soldierwife Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 Me and my husband have only been married 3months and things are rocky as hell . Everyone i know and talk to say its hard the first year , but this is like being married to a living hell . Dont get me wrong at moments he can be a great guy but at others i wish id never married him . Example the other day i had a misscarriage and i was upset and etc he didnt care , i came home to him texting another woman and he thought it was alright and wondered why i was mad. im not allowed to go see friends or family without him bitching and being shoved up my ass and not only does it get old to me but to my friends and family as well they all know im miserable . He is always wanting to fuss and argue and wants to act like i start it and even his family knows it aint true. but i think im to the point that im ready to leave he has changed me in so many ways and im not the person i wanna be should i try to make it work or not Link to post Share on other sites
zakfar Posted April 14, 2011 Share Posted April 14, 2011 It depends on you if want to make it work or not. From what you said, it seems that he has a controlling behavior. With mentioning your relatives' mention of your 'Changes', do you mean that you didn't normally appreciate that controlling behavior? One thing more, it is also possible that much of your feelings are because of the negative emotions you're getting because of you recent miscarriage. Maybe he's not that bad, but you are highly irritated on everything around you, and mostly on the things that you love. It's better not to make a decision just right away. First calm yourself and then analyze your situation in a better way. Obviously, if you don't need to have the type of relationship you don't want to. There are always two ways, without abusing the powers. One is to conduct 'Open Discussions' and turn the relationship towards the desired system with 'Mutual Understanding'. Second is to end up the relationship, as 'Mutual Understanding' is not possible. But remember, this is the second option. When something doesn't work, we first try to fix it, rather than throwing it away. I hope it helps. Zakfar. Link to post Share on other sites
Author soldierwife Posted April 14, 2011 Author Share Posted April 14, 2011 Thanks for the advice , but i dont think the emotions from the miscarriage . we were fighting like hell before , and i try to ignore it due to the fact i truely hate fighitng. and then he gets mad cause i dont want to fight . ive talked to his family due to they nnotice im very unhappy and mistreated and they say he does this in every relationship im to a dead end and dont know what to do Link to post Share on other sites
Hanther Posted April 14, 2011 Share Posted April 14, 2011 Did this suddenly start after you married him? How long did you date? PLEASE use protection from now on. Don't bring a child into this until you get it figured out. Link to post Share on other sites
linwood Posted April 15, 2011 Share Posted April 15, 2011 Why don`t you know what to do? Married 3 months in a "living hell"? This is the "Honeymoon stage" it is only going to get worse from here on out. Whatever you do avoid getting pregnant and get the hell out. No kids, what`s keeping you? Link to post Share on other sites
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