day two of no contact...dont laugh!

[Dixiecron]

Tom,

 

You sound a hell of a lot better today. Its good to hear that you're focusing on taking care of yourself right now instead of worrying about the ex. Maybe you can come up with a new Thursday tradition, like: Go out and get pissed with the mates and have a contest to see who can get rejected by the most women at the bar.

[tom_gbr]

god does anyone else hate mornings? had a dream last night about her and i recieved an information pack from the travel company that we used when we went away valentines day weekend : ( .

 

i know im getting better but i cant stop thinking about her...im finding it so hard to think about other things. i really would like to speak to her as well...its been around two weeks without me speaking to her or any contact which has been very hard.

 

somewhere inside me im hoping that she will call me sometime next week or this weekend...would be nice to find out if she had a nice easter and to catch up as well.

 

i really dont want to call her as i dont really wanna look desperate...but at this rate im not even sure if ill hear from her again

[shellen]

ya i hate mornings..but not so much because of the dreams I may have the night before. But because somehow when I wake up in the morning the first person that comes to my mind is my ex.

[tom_gbr]

well its friday night.....the night that i always spent with my girlfriend...it used to be the best night of the week for me but now i hate it. Instead of being cuddled up with her on the sofa right now or out for a meal im sitting at home trying to get coursework done.

 

im constantly thinking about her...its so strange not knowing how the one you love is doing or what they are up too. Im wondering if she is thinking about me a lot...im wondering if she is at all...i tried to phone her wednesday morning and she didnt answer it...dont know why...she could of been at work or studying or something...well atleast thats what i hope.

 

it would be nice if i heard from her tonight or later in the week....i have so much that i want to talk to her about about what i have been up to...about my new job and joining up to my cousins gym...i want to show her that im coping without her and im trying to move on.

 

i really dont want it to be me that makes contact though....i dont want to look desperate...but at this rate i dont even know if im going to hear from her again

[tom_gbr]

well im going to bed in a minute....im a little drunk which isnt good....i ended up texting the ex saying hope you are ok and that if its ok ill speak to you sometime in the week....she texted back saying that she was ok and that its cool if i call her.

 

i really know i shouldnt of texted her....but it's a friday night and ive always spent it with her...i think she will of have realised why i texted her as she did it a couple of weeks a go.

 

i know that we are never going to be boyfriend and girlfriend again...i really want us to be close though as friends...thats important to me.

 

i know i can meet someone that can love me as much...and even more than she did...im going to bed...im drunk

[tom_gbr]

how many posts can i write?...lol...im sort of regretting texting her last night...i know im not hastling her or anything as it's been ages since ive had any contact with her.

 

im so confused and i really dont know what im thinking...im confident that i can move on and find someone else that loves me and that is as great as my ex but i cant stop thinking about her...she is all i can think about.

 

i still love her..i know we are not going to be getting back together but i would really like us to have regular contact with each other...not sure how i will react though if i find out she has a boyfriend or something in a couple of months.

 

im really looking forward to speaking to her sometime this week....i dont know if i should be or not though...as i dont know after that when the next time will be, as i dont want to be the one making all the contact.

 

people say that ill get better and over her in time.....but whatever i choose to do i know im going to get worse through may...as thats when i was going to spending half a month with her in her empty house...now i know that shes going to be having lots of partys and ive heard what her and her mates partys are like.

 

i know its none of my business anymore but it still upsets me and i cant stop thinking about her with someone else

[sinkerswim]

Tom...its ok..

You are grieving like anyone else would. Its been over 2 months for me and STILL I cry every day...I wonder what he does with his Friday nights.

That was OUR night as well.

 

In time, it will start easing up a bit.

Personaly, it feels like I will never get over this...I just want to call him too.

At least you can text her and she will respond.

At least its some kind of communication.

Me? If I called, he probably wouldnt want to speak to me..because HE ran away from the relationship and doesnt want to face it.

Its terrible.

Every day I just pray that he talks to me again.

I miss him more than anything, and I would give the world to be with him again.

[tom_gbr]

i really dont know what im thinking about this phone call im going to make midweek...i think im making it so i can show her that im coping very well without her...also i just miss her and want to find out about her easter....but im also thinking that maybe if she speaks to me and finds out that i am getting on well without her with my new job and joining a gym and so on that she will miss me and want me back.

 

i cant see that happening...but maybe if she see's that im moving on she will feel confident that she can keep in contact with me without making me worse. i cant loose her completly..not having her in my life at all is unbearable right now.

 

hang in there sinkerswim.....hopefully one day ill be able to log onto loveshack and be able to give advice to other people like all you have done for me.

 

thanks guys

[tom_gbr]

this might sound quite bad to you guys but when i speak to my ex this week what do you think is a good thing to say to make her think about her decision to end the relationship?

 

im going to tell her all about the gym that i have joined and about the new job i have working in a bar...also about my easter and how good it has been.

 

i also want to show her that im trying to move on and get on with things...what do you think?

 

if anything i hope doing this will make her want to speak to me more as at the moment i dont think shes contacting me as i think that she thinks she will make it worse for me

[Durden]

Tom, dunno if u read the thread i started "i miss my gf". Anyway, since she told me to leave her alone after i sent her a card for valentines, ive made no effort to contact her. Well, every since she's been phoning and texting me. I've had all kinds of **** from her, but I've got to the stage where i dont give a ****! She phoned me yesterday, i didnt realise it was her as she witheld her number. Was asking what i was doing the wkd, and if i had a girlfriend yet. Then she even tried to have a go at me because i dont phone or text her!! And im not going to either!

Anyway, ive got a date on monday Tom, do yourself a big favour and dont bother phoning her during the week. I know you miss her and think you cant live without her in your life, but you can. You will only end up upsetting yourself.

[tom_gbr]

no i cant remember your thread sorry mate...the thing is we broke up on good terms so its not like one of us in the wrong or something...its just that we originally planned to spend easter together so i just think it would be nice to find out if she had a good one and just to catch up.

 

we havent havent had any proper contact in overa couple of weeks...she hasnt been contacting me as she thinks it will make me worse....im finding it harder that she isnt contacting me.

 

its important that we stay in contact.....she needs to know that im there for her and shes my first love so its important to me that we still talk.

 

i know there was a bit of **** with when she sent me a text saying that she was missing me but thats a while back now and enough time has past for both of us to cool down.

 

i want to show her that im doing fine without her and that im getting on with things.....thats important to me.

 

good luck with your date im sure it will go well...im out on the piss next weekend and on the pull as well......i have boyband looks that go down well so ive been told....lol

[tom_gbr]

just my usual daily post...seem to be getting better now day by day....not feeling so depressed which is good...dont know if im feeling like this though as i know that im going to speak to her sometime this week so i know i will have contact.

 

i know its over.....probably a 20% chance that she would want me back i think im just looking forward to seeing how she is and if she had a good easter...also to tell her what ive been up too....at the end of the day i miss talking to her.

 

i would love it if we could meet in person though instead of talking on the phone...im looking better than ever at the moment as i have been down the gym a lot since we broke up. just would like to show her that since we have been apart im looking better than ever.

 

i have also had a lot of interest from girls when ive been out clubbing as well so that was a boost for me....it shows that i can attract other girls and find someone as gorgeous and with a great personality just like my ex girlfriend and who can love me as much, and even more than she did.

 

still taking everyday at a time...i dont look forward to anything apart from what im doing on the day...i find this helps.

 

i still wonder a lot what my ex is thinking....if shes missing me and all the things we did together....who knows.

 

i think my feelings are slowly fading for her...im not sure at the moment

[sinkerswim]

Tom..

Im glad things seem to be getting a little easier for you.

Someone told me that "NEVER try to guess what another person is thinking or feeling."

I do it all the time....but my friend was right. We cant know unless they tell us.

I wish I knew what he was thinking and feeling. Because that is what is killing me here.

[tom_gbr]

i guess im going to find out what she's thinking and feeling when i speak to her sometime this week....you can always tell how a person is by the way they talk to you on the phone....well thats what i think anyway.

 

last time i spoke to i think three weeks ago now she seemed really upbeat and talkative and was asking a lot of questions about that ive been up to and so on...i could tell that she was missing me.

 

im not going to say that this is going to happen this time...but im still going to call and tell her what ive been up too and so on...i still care.

 

my dad was looking through the holiday brochure that i got from the travel company that me and my ex used for our holiday and he's looking at the family going to disneyland paris for the weekend...i dont think ill go as it will bring up loads of memories of my ex girlfriend....plus i want that weekend is disneyland a memory that i had with my girlfriend. i dont think i want to go there again with anyone else.

 

ive been looking back at the breakup and i feel bad for making it so more difficult for my girlfriend...she needed to be alone to sort her life out and i just kept trying to bargain with her and plead with her to take me back. no wonder why she hasnt contacted me in a while....she still loved me and i made everything so much harder for her.

 

i feel like i should apologise to her but i dont want to bring up the past as it will upset both of us.

 

i really hope that when i call her thursday it goes ok and that she feels like she can call me whenever she needs me...thats important to me. if we lost contact all together it would hurt me a lot.

 

somewhere inside me im hoping that this call will make her miss me and she will slowly want me back...you never know...but i doubt it.

 

at the end if the day atleast i come out of this withsome else that i love like i do for my family and close friends and that will never change...i know she feels the same.

[tom_gbr]

hopefully my last post for the evening...it helps though putting everything down.

 

well thats easter over with which im happy about as i was supposed to be spending it with my now ex girlfriend.

 

i know i shouldnt be thinking about her but i cant help it....i know shes going to be going to bed soon..i wonder if she is thinking about me at all at the moment...i have dont quite well keeping contact down to a minimum apart from friday night when i was drunk....atleast i didnt say anything stupid.

 

i wonder what shes thinking about speaking to me this week?...is she looking forward to it or do you think she will be dreading it.

 

im looking forward to telling her about my easter and about my new bar job and about me joining the gym....also about being with my mates getting drunk....this will show that im moving on and coping.

 

i wonder what she will think after the phone call......is there any chance this could spark something....some feelings of regret for finishing it? if she see's me coping and getting on with my life without her could she rethink her decision.

 

i really want her to be happy....i want to show her that ive changed and that the break up has made me stronger and that if we got back together the relationship would be strong. i also know i can make her happy and thats what she needs right now.

 

if anything i hope after the call she feels confident that she can call me if she needs to speak to me without making things worse for me

[Kelly67]

This original post was so funny! How many times have we all broken up with someone then spent every minute of every day thinking about this person and wondering who is going to call first, do they miss me, are they thinking about me?

 

It can be excruciating when you're not sure if you want it to be over, whether it's the right thing to do or if there's hope for a reconciliation.

 

I'm going thru this and we went three weeks without talking. Then a note placed in a ziplock bag appeared on the windshield of my car one morning stuck under the windshield wiper - from him. Then I wrote a note back and put it on his car - then I just called because I couldn't take it anymore.

 

I missed him desperately but now that we've reconciled I realize I can't be with this person in a marriage. We were better dating and being lovers.

 

So now, after hashing out 5 hour long conversations with each other about how much we love each other but can't get along - I must go ahead with a divorce.

 

I think going back and reconciling drags it out and makes it harder to tell you the truth. I was doing ok until I found that note he left on my car - then I relapsed.

[tom_gbr]

im on a rollercoaster at the moment its really strange...i woke up this morning thinking i was over my ex and that i had put her behind me but it turned round the other way in an hour later...cant stop thinking about her!

 

i know i can move on and find someone else but right now i dont want someone else i just want her...i know its bad to think about it but i really wish i knew what she's thinking...if she's missing me and wanted to contact me but she's afraid too.

 

im going to phone her tonight and just have a good chat with her and tell her everything that ive been up too....show her that im strong and trying to move on

[tom_gbr]

well its friday again.....if we were still together i would be leaving in an hour to drive up and see her for the night.after the phone call wednesday its really clear that she is getting on fine without me..all her nights out clubbing and going to the gym all the time and all her new friends...she sounds really happy. i did make a point of telling her about my new job and joining the gym as well...so atleast she knows im getting on with things as well.

 

i still love her and i cant stop thinking about her.....everything is reminding me of her...i know i can meet someone else who will love me and be as attractive and funny as my ex was but i really dont want someone else right now.

 

i wonder if she has any feelings left for me at all....she sounded a bit bothered on the phone when i told her that i got my bar job because i met my brothers girlfriends older sister in a club and we got chatting and she said i should get a job at the bar that she works....that seemed to bother my ex.

 

oh ive got another job as well!...got two now....lol...im working at a supermarket but its great as it has loads of attractive girls working there

 

well im off....got a busy day infront of me.....going to gym....washing car...course work....bar training....getting drunk...lol

[sinkerswim]

Tom..

I am glad you are keeping busy... keep up your good work.

Fridays are tough for me too.

But..Im trying to keep busy as well.

[tom_gbr]

i my bar training last night which was really good as it took my mind off things....apart from one point when i got this horrible image in my head of my ex being intimate with another guy...i felt like i was going to be sick.

 

i woke up this morning scared...this morning it really kicked in that ive accepted the fact that i cant be with her...and possibly never speak to her again...i dont want to be the one contacting her all the time....what type of friendship is that?

 

i would love it if i was just able to talk to her on the phone without getting upset and reading into everything she says....i miss talking to her...i miss telling her things....i want to tell her about my second job and how my bar training went...it wasnt that bad speaking to her wednesday but it upset me a little when she was telling me that she was doing all this new stuff since we have broken up.

 

i would like it if i could speak to her on MSN again...i would feel better if we had some contact...but i dont know how i bring the matter up....i cant ring her up and ask her to unblock me can I.

 

i think im still clinging onto hope...hope that she will want me back....im still constantly thinking about her.

 

i find the worst thing is waking up in the mornings...i think everyone does...i hate the fact that another day has started and she's not in my life....day by day we are drifting even further apart.

 

not boasting or anything but im a goodlooking guy.....i can get a girl as nice as my ex...but i still want my ex.

 

gonna try and keep myself busy today like everyday so far for the last week...i never sit down unless im at the computer on this site.

[Durden]

Tom, **** it! life is too short!! At least your ex didnt tell you she'd had a threesome! mine did!!

[tom_gbr]

sh*t man i remember you posting about that...that blows big time.

 

im going out tonight and im gonna be pulling out all the stops with the girls...f*ck holding back and being all nervous about it.

 

ive just gotta keep saying to myself that my ex wont be turning guys down.....we have been apart for two months now

[Durden]

Dont bother running after her tom, it aint worth it!!! Maybe a few months down the line you could be friends with her. But then again, a few months down the line you might not give a ****!

[tom_gbr]

yeah true mate......but i cant see myself not giving a f*ck about her...maybe ill just wont care as much....ill look back at how it all finished between us and feel anger or something.

 

i know i can get someone as amazing as she was....i also know it aint gonna happen straight away

[Durden]

I know how you feel tom, ive been there a few times. Just think of number 1 at the moment. It will get alot easier soon.