Adoption? I'm a straight male. Do I need a wife?

[LearningLove]

I'm looking at society and really there is not a woman I would want to marry. Yes, I have had my chance with wonderful women in the past who were definitely marriage material. However, I dropped the ball in those situations and now I am at a place where I am left with the worst women society has to offer.

 

I'm ultra-moral. I seriously do not like anything that is remotely shady. Most women are into other women, or fantasize and try to live out double lives, a lot consider having children beneath them....blah..blah...blah....

 

Really, I would just love to have children. I have three wonderful nephews who I mentor and groom into leaders, but I'm not my brother-in-law--I'm not their father.

 

Financially, I'm pretty well to do. I'm a wonderful person. Does anyone know, is there a state where I could adopt children? Or do I have to be married to adopt?

[LearningLove]

Adopt? use your sperm to create a child via a surrogate mother.You won't have any problem with keeping the child, because they child is entirely yours by law.

 

I'm not certain what to make of your comment. I sense a little bit of hostility and sarcasm in your remark, which is fine but I'm not certain the reason for the reaction.

 

If I am wrong and your comment is sincere, then I have to write you are very misinformed regarding surrogacy. Not to act like a legal authority on the matter of surrogacy law--yes, the legal matters of surrogacy are so complicated they actually have their own dedicated field along with legal specialists--but surrogacy is far more complicated and expensive than adoption.

 

In addition to the legal complication typically arising in surrogacy and the cost of a successful surrogate birth, there is also a moral issue which deters me from this kind of method. I'm a religious man and I cannot just give my seed to any woman to have a baby without marriage.

 

Adoption is different in that the baby is already born and needs a family.

[sally4sara]

Yes you can adopt as a single male. Like a single woman or a couple would, you will have to go through a screening process to be determined stable and fit. Maybe a parenting class.

 

Of course, people struggle with being completely impartial. Whomever interviews you may have an opinion of the idea that isn't really logical.

[russiandating]

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[LearningLove]

Of course, people struggle with being completely impartial. Whomever interviews you may have an opinion of the idea that isn't really logical.

 

I must write, finally you understand me. I was beginning to believe I would never be understood. I'm really puzzled at what took you so, so long. Ultimately though In my opinion, no harm no foul.

 

I hope this means I am now free to move forward with my life without having to wonder about what acronym must be dealt with and clarified. I'm sure at this point you (universal) understand I'm nobody, desire to be nobody, and will remain nobody.

 

I guess this is all fitting to occur around Easter?

[LearningLove]

I guess, I was hopeful, falsely hopeful.

 

It seems you have hit a new low, a very, very sad new low. I mean, I had assumed you had some standards, some things were beneath you. I guess not, whatever works right?

 

Well I'm going to have to adjust my maxim: where there are liberals there are criminals.

 

At this point the maxim is: where there are liberals there is evil.

 

This whole things was never about winning or losing, it was always about just wanting to go about life in peace. I'm not certain, nor will ever be certain as to why that idea is so problematic for you. I'm not even certain what you want from me. I've gotten past the pitiful and worthless question, "why me?" There is no reason for that question.

 

Well, ultimately, nothing I write here matters. You will still believe you are doing right and are justified in what you do.

 

I can only pray, my Lord my master delivers me from this place very soon. If people like you are in control of this world, I was not meant for this world. That is all I know.

 

Just so that you know, I never had any huge aspirations. When I was little, I just always wanted to marry a nice woman and have three children. Life in the suburbs, a quite but happy life. But I guess in your scheme of things, those goals are bad. I'm not certain why.

 

Oh well, it does not matter; we will never understand each other. The difference between you and I is although I will never understand you, I would never harm you. You are not like that.

[dreamingoftigers]

I guess, I was hopeful, falsely hopeful.

 

It seems you have hit a new low, a very, very sad new low. I mean, I had assumed you had some standards, some things were beneath you. I guess not, whatever works right?

 

Well I'm going to have to adjust my maxim: where there are liberals there are criminals.

 

At this point the maxim is: where there are liberals there is evil.

 

This whole things was never about winning or losing, it was always about just wanting to go about life in peace. I'm not certain, nor will ever be certain as to why that idea is so problematic for you. I'm not even certain what you want from me. I've gotten past the pitiful and worthless question, "why me?" There is no reason for that question.

 

Well, ultimately, nothing I write here matters. You will still believe you are doing right and are justified in what you do.

 

I can only pray, my Lord my master delivers me from this place very soon. If people like you are in control of this world, I was not meant for this world. That is all I know.

 

Just so that you know, I never had any huge aspirations. When I was little, I just always wanted to marry a nice woman and have three children. Life in the suburbs, a quite but happy life. But I guess in your scheme of things, those goals are bad. I'm not certain why.

 

Oh well, it does not matter; we will never understand each other. The difference between you and I is although I will never understand you, I would never harm you. You are not like that.

 

For all of us.

 

I fail to understand why your question became such an aired greivance.

 

Good luck to you, may blessings follow.

[Eddie Edirol]

Uh oh, someone is off his meds.

[dreamingoftigers]

Uh oh, someone is off his meds.

 

I just went back on mine today, probably why I responded.

 

OP, erm, something tells me that you might not be ready to adopt.....

[sally4sara]

I guess, I was hopeful, falsely hopeful.

 

:confused:It seems you have hit a new low, a very, very sad new low. I mean, I had assumed you had some standards, some things were beneath you. I guess not, whatever works right?

 

Well I'm going to have to adjust my maxim: where there are liberals there are criminals.

 

At this point the maxim is: where there are liberals there is evil.

 

This whole things was never about winning or losing, it was always about just wanting to go about life in peace. I'm not certain, nor will ever be certain as to why that idea is so problematic for you. I'm not even certain what you want from me. I've gotten past the pitiful and worthless question, "why me?" There is no reason for that question.

 

Well, ultimately, nothing I write here matters. You will still believe you are doing right and are justified in what you do.

 

I can only pray, my Lord my master delivers me from this place very soon. If people like you are in control of this world, I was not meant for this world. That is all I know.

 

Just so that you know, I never had any huge aspirations. When I was little, I just always wanted to marry a nice woman and have three children. Life in the suburbs, a quite but happy life. But I guess in your scheme of things, those goals are bad. I'm not certain why.

 

Oh well, it does not matter; we will never understand each other. The difference between you and I is although I will never understand you, I would never harm you. You are not like that.

 

Eh? I did what now?!?

 

All I did was look up some basic info that you asked about. Silly really, if you were truly interested in adopting a child one would think you could have looked this stuff up on your own and not bothered with us low evil folks.

 

You're going to have to go through the same process as anyone else; be interviewed and found fit. You don't sound fit in your last posts. You sound unhinged.

[Eeyore79]

There are a limited number of healthy young children and babies available for adoption, and the authorities prefer to place them with what they consider to be the most desirable parents - i.e. young heterosexual couples. Gay couples and single people are often encouraged to adopt the type of children who are less in demand - older children, or children with mental or physical disabilities. You're unlikely to be able to "groom" a mentally disabled child to "be a leader".

 

I think when you envisage yourself with a child, you probably imagine a young healthy child whom you could raise to become a strong, morally sound adult. As a single parent you're unlikely to get the opportunity to adopt such a child. I know people who are so frustrated with their inability to adopt a healthy young child that they are looking into adopting from countries like Romania, where there are plenty of such children available.