Euginis Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 [font=arial][/font] Hello, I am new to this wonderful forum so please help me. I met an amazing woman on New Year's Eve, we exchanged numbers and danced that night. Only two days later did we meet up (since we live in the same city) and we began to explore the city of Los Angeles together (since we're both relatively new to this town). We had so much in common, and her ability to relax, be calmful and share ideals was so great. After about a month of talking and going out a lot, we began to get physical. The physical moments we shared were absolutely beautiful, and in the end, meant something to both of us. After about a month and a half of "dating" she went on a trip to Las Vegas to meet with an internet friend (of the opposite sex) whom she never saw in person. They went together in a group for a weekend and she came back, saying she missed my company. Soon I realized that this "internet buddy" was asking for a relationship, asking for her back in his life (he presumably promised to meet earlier in the two years they've known each other, and she gave up on any possible relationship). While we were still dating, she seemed utterly confused but it finally got better for us after he decided to ultimately let go about two months dating. He still made visits to see her (in a group of friends) and they talked, while she always and honestly assured me nothing physical happened. In the meanwhile, our physical and emotional experiences intensified. About three months into our dating, or two weeks ago, she said that she didn't want a relationship. But after this time she has still made comments like "i could see myself in a serious relationship with you", "it's hard for me to not hold you". I asked her yesterday to be my girlfriend, saying that we were just both hiding and scared of our feelings for each other. But she managed to shock me by saying that her and mother (who she lives with) are moving to San Francisco, where her "internet friend" is living and the three of them are going to find a new place. She hasn't been happy here as far as her relative/job situation is concerned, and wants to start a new life. She was quite emotional in turning me down, and we still hugged and kissed each other. I asked to make love to her one last time before she leaves (which is in a couple of months) and she promised me she would. This girl has not made one promise to me thus far, as she hates them....but she made this one promise. There have been moments where I have embarrasingly called her in infinite attempts when she doesn't answer her phone or when i want to talk, and she has done the same to me (although I've done it more). My question is, how do I cope with this? I am so miserable, and I hardly know anyone in the city. She has been my companion, lover and friend this whole three months out of the six I have moved to Los Angeles, and now she's leaving. I just can't believe that she'll be gone. And should I hope that she'll still be in my life? Will she still call me after she moves just to talk? I don't want to lose her completely, but I'm so scared because it is a possiblity. And I don't know if not calling her is a good thing...will she miss me? Will she change her mind and stay here? Last night when I randomly went to her house at night, we talked and she said "I still don't know if moving is the right decision, but I'm sticking to it". I just don't know what to do. My heart hurts. Please help. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 You are not going to stop her from moving. Take a break from relationship for awhile, find other things to do, then eventually you will feel better and can start dating again. Link to post Share on other sites
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