any country music because my ex just loved it and I have a lot of memories of us going to concerts, etc.

 

I'm doing pretty good. Have almost the whole weekend to myself. I am going to see a gf on Sunday for shopping and a movie but I really need to catch up on homework and cleaning my apartment. I have kind of let things go this week because just getting through the work day was enough.

 

What are you doing this weekend?

 

P.S. I wanted to ask you a question about something I said to my ex during the last conversation I had with him. I called him last Tuesday because I saw him on Match.com and asked him about it. He was obviously embarrassed and said, "well, the profile is not active...." to which I said, "bs!" Anyway, we had a little heated discussion and he said he was hanging up now and would not be answering the phone if I called back. I said, "Don't worry, I won't be calling back because you are not worth it!" And hung up.

 

Was that mean? I know what he did to me was mean (walking away without much of an explanation) but I feel bad now. I just don't want to be mean to each other. I was hoping we could at least be cordial to each other. Anyway, I will have to contact him at some point in the next week or two to get my dog back. At that time I will be nice but I just feel bad for saying that comment. SHould I apologize or just let it go? I mean the RS is over.

[MrStinky]

Day Thirty

 

Typical routine

 

Woke up, went to work and after that decided to come home.

 

I was feeling kinda sick (slight couch and cold) and I knew I was to hang out with a friend later that night so I didn't really want to kill time outside.

 

Plus it was raining so I wanted to get away from that.

 

When I got home she wasn't there so I went right down to the basement.

 

After that, my brother and I started to make some food in the kitchen and she walked in the door.

 

He was making it for himself and I was making food for my mom and I.

 

I thought she had gone home for the day but was wrong

 

Well, she comes by the kitchen (she heard me I talking to my brother I guess) and starts trying to talk to me.

 

She tells me "you're looking so skinny" and then tells me she "likes me haircut" and asks if I cut it myself.

 

Then after that, when the food was ready, I took it to my mom.

 

She was there and immediately says shes "sorry" she had to leave the kitchen because of something or other and then keeps trying to talk to me.

 

Everything I said was soooooooo funny to her (even when it wasn't that funny) and she keeps trying to say "Well, I should get going. I have to go out tonight" but then takes almost an extra 15 minutes to leave.

 

After that, I went over to my buddy's house.

 

We watched the hockey game and some of the NBA games.

 

We got a late night snack and then I had to head home to get up for work the next day.

 

I did try to avoid her but when somebody keeps trying to initiate and continue conversations with you it can be hard to remain silent

 

So all in all today was...

 

...a success!

[MrStinky]

Hi Mr. S.. Yes, the wedding could set off your ex so I would not answer the phone! I know that kind of stuff is hard. I haven't been able to listen to any country music because my ex just loved it and I have a lot of memories of us going to concerts, etc.

 

I'm doing pretty good. Have almost the whole weekend to myself. I am going to see a gf on Sunday for shopping and a movie but I really need to catch up on homework and cleaning my apartment. I have kind of let things go this week because just getting through the work day was enough.

 

What are you doing this weekend?

 

P.S. I wanted to ask you a question about something I said to my ex during the last conversation I had with him. I called him last Tuesday because I saw him on Match.com and asked him about it. He was obviously embarrassed and said, "well, the profile is not active...." to which I said, "bs!" Anyway, we had a little heated discussion and he said he was hanging up now and would not be answering the phone if I called back. I said, "Don't worry, I won't be calling back because you are not worth it!" And hung up.

 

Was that mean? I know what he did to me was mean (walking away without much of an explanation) but I feel bad now. I just don't want to be mean to each other. I was hoping we could at least be cordial to each other. Anyway, I will have to contact him at some point in the next week or two to get my dog back. At that time I will be nice but I just feel bad for saying that comment. SHould I apologize or just let it go? I mean the RS is over.

 

I won't answer the phone. You know me well!

 

I like that you are staying busy with people and occupied with errands and other stuff to do. Keep it up!

 

This weekend (today) will be spent getting some shopping done and most likely going for a walk with my friend.

 

Tomorrow will be spent with with my friends and just catching up on rest and relaxation.

 

In my opinion, what you did was not mean at all.

 

He deserved it.

 

You called him on his BS and we both know he is full of BS and he didn't like that so he said he wouldn't pick up and you delivered a great zinger.

 

There is no need to apologize because you've not done anything wrong!