hurtingandconfused Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 I've been here for 3 months now. I'm curious, how have you been coping? Ever since my ex broke up with me I've been on this site. It's very helpful and I'm wondering.... If your heart has been broken lately...How are you doing? Still in contact with the ex? How long has it been? Find anyone new? Are you happy now? Link to post Share on other sites
Made_a_Mistake Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 This is a great place to come if you are feeling low / confused whatever, just reading other peoples posts seems to help me when I'm feeling weak! I had only been going out with my man for about 6 weeks when we broke up over a silly misunderstanding - it was pretty intense in those six weeks and although I was only just beginning to fall for him when we split, asbsence has very definitely made the heart grow fonder! I really do want my ex back now but have managed to keep the no contact thing going for about 6 weeks now. You would think that I would be over him by now, but I'm not!! I have a plan though - one last ditch attempt to get him talking to me. I do amateur dramatics and am due to be in a play at the end of May. We had talked about him coming to see me in it when we were together so my plan is to send him 2 tickets with a little note saying "Hope you can make it, it would be nice to see you". This way he'll know that I am still interested and can make a decision about whether he comes at all, whether he talks to me after the play or whatever with little or no pressure. Of course I hope he does come but I suppose it's less painful than having the phone slammed down on you or a door shut in your face! Anyway thanks for checking how people are hurtingandconfused - I really do always feel so much better when I've visited this forum. Thank you everyone for all your input to mine and others posts. The advice you receive here is impartial and priceless! Link to post Share on other sites
kgal Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 Well.. thank God for this place... I mean.. where else could I let all this steam off? LOL.. I think alot of ppl are tired of hearing me talk about my ex.. and they just dont understand why I still bring it up... but you can't really fall out of love w/someone so easily. Anyways... this place is cool to come and just let go of any built up tension. I'm glad it's here! Link to post Share on other sites
emeraldcity82 Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 Meh. Thats about all I can say. Sometimes coming to this site makes things seem worse. Everybody here is experiencing the same thing, but most people seem to be able to cycle through it within weeks or a few months. For me, it just doesn't seem to leave me. It's been 9 months now, and still - STILL, I am constantly looking up sites like this to try to find some way of reconciling my heart and my head and putting my life back together. Go figure - I was only dating the guy for a little over a year. I can't really imagine myself giving my heart away again. Still have trouble finding happiness, but am concentrating now on achieving a state of apathy. Which is exactly what the `meh' is about... Link to post Share on other sites
tom_gbr Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 well ive just started my second day of no contact and ive already started to crack! im wondering why i havent heard from her and why she isnt thinking about me and wanting to get in contact with me. this hurts like hell. i was her life for six months and then it was over. im wondering why she isnt thinking about we have done together and how i made her feel and how much i love her. our trip to paris and christmas spent together. all our road trips and hours spent on her sofa just having a laugh. why doesnt she want this anymore? why does she want someone else? she said when we broke up that it wasnt because of me or anything that i have done and it was because of how she is and she needs to be alone. this sucks so much...i just wanna phone her Link to post Share on other sites
sarah42 Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 im wondering why she isnt thinking about we have done together and how i made her feel and how much i love her. our trip to paris and christmas spent together. all our road trips and hours spent on her sofa just having a laugh. why doesnt she want this anymore? Tom I wonder the same thing every day. My ex and I had so many good times I too can't understand how he could just leave these behind. I wonder every single day if he thinks about me like I think about him. I've just tried to keep myself busy by doing some jobs around the house but all the time I was thinking of him and how much I miss him. When you have something so good, how can they just throw it all away? What do they find in someone else which is better than what they shared in a good relationship with you? Sometimes I wonder if they've just lost their head. Link to post Share on other sites
tom_gbr Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 yeah i know what your talking about...i know she must have some feelings there for me...how cant she?..im so depressed and angry...why is she doing this to me? why break up with me two weeks after paris? why over the phone?....she still loved me as well when she finished it Link to post Share on other sites
sinkerswim Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 I also thank God for this place..it has helped me cope a lot... reading advice..knowing others are in the same boat as me. It makes you realize..that you are not alone. It is 2 months for me since I have seen him and all this happened between us. I really wish my boyfriend and I were in contact. He just doesnt want to talk to me right now. I have to accept that..as hard as it is. I cry every day...I just miss him more than anything and would really give anything to have him back in my life. I would die for him...that is how close I was with him. I dont know whats to come..so its scary. I just want him back. But I am hanging in there.. trying to get by..day by day. Hour by hour sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
YssaBoo Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 Just starting to go on dates if that is what they are called.My ex emails me and asks me to go to the mall with him or a movie.I am the only one he goes alone with,all the other times he goes in groups.I believe he IS trying and knows how he went about the entire situation was wrong.He even asked me last week if I had heard "The Reason" by Hoobastank,he was telling me how much he loved it. The words fit our breakup.I am taking it day by day and letting him make the first moves and the invites.I think there is hope for every b/u if you are willing to give them time and space and let them feel there is love still between you and not show it. Link to post Share on other sites
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