raider1 Posted April 20, 2011 Share Posted April 20, 2011 Hi everyone! I would really like some thoughts on this.. I won't be long. My gf and I broke up 7 months ago. She is now 40, I am 32. She has two kids from a previous marriage, that ended a little before we got together. At first I thought I was a rebound, but our relationship lasted 3 years... We broke up when she began feeling like she needed to "rebuild her life"... I knew what to do, I agreed and went NC immediately. She kept contacting me once a month, or once every 3 weeks. I made sure I was upbeat, showed her that I moved on... I never showed any neediness... Well, about 6 weeks ago, she invited me for a drink (not just the two of us, but there were other friends as well).. A little later we went out clubbing, and ended up having sex. That was a month ago... But after that, we took a step back, even though our contact is now regular... we have not had sex since that one time...but we openly flirt all the time. Well, in the meantime I found out - she told me - that she called up her ex (and a long time friend) whom she had not seen for 10 years or more... This guy used to be her boyfriend when she was maybe 20. He is now 47, married, kids, lives in another city 300 miles away. But she goes there once a month for a couple of days on business. Last time she was there they had a drink together.. They have kept contact since then. She does not keep it a secret from me, but I don't feel good about this at all. I have been acting non-chalantly, not even acknowledging the guy.. But I do feel very uneasy, especially given the fact that we have made a lot of progress lately in getting back together... We are not together and she can see whomever she wants to, but still... Last weekend we went out clubbing again, and we flirted like crazy, but nothing happened... Then last Monday she went on her business trip again, and they met up again. She has not contacted me since. I am confused... She flirts with me, we have sex once, we flirt some more... and at the same time she has this renewed friendship, maybe even more, with an ex boyfriend from 20 years ago....What do you think?... I admit, it is eating me up Link to post Share on other sites
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