Infomercials Posted April 14, 2011 Share Posted April 14, 2011 Hey guys, I'm trying to keep this as brief as possible. My ex broke up with me about 2 weeks ago after almost 4 years together (by the way, we're both 20 years old) due to his feeling like he needed space. I went basically no contact, and it took about 8 days for him to call me and tell me that he wasn't ready to be together again, but he didn't want to lose me. Despite the pain, I do really love him, and I absolutely believe he loves me. I really want to be supportive and allow him time to deal with some of the issues in his life right now. I tried seeing him today without being together, and it just didn't work. I told him that I just couldn't spend time with him unless we were actually together, at least right now. So, I guess I have two questions: Is not seeing each other the right decision even though we both do want to be back together sometime in the future? Also, this might be a little silly, but for 4 years, we have always talked right before going to sleep, and he asked me to text him before going to bed. Is that a good idea, or should I completely keep to myself until he's ready? Thanks, everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
precious1 Posted April 14, 2011 Share Posted April 14, 2011 Info, I think right now not seeing each other will be the best thing to do. If he needs space you hanging around in the background will not give him the full effect of life without you. And could possibly lead to another even more painful breakup in the future should you guys ever reconcile. For right now, step away from the whole situation, really and truly. This will give him a better idea of how life would be without you and could ultimately lead to him making the best choice, whether it is reconciliation or not. Things like this will take a while to figure out so be prepared for some pain but also be prepared to become a better and stronger person due to the lessons you will learn. You guys have been together since 16 so this could actually be a really positive thing. The last thing you would want to happen is to have settled down in the future with him, only to realize that you may both start to question what else is out there since you pretty much grew up with each other. Do not text him before bed..he lost that privilege when he walked away from the relationship. I know this is a tough situation but it will slowly but surely get better. Just hang in there and keep your chin up. He will come find you if/when he's ready and if not...don't fret. YOU WILL BE JUST FINE WITH TIME!!! I promise Link to post Share on other sites
Author Infomercials Posted April 16, 2011 Author Share Posted April 16, 2011 Thanks for the reassurance, Precious. My mom and best friend told me the exact same thing today. I just need to stay strong and know that this is the best thing right now even though it doesn't feel like it. Link to post Share on other sites
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