asxx Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 Here's my scenario....after months of flirting with me ( hugs, compliments ) I would always ask this girl "what's going on"? she would answer " not much". This girl reluctanly mentioned that she is going away on a trip with her " boyfriend ". While she said it, she looked at me to see my reaction. What is going on? Link to post Share on other sites
lestat Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 There could be many things going on - Main one is - she could like you and be trying to ascertain how much you like HER by seeing how jealous you get ..... She might be keeping you as a back up - if the other guy turns out to be not right for her... Or she really isn't interested and she's trying to get you to back off ????? It's confusing - we need more information really! lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author asxx Posted April 6, 2004 Author Share Posted April 6, 2004 I have been very light with her in the past few months....on xmas she bought me something, I was surprised. I would initiate hugs and she would jump on me!! Up until 1 month ago we were doing this....the same day she said "I have a bf " , she said you are so funny!!! Is this her last resort to get me to see her value? She would tell her friends she liked me.....I am going to still be nice and pretend it doesn't bug me but I will not swallow my pride and show it. Link to post Share on other sites
priscilla Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 I think lestat is right. She likes you and is just keeping you as a "just in case" that is why she never told you about the boyfriend before. And yes, she did also want to see what you level of interest was. It sounds as if you have some feelings for her so you might want to back off with the hugs, etc, so you don't get more interested. Link to post Share on other sites
Author asxx Posted April 13, 2004 Author Share Posted April 13, 2004 I haven't seen this girl in 2 weeks but I will have to...she works at my gym. I will pretend like I don't care and continue to be cocky and funny. If this is a test, she has shown me that she is shallow. I think there is more behind the scenes with her...all her friends are married, she is 28 and she is not..she has to hurry and find a chump. one year ago, I couldn't believe how fat she got!! now she is 20 lbs lighter and has to move. She really was sending me signals for months! I showed I liked her but didn't make a move...I know she's talked to her friends about me because they smile at me and know my name! My heart sank when I heard "my boyfriend" and she gazed deeply at me when I reacted. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 I would tell her to dump the boyfriend....THEN you would like to persue a relationship with her. That way, you've let her know you are interested.....but have also let her know you aren't playing 'second best'. Link to post Share on other sites
Author asxx Posted April 19, 2004 Author Share Posted April 19, 2004 Hi all, After 2 weeks from not seeing this girl...I came in gym and she said " it feels like i haven't seen you in a month". I really had to put on a cool act concerning her new boyfriend. On my way out, we started yapping and shook my hand as a joking gesture. what turned me off is that this girl is a diet-pill freak!! she told me it makes her feel good....the ephedrine in it, I guess. She seems like she's gaining weight...and I bet in her mind, her boyfriend will be looking at other girls on their trip. I did notice she doesn't have the best body in the world. Link to post Share on other sites
Jeo123 Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 is it possible she just wants to be friend and she keeps mentioning the boyfriend so you don't think she wants something more? Think of it this way. Maybe she wants to be your friend, but thinks you want to be more. So she mentions her boyfriend and watches you to see if you're hurt because you want to be the boyfriend. My guess is she doesn't want a relationship, but rather just a friend. Link to post Share on other sites
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