How do you know if your expectations are realistic?

[start-fresh]

I'm having a hard time figuring myself out. I'm 23 and haven't had any relationships lasting over about 4 months long. And those have been few and far between. I haven't dated many people because I've never really been interested in many people, and of the few relationships I've had, I always was the one to end it.

 

I manufacture these reasons of why I should break up in my head and then end it, then regret it within about a week. I'm pretty insecure, actually, but at the same time I feel like I'm better than these women. When I'm not. Is it because I don't feel like I'm very good myself so there must be something wrong with them to love me? Really, I was very lucky to have them. I've been SO lucky to have dated good women, but the relationships still don't last because of me. It's messed up. We break up and they ALWAYS move on faster than I do because of course they have options.

 

How do you know if you haven't met the right person, or if it's something truly wrong with you? Everybody says don't settle, but how can you decide what's realistic?

[jean-luc sisko]

Realistic is what best suits us.

 

I believe in leagues, but they're not IMO absolutes.