inlove with best friend now we dont talk.

[guccigirl]

Hi, this is kinda long sorry

 

I have a best friend who I love more than anything. We used to spend all our time together. do everything. I dated alot but would tell my bf i'm busy to spend time with him. He doesnt date that much and the few gf's he's had hate me even before meetign me. he had one long term relationship and she asked him not to see me. he did for a while and eventually they broke up and then it was us back together everyday. One night i was out on a date and he showed up and i spent the whole night with him. At that point i realized that there is no one else i'd ratehr be with. It took me a couple weeks but we were drunk one night and i told him. he was all for it. told me about how he wanted to kiss me so many times. whenhe mentioned them i knew eactly what he was talking about. the next couple days were weird. he decided that we shoudl be friedns cause he is too scared to lose friendship. so i had no choice but to go along with it. it was still us spending all our time together. went away for weekends and on a vacation. every once and a while we would have a fight about "us". and he would say he doesnt like me and and he doenst want to be with me. yet he would spend all his time with me. and he would flirt with me. then one weekend we went away and had huge fight. we didnt talk for a couple weeks. Then I finally called him. he said he needs space that he feel like hes leading me on and he's confused. I kept making attempts to talk to him. we were best friends for over 10 years. we were closest to each other than anyone else. we spent christmas together. then after that nothing. he stoped calling me, we didnt see each other. i tried to talk to him but he wouldnt talk about it. he just wants to be cool. so eventually i gave up. stoped calling stopped iming him. then he'll call me and i ask him to hang out adn we have a great time. then he wont call me for weeks. and when he does call he has to have an excuse. he has to ask me about something. he cant just call to say hi. he still isnt dating anyone. I just dont know what to do. I cant take this anymore. spending time together once a month then back to ignoring each other is so stupid and makes me so upset. he's killing me. he has almost completely cut me out of his life. but keeps just enough going so i'm there. if he really doesnt want to be with then why doenst he just let me go. i let him go. I dont call or talk to him. The last time we talked about it he told me he deosnt know why i'm upset he just needs space and that i should know him better that eventually he'll break down and come back to me. he'll love me till the day he dies. se e he'll say something like that. adnd i get all confused cause friends dotn talk to each other like that. Shoudl I just stop talking to him altogether?

[Emily55555]

You shouldn't just stop talking to him. You should wait for him to come to you. You could also try writing him a letter telling him how you feel. he probably loves you "as" a friend. People say that all the time. As well some people just flirt with other people. Not because they like you, they just do. Theres no explaining it. If he needs space, give him space if you keep bothering him he will not want to talk to you less and less. Good luck!

[BrokenHeartGrl]

As I see it I think he could be running from you. Maybe he does love you and he's scared of taking it to the next level b/c if things go ugly ya'll could lose everything ... I mean look at it this way before the "night" ya'll got drunk and told all those feeling things were great right .. and then emotions got caught up into it and ya'll rarely talk. The best thing I can say is dont let it bother you .. be his friend .. call him strike up a conv. let him call you just talk about random things. Have fun with him and eventually if somethings meant to happen it will ... if not he may just really love you as a friend and nothing more ... either way they both can be wonderful things so dont let it bother you so much!!!