wendie Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 2 months. We have gotten into a huge fight. We are almost going to break up over it. It's basicly my fault. I have trouble communicating with him and expressing my feelings. But I can't talk to him because I feel I can't trust him. Even though he has done nothing wrong to make me not trust him. He has been the perfect b/f. Now, he's says we cannot have a relationship if I can't trust him. But I don't know why I don't trust him...thought of him cheating on me or finding someone better have been so repeated over and over in my head by me that now I can't trust him because I'm afraid that he will cheat on me even thought he has said 100's of times that he won't. So he has done nothing bad to deserve for me not to trust him. I can't lose him over this. He is my entire life. Without him I have NO reason to live. He is my soulmate. I know deep in my heart that I am meant to be with him. But how do I fix this? Should I just tell him I really do trust him just so we won't break up and then I can learn to open up more to him. What do I do so I won't lose the best thing I ever had??? HELP!!! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 When you distrust someone, essentially you are calling that person a liar. Figure out for yourself how healthy that is for a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 Without him I have NO reason to live. Wow! I use to think this way when my ex broke up with me. But you learn to live with yourself. And believe me it's not so bad. But how do I fix this? Should I just tell him I really do trust him just so we won't break up and then I can learn to open up more to him. Actions speak louder than words. Yes talk to him...but you have to show him that you do trust him. DO NOT sound so needy. Oh ya..keep in mind...Some things don't go as want them to be...be ready for anything. Link to post Share on other sites
calithin83 Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 well lets see...I also had the same problem of not trusting my bf and i think its just a lack of confidence, u might think he might find someone better then u, or that he deserves better...maybe u need a lil time alone and realize that u r special.with or without him..u cant trust anyone when u have such low confidence, or lack of self love...i say u start trying to trust him....mayebure afraid that all guys are cheaters and ure scared so u rather not trust him..that way if it ever happens u can just be like "I knew it..i knew it all along that u woudl do this"..but what good woudl this do??? If u want to work things out..apologize to him, tell him that ure sorry for not trusting him, and that if he can give u another chance and that u wont bring stuff like that anymore...and really start trying to trust him..and dont show him jealousy or anything like that..cos guys dont like girls like this..they like girls that are secure with themselves.... if u really want this to workout u have to learn to trust..cos really no relationship can workout without trust... Link to post Share on other sites
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