Ex calls..says it was an accident??

[Midnite]

My ex broke off our relationship over the phone in one short conversation a year ago. He just said,"I want you to let me go." We have married twice and he has left numerous times only to come back sorrowful and humble. Things will be good for a few months and then he gets distant again. There has never been any affairs. He runs around often with his brother on their motorcycles,etc. He fits the description of a misogynist in " Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them".

 

I had called him 3 or 4 times just to see if he was thru being mad or if it really was over this time and had he calmed down or did he "hate" me as I read so many of you feel when there is no explanation for the break up given.

 

I have read,"Stop Your Divorce" and thot it good advice...however, it actually built my self confidence and I turned my thinking into, "Why would I even want this guy to call or come back?" I deserve better and I want security which he will never be able to give to me. Actually, I'm pretty happy single and enjoying my sons.(Their father was killed in a car accident so I am on my own with them.)

 

My ex, after telling me to never call, email or contact him has apparently construed to his brother that I am stalking him. I have not contacted him in any way in over 6 weeks. My ex forwarded one of my emails to his brother. His brother then emailed to me but addressed to my ex,"She is still blaming you and has told everyone as she has everyone praying for you. You ought to look up antistalking.com/victim."

 

That was the last straw. I do not need to defend myself to his brother and he has no right to stick his nose into our business not knowing the truth...but I also realized the things my ex has to be telling his brother for him to respond like that.

 

OK, I've gotten that off my chest.....here's why the post....

 

After a year of no contact from ex and now that I'm dating (and there's no reason he'd know I'm dating), he calls one night. I did not answer. Use to I would have returned the call later, but I decided not to..what if his brother was there and it would look to him like I was calling for no reason...I emailed ex the following day and said, "I noticed you called. Hope all is well. You can call by 3:30 or else I'll be gone and we are going out of town for spring break."

 

He emailed back that he had accidentally pushed the call button on his phone while my number was on the screen from caller ID. He said it was his mistake and he apologized.

 

Well, the number on my caller ID had his name on it, but I have never seen that phone number. It must be unlisted for him. I have never called it. I have only called his home 2 times in a year...why would he still have that on his caller ID. I have called him at work 2 times in the year...that's all.

 

What do you guys think...is he starting his old tricks or could it have been an accident. We had a 12 year relationship and he has run back and forth the whole time..Over time, I have seen his away time get longer and the good times shorter.

I don't like feeling rejected, so there is a part of me that wants to know he misses me and hates how he just cut things off, but I am ready to move forward and am enjoying a new relationship.

 

You guys that are hurting and wanting to call your ex...hang in there. It does get better. You begin to wake up of a morning and realize they are not the first thing you think of, and then a week goes by and you can say to yourself...I'm OK...I don't need to talk to them, it's a preference, but I will make it. They have issues. I'm not to blame. As I learned in Divorce Care...Time doesn't always heal all things, but time covers all things..

 

Thanks for letting me ramble.

[hurtingandconfused]

You begin to wake up of a morning and realize they are not the first thing you think of

 

I can't wait for this to happen to me.