ire.girl Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 (edited) So this is the short version of my relationship.... When I was 19 I came out of a relationship I was in for 5 years and met the most wonderful guy. Only problem was I didnt want to rush into anything too serious and he seemed a bit more keen than I did so not wanting to lead him on (because he really was the perfect gentleman) I broke it off. Years went by and I met another guy who I went on to have 2 children with but that didnt work out so we split. I had never forgotten about the nice guy all them years ago and would actually daydream about how life would be if I had just stayed with him (sad, I know). I then went for a job when the children got a bit older and when I got it I walked in and the nice guy from all them years ago was my boss!!!!!! I couldnt believe it! The chemistry between us was instant! Only one problem- he was in a relationship and I may be many things but I am not a man stealer. So for a few months I kept my distance even though I wanted to just grab and hug him! We had a staff night out and with a few drinks in us we started talking about the old days and he confessed he had never stopped thinking about me and even told me I was his first love. Then he told me what Id been waiting for. that he had split with this girlfriend a few weeks before. I know it sounds cheesy but we fell madly in love and wanting to do things right he stayed at his apartment and I stayed at my home with my children. A few months later (when i realised there was no other person on this earth I would rather be with) I took the children to the park to meet him. To my relief they hit it off instantly. About a year after this he moved in with us and I fell pregnant after another year (approx). I couldnt believe my luck... I had three wonderful children and had found the man of my dreams. Even my family love him- because he is so good to me. We are constantly surprising eachother with little gifts or romantic meals- and he tells me he loves me every single day. so where is the problem i bet you are asking.. well a while ago he asked if i was interested in getting married and I told him i cannot wait to become his wife.. but nothing... then a while after that he asked what type of engagement ring I would wear.. but nothing! The questions around this subject have been constant for atleast a year but still nothing! To be honest I dont know why I let it get to me because we are so happy but I want nothing more for us to declare our love for eachother. He even at one point told me he was saving for the most perfect engagement ring but after that he would say things like "im saving for a new car" or "I think il use my spare cash this week to get a tattoo" and I would never object as he does more than his fair share at home and works very hard for the money he earns. So tell me.. is getting married really on the cards? Am I leading myself on? be brutal if you must- I just want an outsiders opinion. I will wait for him regardless but there is nothing I want more! Sorry for the long post but thanks in advance for any replies :-) Edited April 13, 2011 by ire.girl Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 Nice story. Proves that occasionally being nice guys don't always finish last. Maybe he simply doesn't want to change the way things are and feels marriage may be what you want, but not what he wants. He clearly does love you and want to be with you, but marriage may simply not be his thing. I know the feeling. It's not mine. My sister is the same - very happy with her boyfriend for 6 years now and they have a kid and all of them are perfect... so why feel the need to cough up loads of money just to tell the world what they can already see. If that is the case (and I don't know for sure obviously) then maybe discuss it with him. It's clear you two were meant to be together from the start and it just took a twists and turns to get there so I fail to see what you can't both sort this out. He may be saying all this to make you happy, so be honest with him and find out what is truly going on. It sounds like you're both doing really well, so don't let this upset anything. There's enough heartbreak on here already. Good to have some happy stories for a change. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ire.girl Posted April 13, 2011 Author Share Posted April 13, 2011 Thanks for the reply... He says he does want to get married and will say things such as "will you change your name to mine when we marry" or "o it will be different when we are married". Your completely right in saying we were meant to be together, before we got together again I was the same as you- It just didnt appeal to me at all! Now though I actually get butterflies at the thought of it haha I sound crazy even to myself :-p but he has definitely changed me- for the better Link to post Share on other sites
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