ladeedee Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 I went to class today.. it's been 3 weeks since we started NC again. I was on one side of the street and he was on the other. He has been staying in the union to avoid me and today he walks out knowing he'd see me. He pulls out his phone and pretends to not see me, then I see he is wearing the clothes he got me. I couldn't help but laugh that he was doing this. Pretending to be on his phone and also wearing the clothes I got him? Ha! But THEN, I get done with one of my classes and one of the girls asked me if I got rid of FB. I said yeah like 5 or so weeks ago. She said, "Oh because D updated his status as single and some girl liked it." I am infuriated. The last time I was on FB, over 5 weeks ago, he updated his status to single and had it on the feed. I asked him to take it down to avoid drama. Then I just find out that he RE-POSTED his status as single. WTF. I am so angry!! And I am SO hurt right now. What the hell did I do to deserve what he is doing to me? Didn't he do enough to me? Why does he need so much ****ing attention to the fact that he is single? I'm so pissed and I can't believe that he did this. I thought I knew him and I guess I didn't know him at all I'm tempted to tell him off but I know that's what he wants me to do. He admitted being passive aggressive. I hate this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ladeedee Posted April 13, 2011 Author Share Posted April 13, 2011 ALSO:: I heard that stories that he raped someone while we were together popped up a few weeks after we broke up.... IDK what to do. Someone please help me. I keep remembering things of when we were together and it was always being said like I should keep an eye on him and that I should be concerned about certain things. Someone please... help. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ladeedee Posted April 13, 2011 Author Share Posted April 13, 2011 I'm starting to believe he cheated on me and I am just falling apart...... everyone viewed him completely different and now I just don't know what to do. One of my friends told me to get a hold of people that know him who I know and ask if they heard anything about the rape. Since that FB crap, I have no reason to continue respecting our past relationship. All he ever did was disrespect me. Why should I do the same. I remember way back last semester I looked through his phone and I found a picture of a girl with her clothes off wearing only bra and panties. He said someone got on his phone and did this. OMG. I was so stupid! :( Link to post Share on other sites
silvermane187 Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 wait wait wait...he raped someone? wtf? ... why are your friends telling yo about his facebook updates? tell them you don't want to hear it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ladeedee Posted April 13, 2011 Author Share Posted April 13, 2011 I was told he raped someone... while we were together. And we spent almost every night together so IDK how this could possibly be true. This afternoon I was all worked up. I didn't believe it when I first heard it and once I get really worked up I felt like my world was just tumbling down. I kept thinking.. well maybe other people viewed him differently.. but I knew him for quite a long time and I know he doesn't have it in him to rape someone. They are just rumors but it really got me worked up today. I'm still upset he changed his FB status just to get attention. Totally disrespectful. I'm so happy I don't have FB and I really wish this girl hadn't told me this. Wtf. It really does hurt me. He never did care Link to post Share on other sites
Author ladeedee Posted April 13, 2011 Author Share Posted April 13, 2011 I talked to my mom today and I got input from what my family thought about him... words used: manic, controlling, disrespectful towards women, aggression issues, needs therapy, ect. I almost wrote him for a tiny period this afternoon... thank god for my fam and friends and this website that I didn't. I can't believe I was with him... and for god's sake, I really wish I had left the relationship sooner. Link to post Share on other sites
Exit Posted April 14, 2011 Share Posted April 14, 2011 3 weeks into a period of NC, it shouldn't shake you this badly for him to say he's single. Even when he changed it the first time and you actually went so far as to ask him to take it down to avoid drama? That's not your position to ask him to do stuff like that. Don't get me wrong, I've had my fair share of arguments and hurt feelings over stupid FB statuses, so I'm not trying to criticize you. I just want you to be able to get beyond this. Isn't he single now? Why would it matter if his FB says so? Other people on LoveShack get their hearts broken when they find out their ex's status changes to "in a relationship with ______ " ,so it could be worse! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ladeedee Posted April 14, 2011 Author Share Posted April 14, 2011 It makes me mad because since I asked him to take it down the first time, he went and did it again. We've been broken up for over a month and had to do it again? He was listed as single already, but had to repost it so it could be on the wall for people to comment on. I feel like it's unnecessary drama that he's bringing for the both of us. It's not the fact that he is now listed as such, cause yeah we are broken up, it's the fact that he had to do it a second time over 5 weeks later. Yes, it could def be worse and I know that... I feel definitely better since I originally posted, but it still makes me kind of mad... I just don't know why he didn't leave it be. Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted April 14, 2011 Share Posted April 14, 2011 I am really sorry for your loss (though it sound like what you loss was not much is the whole scheme of things but a loss none the less). Though as hard as it is right now you got to start focus on yourself and taking care of you. This means pushing thought of him out of your head, trying not concern yourself of what he is or is not doing but rather spend time with the people who care about you- friends and family, focus on things you enjoy doing, maybe start exercising to burn off some of that nervous energy. It is very hard but push yourself and it will get easier. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ladeedee Posted April 14, 2011 Author Share Posted April 14, 2011 Thank you.. and absolutely not he was definitely not a big loss... after we ended I realized that he was just a terrible, TERRIBLE boyfriend. I did not realize how horrible he was til I got away from him. And the more time I'm away and the more this crap comes up, the more I feel embarrassed I stayed with him. I'm almost angry at myself. I should start exercising... yesterday I went and played catch for an hour and a half yesterday. Each pitch just as strong as the last and now I'm sore! It always seems to be a Wed this crap happens... sigh. Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted April 15, 2011 Share Posted April 15, 2011 Thank you.. and absolutely not he was definitely not a big loss... after we ended I realized that he was just a terrible, TERRIBLE boyfriend. I did not realize how horrible he was til I got away from him. And the more time I'm away and the more this crap comes up, the more I feel embarrassed I stayed with him. I'm almost angry at myself. I should start exercising... yesterday I went and played catch for an hour and a half yesterday. Each pitch just as strong as the last and now I'm sore! It always seems to be a Wed this crap happens... sigh. Very good. You may want to start a list on paper of why this guy is not a loss, list ever big and little thing that makes him jerk... from his bad taste in movies to all the hurtful things he done. Nothing is too big or too small and when your feeling bad pull it out and add to the list. It does get better. Keep up with activities and exercise. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ladeedee Posted April 15, 2011 Author Share Posted April 15, 2011 Thanks a lot for responding. I probably will make a list soon. I did it the first time we broke up and now I'm in need of doing it again it seems. I'm kind of scared he is going to ruin my reputation. I'm worried he will come back and hurt me again. I know he will probably write me one day down the line... and I really don't want him too. When I saw him on the other side of the street this past week and he wouldn't look me in the eye, I couldn't help but laugh at it. I just thought, how ridiculous you are. I thought, at least I have the guts to look you in the face and he can only look down. It's amazing what I see now away from him and his drama. This coming Wed we will be NC for a month. The longest I have ever gone with him for the past 2 years. I can do this. Link to post Share on other sites
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