From this point forward, I will grow...

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I am deciding whether or not I should stick around. I have been depressed over this forum lately, but recently (past 2 days) have been put on a medicine for OCD/ADD, and this has improved both my mood and my outlook.

 

That being said, I think that these are the points in my life I need to change:

 

1. Get to a healthy weight - As was brought to my attention by threebyfate, I have had low self esteem because of the way I look, due to being overweight. The answer? Lose the weight.

 

I will start walking every day in the neighborhood, eating less junk food, cutting out soda completely, and getting to the gym whenever I can. I might take up a sport, I dunno. I used to be really good at Basketball, might do that again.

 

2. Cut down the computer use - I've been sitting on the computer all day, every day, and that is of no use to anyone. I will develop carpal tunnel syndrome, or at the very least, I will not lose the weight I need to. Certainly I won't be energetic. I'm cutting it down to 1-2 hours per day.

 

3. Stop blaming other people for my own problems - It's no girl's fault that I don't ask her out. It's not her fault if she doesn't find me attractive.

 

Bottom line, the misogynistic posts STOP HERE. I will not rant about women again, or say anything that insinuates ALL women in one thing. Because every woman is different, we are all human.

 

I recognize that I have said some hurtful things. I hope that people on here can forgive me for those, and we can move on. I want to get over it.

[denise_xo]

Sounds like you have a good agenda cut out for you. Good luck

[Citizen Erased]

I'm bound to like you by the Muse fandom code. But a little less listening to them could probably help. They're not exactly peppy and full of sunshine and puppies. You need some sunshine and puppies by the sound of it. All I can give you is this bunny.

[TaraMaiden]

I think a hug is in order.

 

Consider yourself embraced, and thank you for this post.

You're a good guy.

 

Get to it, Bro' - !!

[Cee]

I don't mind you bashing "women" on Love Shack, except that it has caused harm to you. I believe that having a positive outlook on others will help you see the good in yourself. And there is plenty of good. More than enough good in you.

 

It's not easy to change. And try not to beat yourself up if you have a set back. Countless times I have said, "Starting today, I will not eat junk food." And then by night time, I am buried in ice cream and pizza. It created a hate cycle for me so bad I ended up in eating disorder treatment.

 

Give an A+ in effort and hope for a C- results. Even the smallest change is major progress.

 

I suggest you get support from people in the real world. Even an acquaintance is a start. And you can join groups to get out and do stuff. Such as a gaming club or a community basketball league. I get depressed easily so I need a lot of structure so I am a member of several activity groups. They get me out of my apartment and into the sunshine.

 

Keep posting... buuuuut.... first, get outside and take that walk.

[Eve]

Get a fitness check up and make a start at the gym. I hope you get right into it and make some positive friendships there. Walking is fabulous too but I think the pros advise mixing walking with other activities too. Find what you enjoy. I love a good game of badminton! Commit to it though, especially for the first month. No slacking.

 

Not sure about the other issues. Don't think we post in the same places. Not sure how anyone has time to be on the internet all the time anyway. That can't be good for you. Yeah, look into doing somthing else with your time. I would strongly advocate a bit of volunteering.

 

Actually, sometimes I think it can be quite funny to bash the opposite sex. My mate bashes men all the time and she is HILARIOUS!! I am off out with her and some others in a bit, can't wait!. If you have been all doom and gloom-i-fied without any homour, then yeah, I would say, stop that ****. There are some lovely, lovely people out there but I have concluded that you have to be what you want to attract, inside and out.

 

How can it be any different?

 

All the best,

Take care,

Eve x

[AKollegeGuy]

Good luck to you, sir.

 

I know what its like to be stuck in a rut. I can't really change much right now since I'm in Grad school and getting my ass handed to me on a silver plater in terms of homework and projects, but every little bit helps.

 

If I may, I suggest doing stomach crunches instead of regular sit ups. A friend of mine told me that, depending on how you do them, situps will usually just work on the leg muscles. Stomach crunches work the stomach more.

[dreamingoftigers]

Good for you for taking responsibility for your destiny!

 

Remember to look towards progress and not perfection.

[betterdeal]

Welcome to the light side, my brother from another mother!

Edited April 15, 2011 by betterdeal