MakingChanges Posted April 18, 2011 Share Posted April 18, 2011 Well me and my ex have been broken up for a little past a month now. At first i was heart broken and i begged and pleaded with her then i read these forums and a couple books about break ups and have stuck with NC well while on NC she broke it twice by talking about me owing her money not like in a bad way she just had something under her credit card and i told her when we were together i would pay for it.... Well we didnt talk for a good 12 days after the first time she said something then she broke NC by playing a game against me that we always played on our phones together i know she was playing it the whole time those 12 days of full NC with other people so she could have let it resign herself of she could have resigned the game herself if she wanted bc she did delete me off her facebook and our pictures. Well the next day after playing that she contacted me about the money i owed her and i kept it casual she wasnt demanding just a nice talk about owing her 50 bucks for buying something for me that i said i would pay her back for. She told me should would get it from me that day well meet up and get it and then i never texted back well it wasnt till the next day we met and i gave her the money and i kept it at a casual talk and didnt show emotion about nothing. I was glad she met me bc the first time we had to meet after our break up she had to get something from me her sister needed and they told me to leave my car unlocked so my ex could get it out bc her sister couldnt get it. Well i didnt get to my car in time and had to give it to her while i was at my car but i said nothing. Well this weekend i went to a concert and my friend is n her bible study class and her sister asked if i was going to be at the softball games this past saturday and my friend said idk he is going to lil wayne concert and my friend told me that my ex acted surprised and was like "REALLY" i was trying to figure out if she was like surprised i was doing that type of thinmg bc me and her always went to things or if she was still concerned what i was doing. I have stuck to my NC i dont refuse to b break it, as much as i really want to tell her how much i love her and all and to express how her breaking up with me has made me better. Its only been a little over a month but i feel so much better bc i now know what i want in a relationship and i feel so much stronger. Like if she were to contact me i wouldnt jump on it and fall right back for her. Thats y i havent played that game back with her bc she waited awhile and im not going to just jumo when she wants to move. But honestly i do love her and i have told her for years since we first got together i would look her n the eyes and tell her one day i would marry her. Well i love her alot and i have to be around her family at church and at church softball and it feels weird bc i was such a big part of them. When i have seen my ex at church we didnt talk i wanted to say something to her but i was going to leave it to her. Odd she wouldnt talk to me at church or at all but then she plays a game that is a form of communication between us 3 days after church and then meets with me so i can repay her 4 days after and actually says something to me.... My hopes arent up there arent any crumbs turning to mountains and all that. No worries about me making NC and all that im still strong in myself so dont think that at all. Im just looking to see if there is any good signs out of any of this. A simple yes and explanation to what extent or just a simple no would work fine. Just checking with everyone else thanks .... Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny85 Posted April 18, 2011 Share Posted April 18, 2011 (edited) How long were the two of you together? I think she is starting to miss you; most people would probably agree with me that while $50 is a lot of money, her world will go on without it (in other words, it was a convenient reason to see you again). She likes you, and the limited contact is probably confusing her. She is also respecting you more for limiting contact, (also allowing you to heal). And you are staying friendly after the breakup, which is how she will remember you when she thinks of you down the road. Good job! If you are meant to be together, time will lead the way. Time and space are your new best friends. Edited April 18, 2011 by Johnny85 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MakingChanges Posted April 18, 2011 Author Share Posted April 18, 2011 We were together for 3 years just about when we broke up I thought it was all me that did everything wrong but now I'm not sure, I know there isn't another man bc she was never like that! She got so pissed at me when I would say when I get married to someone she would get mad even days b4 we broke up when I say thatshe get mad and say y don't u say me! And she never texted anyone but me! But it is all confusing I had other friends say that it was just an excuse for her to see me to get money even though ut was brief and she made it hard to look at me! But I have been strong of course there r days I miss her alot but she has broke the NC twice iv been trying to keep it hard! So I don't get my hopes up or anything! So I'm still giving it time like I saud the first 2 weeks u would try to beg and plea but now I have been good at NC so what you think about that! Link to post Share on other sites
Author MakingChanges Posted April 18, 2011 Author Share Posted April 18, 2011 Very odd!! What else you think Johnny or anyone! Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny85 Posted April 18, 2011 Share Posted April 18, 2011 I think she needs time and space. But since she has broken NC twice, I think she does miss you. This does NOT mean she wants you back; all it means is that you were a part of her life for so long, and now it is taking her a while to adapt to being without you. Only time will tell if the two of you are meant to be together! "Space and time are your new best friends" - Homebrew Link to post Share on other sites
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