lovelylisa Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 I have had some emotionally abusive relationships recently and am taking a break from relationships and focusing on myself. What are some ways I can learn to love myself and not settle for guys who treat me like crap? Link to post Share on other sites
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 Take a good look at yourself. You're worthy of love, true love. Also, look into getting into therapy. Not because you're crazy, but because it will help ease your mind. Link to post Share on other sites
ericoutler Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 Amazing. You are awesome just to reach out for help. That's awesome!! Everything I have to say to you CANNOT be written here, but I will give you a brief comment. 1. Your journey begins with forgiveness! Forgive others and forgive yourself. Find a way to forgive the people who hurt you. Maybe they are crazy or whatever, just forgive them. 2. Regardless of who you are, GOD has given you gifts. What are your gifts? what are you good at? Begin to focus on your strengths! Take the gift and research and study it until it becomes a talent. I would love for you to reach out to me so I can tell you more. The choice is yours. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovelylisa Posted April 16, 2011 Author Share Posted April 16, 2011 I would love to know more! That all sounds great so far... I really want to get to know myself and love myself so that I can handle the ups and downs of a NORMAL relationship. And I want to be in a place where I can attract a normal relationship. Any advice would be great. Link to post Share on other sites
arcadelife88 Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 Doing a lot of things will make you know yourself more. First, From what i'v heard, you have to built yourself, even some people don't have personality. For spiritual one, Im not sure, I think we have spiritual personality. So now, sit and relax. write down the list: your hobby ? your favorite color ? your favorite food ? your favorite place ? (it's only my idea, you can write more) spiritual anger. When did you angry last time ? what makes you angry that time ? this means you don't like that situation. Now you can know what you don't like happy.this is a good temper, when you are happy, don't forget what it is makes you happy. That's all I can think for now. You can write more about yourself. But I think it should be through what you did. So do a lot of things will make you know more about yourself. Be focus, what others said about you is not 100% correct. You are you. be whatever you want, don't be whatever others want. Oh, I also, suggest you to join some hobby activities to make your personality more clear & valid. after you know more about yourself, I think then you can love yourself more. hope it helps. Link to post Share on other sites
smith1975 Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 Amazing. You are awesome just to reach out for help. That's awesome!! Everything I have to say to you CANNOT be written here, but I will give you a brief comment. 1. Your journey begins with forgiveness! Forgive others and forgive yourself. Find a way to forgive the people who hurt you. Maybe they are crazy or whatever, just forgive them. 2. Regardless of who you are, GOD has given you gifts. What are your gifts? what are you good at? Begin to focus on your strengths! Take the gift and research and study it until it becomes a talent. I would love for you to reach out to me so I can tell you more. The choice is yours. Sir if you could look at whoknowswhattodo in the break up section I think you might be able to help him. The poor guy sounds like he is torn appart. Thank you if you can help him. Link to post Share on other sites
9Lives Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 Study about self worth. Understanding that you are a Diamond and not a rock will help you tremondously. A rock is treated and thrown around but a Diamond is sought after, cherish, respected, loved, valued, and PRICELESS. You were BORN a Diamond but YOU HAVE allow yourself to be treated like a rock. You have not lost your value. You just dont realize what you truly are. Beautiful! Study your Worth. It is entirely internal and has nothing to do with outside influences. It is about your relationship with yourself. No one is suppose to destroy it. You are a Diamond until the day you die. You deserve tender loving care! Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted April 21, 2011 Share Posted April 21, 2011 Meditate each day and do one thing entirely selfishly for yourself each day that brings you joy. Soon you will come to realize nice things about yourself and then you will love yourself and be able to build from that. Think of how you treat others when you love them and give that to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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