Kyles06TJ Posted April 19, 2011 Share Posted April 19, 2011 My wife has told me recently she feels more like my roommate then my wife. She says she still loves me but does not have intimate feelings for me. Is there anything I can do? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted April 19, 2011 Share Posted April 19, 2011 Ask her who the other man is. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodamnpragmatic Posted April 19, 2011 Share Posted April 19, 2011 My wife has told me recently she feels more like my roommate then my wife. She says she still loves me but does not have intimate feelings for me. Is there anything I can do? How long have you ben married? How old? How many children? Details please. Ask her why and what she expects from a marriage. Be ready to leave if she can't be honest and express her thoughts and is not interested in counseling. This is a loaded comment and often based on issues from her past or unreasonable expectations of love, commitment and marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted April 19, 2011 Share Posted April 19, 2011 So then clearly she wouldnt mind if you "cheated" Because your marriage is finito Link to post Share on other sites
mark982 Posted April 19, 2011 Share Posted April 19, 2011 i'm with pegnose. ask who the other guy is, or start snooping Link to post Share on other sites
Scott James Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 Go out with her and make her feel that she is happy with you and she can't live without you. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrsrobinson Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 To me this sounds like her way of saying that she needs to connect with you. And she is reaching out before it's to late. Ask her what you can do to help her feel connected again. marriage and long term relationships are like fires. Sometimes you have to through a log in to keep them burning. We get caught up in our personal lives sometimes and forget about our partners. Especially if one is at home more, spending alot of time alone. See what she needs from you. And try to make it happen Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 To me this sounds like her way of saying that she needs to connect with you. And she is reaching out before it's to late. Ask her what you can do to help her feel connected again. marriage and long term relationships are like fires. Sometimes you have to through a log in to keep them burning. We get caught up in our personal lives sometimes and forget about our partners. Especially if one is at home more, spending alot of time alone. See what she needs from you. And try to make it happen To me this is BS. Sadly the odds are there is someone else, you need to rule this out before deciding what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 Ask her who the other man is. I'm afraid I also agree. "I feel more like a room mate", is the married equivalent of; "it's not you, it's me". Link to post Share on other sites
StoneCold Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 (edited) To me this sounds like her way of saying that she needs to connect with you. And she is reaching out before it's to late. Ask her what you can do to help her feel connected again. marriage and long term relationships are like fires. Sometimes you have to through a log in to keep them burning. But it really does depend on the context of which she said it....it could mean what you think (because I know that for some odd reason women like to speak in code rather than simply get to the point) or it could mean its finito for a multitude of reasons.....fell out of love, someone else OP you'll have to give a little more info Edited April 28, 2011 by StoneCold Link to post Share on other sites
Baroness67 Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 My H's version of this was the "I love you but I am not in love with you anymore" (I forget the acronym used here). When I heard this, I cried. Then some people who were coming over showed up and I basically ran and hid for a while to get myself together. Not so helpful. In retrospect, what I should have done at that time was to ask him what he was really saying. I hear his words - you are more like a roommate. But what is your point? Is your point that you would like me to change and make the marriage better? Are you saying that you are not content with the way things are? Are you telling me gently and indirectly that you find someone else worthy of your romantic attentions? The "You feel more like a roommate" is the opening to whatever is behind it. You need to find out what's behind it. Link to post Share on other sites
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