lady104 Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 I'm a girl, I want to sleep with an ex who dumped me (for "drifting apart" reasons). How do I go about this? What chat-up line works for guys, and what have girls tried (if they've stooped low at all)? LOL Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 Uh, I would recommend that you don't try this. Does he still have feelings for you? Do you still have feelings for him? Is he with someone else now? Are you? Will you not find yourself in a confusing situation, or heartbroken, after you start things up with him again? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 The only chat up line you will need is "Would you like to have sex with me?" I wouldn't waste any time trying to be subtle, because it will be wasted on him... I'd be more interested in knowing why you want to get close to someone who has pushed you away. Care to comment? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lady104 Posted April 6, 2004 Author Share Posted April 6, 2004 Not sure if he has feelings for me, I really do have feelings for him. We're not with new people! Confusion, heartbreak, good point. I'm not impartial to meaningless sex with the Ex, though. Does this happen, no strings attached? Why go for someone who pushed me away? Erm, because I still find him incredibly hot! I can see past the pushing away part, and allow self-respect! Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 The problem that you may end up facing is you feeling like you want more than just something physical with him. If he does opt for having sex with you, his reasons and your reasons are going to be completely different. Like DerangedAngel pointed out....heartache and misery. You will be asking for it. I'm honestly thinking the reason is just because he's "hot". You are available now yourself, so I suggest and encourage finding someone new, because this guy (who pushed you away, as SoleMate pointed out) isn't the only or last fish in the sea. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lady104 Posted April 7, 2004 Author Share Posted April 7, 2004 Ah, true... you guys are wonderful! May I ask why you're "fed up and giving up"? Link to post Share on other sites
fool4love Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 Don't do it. Trust me. I thought I could do that too, without feelings involved, but after the sex is over, and if things are still broken between you, and he still no longer wants you back, it's an awful feeling. If you're on good terms for now, leave it that way, see where things go, without sex. Sex gets way too confusing b/c often for men it can just be physical, but for women it's emotional (no matter how much you tell yourself you're impartial to him). If you decide to do it...make sure both you and he know that you are using eachother and that it means nothing! Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 Originally posted by lady104 Ah, true... you guys are wonderful! May I ask why you're "fed up and giving up"? My story is in the marriage section, under infidelity..."Cheating Husband that Won't Admit It" It's a long post, but if you are interested, it's there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lady104 Posted April 7, 2004 Author Share Posted April 7, 2004 it can just be physical, but for women it's emotional (no matter how much you tell yourself you're impartial to him). If you decide to do it...make sure both you and he know that you are using eachother and that it means nothing! Definitely some emotional shannanigans with me, but we never had that kind of r'ship closure sleeping together. Do you know what I mean? We ended abruptly with unanswered Q's and without that last night. Hmm, do I sound like a ho? Sorry for bringing down women this way! Link to post Share on other sites
Girlie Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 Maybe it's just me, but I've never had a desire to have a last "night" with someone who dumped me. Unless I was hoping that it would lead to something more that usually just leads to disaster. If you have questions that you feel need answering, then you should feel free to ask (though you can't force a reply), but a last night of sex could just end up leaving you feeling more confused and hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
fool4love Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 I agree with girlie. In my own situation, I felt that being together, sexually, would bring us closer again but if someone breaks things off with you, and they are willing to let you go, than it's not meant to be. There's nothing you (or good sex) can do to change that. I don't think it's a slut or whore thing to do, especially if you really love him, but physical intimacy is only part of a relationship and if you don't have the communication (what actually went wrong with you two) thing down, it's doomed...one more "last night" or not. Maybe just try talking with him, ask him if he would feel comfortable explaining from his perspective what went wrong? Link to post Share on other sites
emeraldcity82 Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 Let me quote sex in the city: If the sex is good, then it just reminds you of what you no longer have. If the sex is bad, then it really wasn't worth it. Capiche? Link to post Share on other sites
TazmaGurl Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 Breaking up hurts enough. Don't go through that pain twice! Get past it, and in time it will get better. By letting him have his way with you without a relationship involved, you might not only start back at stage one as far as pain goes, but you may also show him that your not very "classy"(for lack of a better word) with your sexuality. Tazmagurl Link to post Share on other sites
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