Silly_Girl Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 After 5 years, I would hope that a man saw me as something more than just a "cookie." That's just my my view. I DID recall saying that what was meaningful to me might not be meaningful to someone else. I know what you mean. What were you wanting/getting five years in? Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 I know what you mean. What were you wanting/getting five years in? Often hindsight is 20/20, which is why many people who've lived through certain things and learned the hard way are trying to help others see they are settling for so little in hopes of helping them NOT waste so much precious time. It's often difficult to see things when you're right in the middle of them. A "forest for the trees" kind of issue. Link to post Share on other sites
jthorne Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 (edited) I know what you mean. What were you wanting/getting five years in?That all you got? Considering there never was any "five years in" for me, I guess I got exactly what I wanted: an honest man with integrity that loves me and only me and never asked me to wait for anything. But yeah, what Donna said ^^ Edited April 20, 2011 by jthorne Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 an honest man with integrity that loves me and only me and never asked me to wait for anything. Yet another gift my baby gives me every day! Thanks for the reminder! Link to post Share on other sites
jthorne Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 Yet another gift my baby gives me every day! Thanks for the reminder! You betcha Link to post Share on other sites
mitchell Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 Often hindsight is 20/20, which is why many people who've lived through certain things and learned the hard way are trying to help others see they are settling for so little in hopes of helping them NOT waste so much precious time. It's often difficult to see things when you're right in the middle of them. A "forest for the trees" kind of issue. Very inciteful reply, Donna. It can be very difficult to help people see things they just don't want to see. I do suspect the OP does realize deep down that she is in a lousy situation. Me thinks she doth protest too much! Link to post Share on other sites
Snowflower Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 Okay, I won't gush about any gifts I've received since I'm not an OW. I just thought the thread was supposed to be fun after reading the title "studmuffin." Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 That all you got? Considering there never was any "five years in" for me, I guess I got exactly what I wanted: an honest man with integrity that loves me and only me and never asked me to wait for anything. But yeah, what Donna said ^^ I give up! Twenty becomes less than five. There's a lot of reporting of extremes going on these days. I'll slope off before I get dizzy Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 Often hindsight is 20/20, which is why many people who've lived through certain things and learned the hard way are trying to help others see they are settling for so little in hopes of helping them NOT waste so much precious time. It's often difficult to see things when you're right in the middle of them. A "forest for the trees" kind of issue. Interesting how this is only acceptable when it's those whose As DIDN'T work out helping those "who can't see things because they're in the middle of them", rather than those of us whose As DID work out wonderfully. If someone was happy with crumbs for 20 / 18 / less than 5 or however many years and then suddenly sees the light and hallelujah! wants to save every OW from the possibility that something good might actually come out of her A - which may be with a guy of considerably more integrity than the slimeball that the unfortunate fOW had the misfortune to be taken in by for 20 / 18 / less than 5 years - fair enough. It takes all sorts to make a world. But at least own it for what it is - sour grapes that things didn't work out for them, as it has for some of the rest of us, and as it might yet work out for others. Daisy, if you're happy, enjoy it. You have every right to your happiness, and no one's small minded sniping can take that from you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author daisy love Posted April 20, 2011 Author Share Posted April 20, 2011 NO WONDER this place sucks it so hard! If I say I'm HAPPY, then I'm really not. If I ask that this SUPPORT FORUM FOR OTHER WOMEN be what it actually says it is, then I'm protesting too much. Don't you people have anything better to do than sling mud? Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 slimeball that the unfortunate fOW had the misfortune to be taken in by for ........5 years We agree on something! Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 OKaaayyyyy...... To be on topic (and to be cute).... the best present my husband got me? Just look at my avatar Link to post Share on other sites
Rose1977 Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 NO WONDER this place sucks it so hard! If I say I'm HAPPY, then I'm really not. If I ask that this SUPPORT FORUM FOR OTHER WOMEN be what it actually says it is, then I'm protesting too much. Don't you people have anything better to do than sling mud? A lot of people including myself did respond with gifts we have received, both material and immaterial that have made us happy. I apologize for posting about gifts that made me happy if you only wanted to hear from OW. I personally think that any gift from a man that makes someone happy despite the nature of their relationship (A, M, whatever) should make for a happy thread, but it seems that while others have continued discussions about gifts - the original intent of this thread, you have ignored those posts and picked out only the ones you perceive as negative to respond to. A lot of people have answered your question. Not everyone is going to say what you want to hear, but that's to be expected.... Link to post Share on other sites
jthorne Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 I thought I was right, but I had to look it up. The "sweetest cookie" line was in the liner notes of a rock CD. Is Daisy's MM famous? She did say he lives in LA... Either that, or maybe he's a plagiarist. Link to post Share on other sites
Rose1977 Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 OKaaayyyyy...... To be on topic (and to be cute).... the best present my husband got me? Just look at my avatar Ugh, first I was jealous of the Eiffel Tower thing with HereNow and now you. I love cats and my exH was allergic and don't you know my BF is too? I will never own another cat So cute! How old is it? Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 Ugh, first I was jealous of the Eiffel Tower thing with HereNow and now you. I love cats and my exH was allergic and don't you know my BF is too? I will never own another cat So cute! How old is it? She will be 15 this year Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 I thought I was right, but I had to look it up. The "sweetest cookie" line was in the liner notes of a rock CD. Is Daisy's MM famous? She did say he lives in LA... Either that, or maybe he's a plagiarist. Quite an interesting turn of events, that. Link to post Share on other sites
Rose1977 Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 She will be 15 this year Awww... I miss my cats sleeping in bed with me. I am a magnet for allergic men. If this R fails, I'm definitely going back to cats Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 It is amazing to me how a thread that appeared to be a cutesy something got pissy because someone decided that the "responses" were.....(wait for it) bitter. How old does this get when some people always see things with an intent that wasn't intended or never entered the posters mind. There are some things in life that just don't revolve around anyone specifically or their situations. I think my next tat will say bitter by order of the board police. Link to post Share on other sites
jthorne Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 It is amazing to me how a thread that appeared to be a cutesy something got pissy because someone decided that the "responses" were.....(wait for it) bitter. How old does this get when some people always see things with an intent that wasn't intended or never entered the posters mind. There are some things in life that just don't revolve around anyone specifically or their situations. I think my next tat will say bitter by order of the board police. You have tats?!?! Whoda thunk it! Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 It is amazing to me how a thread that appeared to be a cutesy something got pissy because someone decided that the "responses" were.....(wait for it) bitter. AND every time it is brought up that MANY of the responses were NOT "bitter" and very much OT and those were the ONLY responses that weren't responded to, there is no explanation. Why d'ya suppose that is? Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 Ooo, fun thread! The sweetest thing my baby gives me is all of him every day, and the remodeling he is doing to the country home we share. The locket sounds lovely, Daisy, and I hope you enjoy it. Case in point: One of the very much OT responses filled with happiness and joy, and nary a peep about it, even though I told the OP I hope she enjoys her gift. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 OKaaayyyyy...... To be on topic (and to be cute).... the best present my husband got me? Just look at my avatar Agreed! Cute Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 You have tats?!?! Whoda thunk it! Shhhh! :oDon't tell my mommy. Link to post Share on other sites
jwi71 Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 NO WONDER this place sucks it so hard! If I say I'm HAPPY, then I'm really not. If I ask that this SUPPORT FORUM FOR OTHER WOMEN be what it actually says it is, then I'm protesting too much. Don't you people have anything better to do than sling mud? Do you have any updates on when he is filing for D? You last predicted Summer of '11 and that's getting awfully close. I presume, based on your previous history, he has managed to hide a majority of his considerable assets from his W by now. Or very nearly in any case. Is that timeline still in effect? Link to post Share on other sites
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