talking to someone u dont know good+makin move

[Tkay]

Lo.

 

This (female) friend of me is trying to get me together with a friend of her. I never met her or anything but it just seems to be my type (saw pic, takled a bit to her on msn)

but my problem

Even on msn i don't know what to say. Like there are awfull silences after every sentence or something

Like i just asked 3 things

 

>how are u?

<fine and u?

>fine too

>so are u coming with us to that place later this vacation?"

<yes if nothing urgent shows up

>Ahh i see cool!

>Cool pic btw (a pic of herself)

<:S hole!

<

.. silence..

>so melissa said u arent going to that party this saturday huh

<nope..

*me freaks out and comes up with excuse to go offline*

>too bad

but then ill see u maybe this vacation (place i was talkin about earlier)

dad wants to be on pc ciaooooo xxxx

<oke

<ciaociao!

<(K)

 

And i go offline. afterwards i ponder about what i should have said .. something like u look lovely again @ pic and stuff.. I always have this afterwards, why didnt I say something to the girl, (in this case her) I just can't think of anything.

 

this friend of me already asked her stuff like 'are u looking for someone?' and she answered "yes but I dont know Thierry(me) that well yet so"

"but u want to get to know him?"

"sure!"

and she also sent her a pic of me.. and she said something like "cool!" .. melissa asked her what she tought of me and she said "looks like a sweet/kind guy :)"

So i have a chance i think

 

so.. help me get over this problem with talking!!! I don't have a problem to talk to someone i know better but when i barely know someone its a hell!!!..

 

ohyeah btw .. someone happen to know any good ideas to "flirt" or make a move in an amusement park (u know rollercoasters and stuff)

 

Ciao.

[MarKus]

Hi fella,

 

its quite easy really....you sound like a shy kinda guy....mate she already said that she wants to get to know cos she answered your friends question....she said you looked sweet etc....so you are definatly in there....you can talk about anything.....find out about her more....ask her stuff....its easy when you know how!!....dont just go ahead and flirt yet....cos you havnt properly talked to her.....flirt while your talking 2 her

[Tkay]

Originally posted by MarKus

Hi fella,

 

its quite easy really....you sound like a shy kinda guy....mate she already said that she wants to get to know cos she answered your friends question....she said you looked sweet etc....so you are definatly in there....you can talk about anything.....find out about her more....ask her stuff....its easy when you know how!!....dont just go ahead and flirt yet....cos you havnt properly talked to her.....flirt while your talking 2 her

 

I think it won't be a problem in real life. It's just on msn that I act like a fool.. I hope..

anyway.. I'll try to talk to her more on MSN, so it isn't such a problem in real life... argh I'm already thinking about what I'm going to say or tell..

[MarKus]

Originally posted by Tkay

I think it won't be a problem in real life. It's just on msn that I act like a fool.. I hope..

anyway.. I'll try to talk to her more on MSN, so it isn't such a problem in real life... argh I'm already thinking about what I'm going to say or tell..

 

 

i would have thought that it would have been easier on MSN....oh well

[Tkay]

Originally posted by MarKus

i would have thought that it would have been easier on MSN....oh well

normally its easier on msn yes.. but not when I actually don't know the girl very well and stuff

[miekoveli]

Originally posted by Tkay

ohyeah btw .. someone happen to know any good ideas to "flirt" or make a move in an amusement park (u know rollercoasters and stuff)

 

 

If you really want this girl..

Try using Cocky&Funny

Girls like it when you make them laugh..

Try making fun of her, while being funny

 

Using C&F would truelly raise your attraction to this girl..^_^!

[Tkay]

Originally posted by miekoveli

If you really want this girl..

Try using Cocky&Funny

Girls like it when you make them laugh..

Try making fun of her, while being funny

 

Using C&F would truelly raise your attraction to this girl..^_^!

 

ahhhh feck, thats what im not good at

[miekoveli]

Originally posted by Tkay

ahhhh feck, thats what im not good at

 

Well then be yourself...lol

By this time, she's probabbly going think you're hiding something,

and this ofcourse leads to insecurity and unpleasent moments

 

To start off, just tease her about anything..

Try searching for some lines on what to say..

try using Google or any search engine..

those lines would sure increse your confident on talking to girls.

 

Oh yeeah! don't use Pick-up lines, they just won't work.

[Tkay]

Originally posted by miekoveli

Well then be yourself...lol

By this time, she's probabbly going think you're hiding something,

and this ofcourse leads to insecurity and unpleasent moments

 

To start off, just tease her about anything..

Try searching for some lines on what to say..

try using Google or any search engine..

those lines would sure increse your confident on talking to girls.

 

Oh yeeah! don't use Pick-up lines, they just won't work.

ARGH! You're freaking me out

Google? been there, done that.. can't find anything usefull

 

she's online atm .. but i'm like always on "away" mode. I don't know what to say

I just know it will be something like

"hey..... how are you.... uhu........................bye"

[miekoveli]

Originally posted by Tkay

ARGH! You're freaking me out

Google? been there, done that.. can't find anything usefull

 

she's online atm .. but i'm like always on "away" mode. I don't know what to say

I just know it will be something like

"hey..... how are you.... uhu........................bye"

 

You're acting like.. what David DeAngelo calls it... A WUSSIE.. lol

dont feel bad thought..

 

Remember when i said to Use Cocky&Funny.. Well use it..

when you say you dont got anything to say.. thats just lame..

Try making a funny comment then ask her something about her..

and so on..

And quit being on "away" mode.. that just lower the risk of you learning new about her.

 

I also believe you dont have enough Confident

remember girls like it when you make them laugh.. thats just it..

Attraction to girl = funny, intellegent, secure, Confident..

[Tkay]

Originally posted by miekoveli

You're acting like.. what David DeAngelo calls it... A WUSSIE.. lol

dont feel bad thought..

 

Remember when i said to Use Cocky&Funny.. Well use it..

when you say you dont got anything to say.. thats just lame..

Try making a funny comment then ask her something about her..

and so on..

And quit being on "away" mode.. that just lower the risk of you learning new about her.

 

I also believe you dont have enough Confident

remember girls like it when you make them laugh.. thats just it..

Attraction to girl = funny, intellegent, secure, Confident..

 

Ofcourse, now when she's offline, I regret not saying anything to her.

I went online but she didnt say anything so i went offline again lol

yes, I'm a fckin wussie.

I Do have confidence, but then IRL. I really feel like i'm ****ing this up. hard.

 

ARGH! she's online again. I really think i should wait before i met her irl to start making real contact

[miekoveli]

Originally posted by Tkay

ARGH! she's online again. I really think i should wait before i met her irl to start making real contact

 

Well i guess, isntant messaging is not for you..

If you said your ok with her in talking in person..

then drop the whole msn thing..

 

But Use msn to your advantage thought.. When she's online try asking her out for dates, how she feel's ect...

 

but i alwast felt there's not really a problem with instant messeging..

How does she know your tone of voice when you're typing something?

It's totally diffrent..

Consider talking to her by the phone...

[Tkay]

Originally posted by miekoveli

Well i guess, isntant messaging is not for you..

If you said your ok with her in talking in person..

then drop the whole msn thing..

 

But Use msn to your advantage thought.. When she's online try asking her out for dates, how she feel's ect...

 

but i alwast felt there's not really a problem with instant messeging..

How does she know your tone of voice when you're typing something?

It's totally diffrent..

Consider talking to her by the phone...

I haven't met her irl yet. We're seeing eachother next week. I just know I'm better in real life in this situation.

I can talk alott on msn, i think its very easy, except if i don't know the person good AND i like her.

so normally i can say anything just plain bull**** but not in this situation since i don't know how she is yet.

[miekoveli]

Well your move is to ask alot of questions!!

ask away, all you can think

if you say she likes you, then try to persuid her

but dont chase her.. lol

let the chasing for her

 

now if you want a serious relationship, just after you went out for fun.. tell her how you feel.

have confident. girls like that too if she feels the same then your good to go

[Rocco5]

Simple question (sorry if i'm a little off topic). Actually make that two. How do you know if a girl likes you or not? I've had a crush on this girl for 3 years. Last year we used to talk a lot but over the summer we never saw each other and when we came back it's like we're strangers. I have a feeling she knows I like her, but I can't tell if she likes me back. I always find us looking at each other and she watches me out of the corner of her eye. I don't know if she's freaked out by me or not. I've told people at work and they've just laughed at me saying she likes me(but I'm kinda hard on myself and won't believe it) Pretty pathetic really...

 

The thing is, I've sorta gotten used to the same old pattern. Crush on a girl, she either moves away/ gets a boyfriend, repeat. I'm used to the fact that the girl isn't going to go out w/ me and some guy is gonna get to her before I do. But something's different about her, I want to make a move but I'm too scared of rejection. I think time's running out and I don't know what move to make #1 to start talking to her and #2 whether there's a chance she likes me. If we like each other, I think we're both playing the same game, wait for the other person to make their move. Please help me out here... I've never gone to this measure for advice before. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!

[Devildog]

And so you drug up a year old thread to post this? Why not just start a new thread of your own?

 

What exactly is it about rejection that you fear so much? Will your life be different or worse off if you ask and she says no? You don't have her now, so what is different if you ask and she says no?

 

But what if she says yes?

 

The pattern you mention is caused by the fact that you don't make a move. A girl might like you, but that isn't enough for her to wait until you are both in your 60s to have the courage to ask her out. You want to break that pattern you have come to expect, then make a move.

 

I just got divorced after 5 1/2 years of marriage, total of 7 years in the relationship. Been out of the game for a long time. You want to talk about fear? But guess what. I have a lunch date with an old spark next week. Hadn't seen this woman in about 2 or 3 years. I didn't know what her status was, but I knew she had alot of the qualities I look for in a relationship. So I called her, and asked her out. If I hadn't I would have always wondered what if? Now I don't have that problem.

 

So bite the bullet and ask her out.